An accidentally revealed secret

Hello everyone! This is my first thread on Zity. So, forgive me if this opening message seems too long. I just wanted to share all the details of this amazing story.

So, it happened when I was in middle school, in the ninth grade (for those unfamiliar with the Russian school system, that's the grade for teenagers aged 14 or 15 to 15 or 16). At the time, two things defined me: I already had a medical fetish centered around the human butt (enemas, rectal temperatures, suppositories and the like), and I already knew what pubertal hypersexuality was. In other words, I was already eyeing my female classmates, most of whom already had fully formed female figures. And I was already fantasizing about some of them, including my "specific interests".

One such classmate was a girl named Anastasia, or Nastya for short. She lived with her mother (her father left their family) and was the only daughter for her mother. Besides, at the time, I (and not only I) knew one important fact about Nastya - her periods were very painful. You might be wondering, how could I have known this? I don't remember exactly, but most likely Nastya shared this with her friends, and they might have then spread the word to other students. Either way, Nastya would miss school for one or two days every month, and the teacher would always tell us she was sick. And many knew exactly what she was "sick with." I even felt a little sorry for her (I generally feel sorry for women who are forced to endure serious pain because of this characteristic of their gender).

Everything would have been fine, but one day my mom suddenly told me that she'd found Nastya's mother on one of the women's online forums. You know, those forums where women discuss all sorts of things, from dresses and nail polish to health issues, including women's health. She also mentioned that Nastya's mother was registered on the forum under her real name (I honestly don't remember why we even discussed this. It must have come up in the context of some random conversation). But what I do remember is that I decided to find the forum and Nastya's mother's profile on it. I don't know why, I just had nothing better to do.

I found the forum, found her profile. She even used her real photo as her avatar. And I saw the threads she'd written in. Among them was a topic about teenage girls' periods! My interest was starting to pique, but when I finally went to read the topic, I nearly passed out. Among other discussions, Nastya's mother was discussing with her forum friends that her daughter was experiencing severe pain during her periods (she didn't mention her name, but I knew Nastya was her only daughter, and that she was definitely the one being discussed). Finally, she revealed something incredible: the only remedy that helps her daughter cope with her period pain is painkiller rectal suppositories! She said that they have to be used several times a day and that she even inserts the suppositories into Nastya's bottom herself!

I was simply shocked. Shocked by the intimate secret about Nastya's life that had become completely accidentally revealed to me. Especially in light of my fascination with medical fetishism - I simply couldn't believe my eyes! Just imagine: it's one thing to fantasize about something, to look at a young girl's firm butt and imagine her having her RT measured or suppositories inserted, but at the same time, to realize that this is just your own fantasy. But it's quite another thing when you know that this is actually happening!

From then on, all I could do was imagine what kind of treatment Nastya was receiving every time the teacher said she was sick and wouldn't come to school today. How Nastya shaking with fear in her bed, hearing her mother say: "Honey, let's give you a suppository! Take off your panties!". I also fantasized about going up to her between classes, gently patted her buttock and asked: "Well, how did that go?" (Forgive me, I'm a real scoundrel!) Fortunately (or unfortunately?) Nastya's mother didn't write in what position exactly she inserts suppositories into her daughter's butt, but I always imagined it was OTK (even though it was unlikely), since I considered and still consider this position the most erotic and exciting when performing any manipulations with a woman's butt.

Of course, I never told anyone about Nastya's secret. Well, I didn't have anyone to talk to, and I certainly didn't have any fetish friends. But for me personally, having this information was a real pleasure. If you know what I mean!

Now, seriously. I think Nastya's mother's actions were quite irresponsible. You should think twice before sharing intimate details about your child (especially a minor!) online when you're NOT maintaining anonymity. Their friends (or worse, "non-friends") could easily find out and use this information against them as compromising evidence or even bullying.

What do you think about this? Have you ever accidentally learned such intimate medical secrets about your friends and acquaintances, when they clearly didn't want you to know?

