Nonsense on the forum

Hi! I hope everyone reading this is doing well in life and that it will continue to do so. I'm 28 years old. I'm a guy. I registered about three months ago. I'm still exploring the forum, and I've managed to chat with a few people and learn a few new things. But very often I come across some kind of garbage. Spam. Nonsense that is being discussed. I don't want to give examples of discussions so as not to offend anyone, but sometimes, scrolling through the discussions and seeing topics, I think: “My God. What is this? Are people seriously discussing this?” And I feel kind of ashamed when I go into a discussion and read all this… Maybe the problem is that I'm very young and don't understand a lot of things… Well, tell me that I'm not the only one who sees a topic title or a question and thinks: “Hmm. That's kind of awkward.” Thank you. No negativity.

@brett720

If you like it, it is erotic. If you don't it is kinky. I see stuff that seems totally twisted to me and have to remind myself that others view my kink as totally twisted. Some things on Zity I find interesting just to see the range of human sexual interests not because I find them to be erotic. Some things I see and think "That is fucked up". Enjoy what you like and skip over what you don't. Zity is a place where you can be you and not get harassed for it. Ya got to let others be who they are.

@TheOtherCecil you found the right words, nothing more to say!

@brett720 - As moderators, we remove nonsense on a regular basis, but you will have to directly reference a few of those discussions you object to if your comments here are to have any meaning at all.

Obviously any references you make to specific threads won't automatically mean they are removed - as we aren't obliged to agree with you - but if we are given some specific examples of what you are talking about, at least we can make some kind of judgment.

As others have basically said, the general idea is that if you aren't interested in something, ignore it and look at something else. As long as the things you don't like still comply with the site rules, they might legitimately have more appeal to others if not yourself.

But very often I come across some kind of garbage. Spam. Nonsense that is being discussed. I don't want to give examples of discussions so as not to offend anyone, but sometimes, scrolling through the discussions and seeing topics, I think: “My God. What is this?

Regarding spam, meaning goods or services offered for payment that sound dodgy, they are removed by default. As soon as it becomes apparent someone is here to sell something, bam, removed and the person doing so is usually banned as well. In fact, even if they are not really trying to scam people, anyone trying to (more or less honestly) sell things or promote a business, the comments/posts will be removed and they will be banned.

So, I wouldn't worry about that. Spam is not tolerated at all.

As for nonsense and garbage, it all depends on what your definition is. It sounds as if you are referring to things that shock you or think are repellent or not suitable for conversation. Well, as others have already said, just think 'it takes all kinds' or something along the lines of 'there are more things under heaven and earth ...' and scroll on to other subjects.

You have no idea how many comments are removed because they are garbage in the sense of being hateful or political.

If you want to see an example of nonsense that is NOT removed, go to Quora. Thankfully, the moderators or doing a great job of this. And at 28, It's quite possible that you still have a lot to learn regarding the topics here on zity.

@DanMichMan I agree with you. In Quora's early years, it had such promise. But Quora became a total waste of time. And it is because Quora is poorly moderated, if it is moderated at all.

There are a lot of different kinks here, many I don’t share and a few I find icky. Live and let live I say.

Not sure if you meant this or not, but I believe at least a decent minority of alleged true experiences, aren’t. There’s a bit of creative writing in some of these threads and some people posting fiction as fact. The more obvious stuff gets caught by the mods, but they have a delicate balance to maintain to keep the site interesting and entertaining while culling the obvious ‘yah, no that didn’t happen’ posts.

Have to say I think the mods do a good job but report specific threads to them to help out.

@brett720 I have been here 18 years. Occasionally I read post that I know are fantasy. I merely pass over them and take the good with the bad. There are a zillion kinks and need less to say I don't like them all but I merely skip over them.

For the most part this is an excellent forums and well moderated

I look forward to reading some of your post.

When I see a post like "I got 6 qts and held it for 30 minutes.", or some other ridiculous claim, I just note the sender as a phony baloney, and think, "He/She must think we're idiots!" When I run across their name in "Recent Unseen", I usually look just to see what sort of BS they posted this time.

@Soapy4me i tend to skip the enema forums as it’s not my thing but I’ve seen examples of what you’re talking about. I’ve seen posts of people who are talking about serious edge play like it’s nothing, using rigid sigmoidoscopes or other deep anal penetration toys with what reads like minimal experience. I’m just concerned newbies to MedFet etc will think that’s they way they’re supposed to be playing or that it’s OK. It’s not.

Undoubtedly there are some members who want to appear to be more 'accomplished' or more 'extreme', more 'hardcore' than others. This can be an issue with safety, and as we can't possibly spot everything ourselves, it might help us as moderators if members with the practical expertise in these areas inform us of these problems when they are seen. It's all very well members just dismissing the claims of others and doing nothing about them, but that doesn't help us remove the problematic content.

@Nurse_Phillips - Yes, the real danger lies in the fact that some newbies, unlike the originator of this thread,, may not recognize the the BS claims and try them, causing injury or even death.

Have to say I think the mods do a good job but report specific threads to them to help out.

Yes @Countrydr , members reporting issues or concerns from the forum is better than ignoring or commenting about it. A report will get it seen and acted on faster. Be sure to be specific with your concern or the issue when you report anything or anyone. Moderators are not mind readers and do not want to assume anything.

Difficult to say whether the Mods are doing a great job or not....as I never see (that I know of) the comments or threads that are removed. I can say that, based on my experience (yes, I have had a post or two either removed or moved elsewhere) that they are being quite reasonable. And given the fact that they are doing this on their own time, etc, they do indeed deserve a pat on the back. Matters relating to safety, etc. certainly seem to be deleted quickly as I have seldom seen anything other than some posts that are questionable and should probably contain some note of caution. I think that Mods do a great job at removing them!

Bottom line, while all of the posts below are reasonable and pretty much on target, I do appreciate the work the Mods are doing and the administrative oversight and attention that Zity gets to keep it a reasonable, functional and INTERESTING board! Thanks to everyone who is contributing to this,,,Mod or member!!

Difficult to say whether the Mods are doing a great job or not....as I never see (that I know of) the comments or threads that are removed.

I suppose you have to judge by what you don't see, things like angry or hateful flame wars, members making accusations, insults, members trying to push politics or religion ... stuff like that. Those kind of posts are the death knell of forums. Things get out of hand, there is escalation, members start leaving.

I can confirm that inexperienced members at any fetish site can and do imitate what they see posted, sometimes to dangerous results. I heard from someone who'd read one of my short stories at another site (which no longer exists).

It was set in medieval Europe. I did a good bit of research on clothing, the structure of towns, torture in the name of the church, agriculture, and more. I learned that root vegetables were what farmers would be growing locally and that many veggies were once substantially smaller than they are now.

Turnips, for instance, were the size of present-day radishes. Long after this story was set, people started fooling around with crossbreeding crops for desired traits like resistance to rot and size, leading to present-day turnips, which range from the size of a large plum to a peach.

At one point the main character endures a turnip thrust where the sun don't shine. This would be a radish-sized turnip, unlikely to do a great deal of damage. (And in the story, it didn't.)

Naturally, this reader who thought the whole scene was hot bought himself a turnip. It took a good bit of lube and effort, and I think some alcohol, but he succeeded.

Uncooked turnips are hard, denser than a raw potato or apple. He could not get the turnip out and ended up in the ER. He contacted me with the oddest combination of fan letter and warning...

So yeah, if the mods would like us to flag the posts saying "I did X" when X seems both unlikely and unsafe, sure, we'd be happy to.