Premarital exam for a virgin

Hypothetical situation, yet plausible and I'm guessing it has happened. Let's say a woman who is engaged wanted to remain a virgin until her wedding night. But she has opted to have a complete gynecological examination prior to the wedding and it was performed by a male physician. How would a man feel about another man, albeit a medical professional, having such intimate access to his future wife's body when he hasn't even seen her naked yet? The doctor would be the first man to see her nude and with her legs spread in such an exposed fashion, the first to insert a finger in her vagina and her rectum, the first to spread her vaginal lips for inspection, the first to run his bare hands over her breasts. Just wondering if anyone here has experienced this and how they felt about it.

I think that it doesn't matter, or shouldn't. Seeing a physician to make sure you're okay for sex after your wedding is completely different from another man seeing you naked, because physicians take great care not to be sexual with their patients. In the days when many women saved themselves, such visits were the norm.

I know you're asking men how they'd feel, but as someone who's been in the stirrups more times than I can count, I think your idea of what a gynecological exam is like, including the atmosphere, may be skewed.

Having married 4 women who had given birth before they married me, I can hardly see the relevance. I think most women these days have had their legs spread by doctors long before their significant others have had the pleasure. That being said, I'm sure there are some that their SOs are the first to have that pleasure.

The point is, if you're going to worry about a medical person seeing your lady's bits before you I think you need to be more realistic.

I knew a guy in HS who was seriously obsessed with the fact his GF wasn’t a virgin when they got together. Like he would bring it up all the time. She eventually dumped him and I was completely on her side. I’m sure there are guys who have an issue with a doctor seeing her first. For them I remind that she’s a person not a possession.

The question has a strong passé vibe.

Considering some of the most religious people I know say that medical situations do not follow rules of modesty I do not think the man would matter. The doctor isn't having an intimate moment with her he is examining her.

@Nurse Phillips like your answer

If a guy were to get upset over that, it would be a red flag. That level of control and entitlement belongs to a miondset of dangerous, abusive men.

Thankfully, the vast majority of men in America would not care. Also, if they are abstinent until marriage, I don't think they'd know that much about sexual health anyway

If a guy were to get upset over that, it would be a red flag. That level of control and entitlement belongs to a miondset of dangerous, abusive men.

That’s true, or possibly on the other side of the coin very insecure, possessive and selfish. Maybe that’s the same as what @Nixie is implying.

There must have therefore been a lot of jealous husbands of noble blood over the centuries. It was quite customary prior to a marriage of people born into nobility and destined to inherit power or significant possessions, to be examined prior to the marriage to ensure virginity, keeping lines of succession and inheritance clear for all to know.

As an aside this might also be important in historical judicial proceedings. Think of poor Jehanne d'Arc, though it must be said virginity examinations were also conducted by nuns at times.

Sounds like a good story outline

First, we must consider the initial hypothesis: a woman engaged to marriage, wishing to remain a virgin until her wedding night, chooses to undergo a complete gynecological examination before the wedding. Furthermore, she decides to consult a male doctor.

From this, we can assume that her future husband is, in principle, in agreement with her and, unless he is very naive, has some idea of ​​what the doctor will see. There is no indication that, even if no sexual relations have been consummated, the fiancée hasn't revealed all her intimate details to the young man.

We can then question the motivation for the complete gynecological examination. In France, gynecological care is generally considered to begin (except in cases of specific medical conditions) at the same time as sexual activity. A premarital consultation does not necessarily involve invasive procedures, and beyond routine checkups, the focus should primarily be on contraception, any desire for children, and planning for follow-up visits. What would be the point of performing a rectal and vaginal examination that would deflower the fiancée who desires to remain a virgin?

Not the sensible kind of answer most people are looking for here... lol