I think it's unconscionable to reveal anything that intimate about anyone other than yourself. Even if the suppository part weren't in there, it's wrong to share in an identifiable way that your classmate had difficult periods. The only person who should be sharing that--or not sharing it, her choice--is Nastya.

@PinotNoir Are you implying that I unceremoniously revealed this girl's intimate secret? I apologize, but no one will be able to tell who I'm talking about after reading my story. Anonymity maintained. After all, this site is full of threads in which anonymous participants share memories of intimate incidents (for example, about medical treatments) from the lives of their friends, siblings, or even children, clearly without the latter's consent to share this information. No one blames them for it.

Her mother is the guilty party here. I presume you never told anyone who knows her, because I try to think the best of people.

@PinotNoir I'm sorry, I misunderstood your comment and thought you were blaming me. Of course not, I never told anyone about it.

And it's nice to realize my assumption you're a decent person has turned out to be correct!

Mothers always comment on their children's treatments with suppositories. I heard my mother telling friends, neighbors or family members whenever one of the children was using suppositories. This is something common among mothers, although embarrassing.

One must be weird in the head to discuss personal health details on forums under one's real name.

@Jacana Any women's forum has these discussions. The use of suppository for cramps is also very common and indicated among women.

@Anne20 *under one's real name*

I don't know if they use their real name.

@Jacana She wasn't writing about her own problems, but about her daughter's. And she apparently decided that since she wasn't naming her daughter, everything was fine. And she didn't care that it might be read by people who knew her, and therefore knew her daughter. Apparently, not everyone is a logical person…

As a young boy growing up we still had what was called a party line telephone. It was shared by several families. If someone was using it you would wait till they were done. Sometimes if you were quiet you could listen in on someone's conversation. I recall my mom doing this one evening. The conversation was about a neighbor girl that had a bed wetting problem. They talked about rubber sheets and maybe using diapers. It was not to hard to figure out who it might be. Because even that you did not surely know who was on the party line it was someone in the area. I had a particular interest in the conversation because I was still wetting the bed too. I found it exciting that my mom told me about what she heard. To this day I wonder if it was the girl I think it was?

Some years ago, I applied for a new job and they offered me income protection insurance, as part of the package. Very sensible. Very adult. All they needed was my medical history and a letter from my doctor. I handed it over, to the insurer assuming it would stay tucked away in some confidential corner of the universe.

Then the insurance company sent a letter to my brand new employer and copied me in to verify that my policy application was accepted.

To my absolute horror, they had included my entire medical history. Every detail. Every awkward note. Gift‑wrapped and delivered straight to HR.

I walked into the HR manager’s office, trying to look composed while silently dying inside, and asked her to destroy the file immediately. She did, thankfully, though her eyebrows had quite the adventure.

Then came the call to the insurance company. They were mortified. I was mortified. It was a mutual‑mortification event.

So yes, an embarrassing secret about me has definitely been revealed. Courtesy of an insurance company who apparently believed in radical transparency.

Without fail, my mother would always telephone my aunt and my grandmother every time she gave me a suppository. She would describe how she’d make me retain the suppository “until it worked” despite my fussing, crying, and begging to use the toilet. Overhearing her side of these conversations left me feeling angry and humiliated all over again.

@anne20: Mothers always comment on their children's treatments with suppositories. I heard my mother telling friends, neighbors or family members whenever one of the children was using suppositories. This is something common among mothers, although embarrassing.

When growing up what you describe here was very common. If my sisters or I got an enema my mom would tell about it to all of her friends, many of whom were the parents of our friends. It worked the same in reverse because whenever mom's friends gave their kids enemas our mom got all the lucid details. When mom was on the phone we only got half the conversation but clearly enough to know what had transpired. The kids would try to not acknowledge having such information as if there was a silent oath that we had taken swearing us to secrecy. I think the girls were a little more open, but not much.