@Valhalla
You are in the Bay Area, no?
Involved in the goth scene at all, there?
The Fetish and Goth scene have tended to overlap since the 1990s. It’s strange to see the differences between then and now, and what is considered to be acceptable or tolerable now that wasn’t to us from the 1st Generation…
But I could fix that problem of never having experienced someone else giving you one… Whether personally or hooking you up with someone else who could. It’s a pretty uncommon thing, and still a torment to bring-up with any potentially intimate partners. I’ve been hideously lucky in that regard, in that having once been a sort of celebrity it was one of those “Common Knowledge” sorts of things about me that other’s would whisper to anyone who expressed an interest “OMG! Have you heard what he is into???” Ironically a couple of my exes did this as a favor, as they could sell the “perversion” as “You have GOT to try it!” But whether they were attempting to paint me as some shameless pervert, or steer the curious and interested toward me, the effect was pretty-much the same… Only those who who were “willing to find out” tended to actually approach me… I haven’t had anyone regret ever doing so.
But… Here’s hoping you get to experience that, regardless of how. The experience of having someone you share that with has always been so much more than just being “physically intimate/sexual” with another. The first “Relationships” I ever had involved giving each other enemas (among other things), and even though we drifted apart, due to being so young when that started, and their both being married (a guy and a girl) they are still people with whom I have connections that others find impenetrable, unless they share the same sort of thing (which I can now count on the fingers of one hand, sadly, when it used to require those and the toes of more than one person).
So… the question….
The sorts of enemas that were my, and either late-wife’s, girlfriends’, or boyfriend’s, favorites tended to depend upon what we were doing. When doing what was the equivalent of “Cam shows” now, in the late-80s/early-90s, one of the most requested acts from the group we belonged to was to have the “buyer” select one of us to get an enema that was basically thickened lube. While the others fucked him or her, causing the lube enema to begin to run-out of them around whatever they were penetrated with. It was also something that, as the person “filled with lube” you would learn how ti “release” it to maximal effect for both yourself and/or the Cutomer (we had NO SEX with the people paying. THEY WATCHED ONLY). If it was a client known to tip well afterwards if they really liked what happened… Then you learned to time it so the “largest amount of lube” gets “gushed” with substantial force just as your client is getting off (an hopefully everyone else, too — that is a WEIRD SUBJECT, regarding sex work). But I, one other boy, and a girl (whom I dated off-and-on forever back then) were usually the ones selected to get that lube enema. I noticed we each had something about us that was “exceptional” in terms of the people typically doing this kind of work. As a result… we became a lot more experienced than the others at that sort of thing, which we usually would communicate in an “ads.”
But the girl and I, and another boy (who was technically who had the idea, and began doing it with the other guy who tended to get selected as the “person given the lube enema to be fucked by everyone else”), who was kind of my “regular boyfriend” would do this on our own, because IT WAS FUCKING HOT and FELT AWWWEESSSSOOOMMME!!! Technically I think two guys (that I would regularly do this with… Aside from the girl, but it was she and I who brought that to the scenes we were paid to do for people), But the other guy wasn’t a “regular performer.” He was just someone with whom I liked getting together with, because I didn’t have to hide anything from him… Same with the girl….
The prep for that often took two days if you didn’t know to start “getting ready” the week before (last minute scheduling). But we’d have older guys watch us having sex, and doing what they had described they wanted to see (like Cam-girls/boys, now), and sometimes they would pay extra to video it (for which we were lucky to have an ocean of Lawyers in Dallas to help secure NDAs for any Videos — that I am STILL stunned none have broken), where my only regret there is not protecting the copies of them better (they were destroyed in an accident in 1999… No Thanks to you, late-wife). And that was just something we discovered that those who could pay for it paid a LOT MORE FOR, that most of us were willing to do “for the fun of it” outside of “sex work.”
But beyond that the use of enemas for sexual arousal was a bit simpler, and usually just involved giving one while going down on someone, or getting one while someone goes down on me… Sometimes with things added to the solution to make them more “desperate,” where the challenge was “You don’t get to come until you’ve taken and held it all until you DO come.” My boyfriend usually refused that, because he was like “I NEVER get to come if we do that. I don’t know how you manage to do that!!!”
Well, darling D… Just like the saying “How do you get to Carnegie Hall?” …. Practice, D… Practice.