Grief

I dont even know where to begin with this so I'll be blunt. Its been a week and a half since my baby was born and died after 9 hrs from an accident during csection. I dont sleep anymore or when I do it's nightmares. Sonetimes the nightmares are better than reality. Im asking for any help possible, those who experienced similar, suggestions, anything

Like your friends on Zity, I can only sympathize with your pain. Do you have a partner who is physically close to you to comfort you as well ?

I am so very sorry about your loss. All I can offer is a long distance hug from many miles away. Al.

My deepest condolences to you! Losing a child is the worst thing that can happen in the world.

I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers reach out to you.

I can only imagine how hard this is for you. My hope is that someone who has experienced what you have gone through can offer some real advice for dealing with your loss.

I'm so very sorry to hear this. Please know we're mourning your baby, too. And that those of us who have experienced great loss know that while you will never fully recover, you will be happy again. It takes time, but I promise it will come.

Your doctor can help you with meds that will let you get some rest. Your body needs it both to recover from what it's been through and to process the trauma of your loss. I would presume the doctor doesn't need to see you and will call in a prescription for you once they know of the need. You'll feel a little more like yourself with sufficient sleep.

Taking care of yourself is important. Make sure that in addition to sleep, you eat and stay hydrated. If you're supposed to be up and about, do it, even if it's just walking around inside. It can also help to talk to friends or family or see a counselor to help you through this.

Meantime, can I give you a long hug?

So sorry for your loss😔, hugs and get counseling.

So sorry for your loss. I don't think there can be anything worse than the loss of a child, especially for a mother.

Grief is a difficult thing to work through, and we all do it in our own way.

Definitely get counselling and hopefully you have lots of support from family and friends.

I can't say it gets better with time passing, but it gets easier to handle.

Big hugs.

Jim.

@Twitch90 I'm so very sorry for your loss. You have my deepest condolences.

So sorry for you loss…. Know that we all here are thinking of you…. And to provide support where we are able…

I could go on and on about my losses but that wont help you a darn bit @Twitch90 . All you can do is help yourself. If it is available to you, call a distress centre. Talking out your problems can help a great deal. Get in touch with your Doctor they may be able to set you up with a counsellor to help get you back on track. The feeling of loss may never go away; mine has not You just will have to find ways of accepting it and going on with your life. It is part of your psyche now. I can run them all through my mind's eye like a high-speed recording anytime. It is not something that can be swept under the rug. This is where having someone or a group to talk with can help so much. We can not change the past or undo things we have done or raise the dead. All we can do is move forward, Get some help to do this. Someone patting your back, enabling you to feel sorry for yourself, is not the help you need right now. It does not help even if it feels good. Get off your arse, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and get on with your life. Step one drink some water, eat something, force yourself if you have to, then get on the phone and get some help to move forward.

@Twitch90 Please accept my most sincere condolences for your loss. As others have indicated, counseling may be the way to move forward.

@Twitch90 I extend my most sincere condolences and my greatest hope for you to find peace and consolation. A mother losing a child has to one of the greatest trials in life. I so wish there were a way to wave a magic wand and make everything better.

Please know that so many of us here on Zity send our love, hugs, and hopes for you.

Please see a professional grief counselor. Licensed mental health professionals are the most appropriate. The hospital may already have a referral list as well. Don't be embarrassed to do so. You're not sick or abnormal. Grief is the consequence of loss and can be processed. I am truly sorry for your loss and what it represents.

Hi @Twitch90, It’s great that you’re reaching out for support. It makes sense that you’re in distress. Losing a child is traumatic, especially so unexpectedly.

I’ll echo others. Could it be worth it to consider talking to a professional? You deserve the option to talk with someone who has experience supporting people grieving the loss of a child during the birthing process and who can also connect you to others with similar experiences.

If lack of insurance or underinsurance is a concern, there are likely sliding scale and/or pro bono/free services available. Your care team would be able to point you in the right direction. I’m sure they’d be happy to help you connect.

As someone who’s gone through unrelated difficult times, I’ve found it can be really helpful to have someone to talk to who understands and knows how to help.

Sending my deepest sympathy. 🌹

Twitch 90 !! - i am also very doleful, to read from your loss, and will pronounce my heartly condolence !! - may your baby rest in heavently peace !!

God will bless you and also your family !!

@Twitch90 said, "I dont even know where to begin with this so I'll be blunt. Its been a week and a half since my baby was born and died after 9 hrs from an accident during csection. I dont sleep anymore or when I do it's nightmares. Sonetimes the nightmares are better than reality. Im asking for any help possible, those who experienced similar, suggestions, anything."

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Oh, my dear, my heart aches for you. I am so sorry for your loss. And I feel that your pain and suffering is greater because your little one died due to an accident during the c-section. An accident could have or should have been avoided and that must play over and over in your mind. If only the surgeon had done this or if only the nurse had noticed that, then it would all be different. I can only imagine the ache in your heart. I am so sorry.

Do you have close family members or close friends giving you some support, maybe just so you can talk about things. I have found that with the loss of my loved ones, it has helped to just talk about it, to share feelings, and sometimes, even to vent a little...or a lot.

I'm coming across your post four months after you posted it. I hope that time has at least reduced some of the ache, although I think that it never goes away completely in this life.

Here on Zity, we are in a virtual world, and even if we don’t know you personally, we can still send our love, hugs, and hopes to you, and pray that you will feel them and you will know that many others out here care. I’m sure I’m not the only one who would be happy to chat sometime, if you want to share. Kind thoughts coming your way...

How are you doing @Twitch90 ?

I'm so sorry for your tragic loss. Unfortunately the only relief can come with time. No one deserves this pain. Honor your child and feel the grief. Try to find happiness and joy in life even while you heal. You will never forget, and there will always be pain, but it will get better. My best thoughts are with you.