Does our enema fetish make any of us worse partners with when making love to someone not into enemas?

I have always been an ass man! My wife knows of my fetish for enemas and she has taken a few from me, but it is not a big turn on for her. She kids me whenever someone with a cute ass passes when we are out together. During sex with her, I often fantisize about enema porn to increase my arousal and penis size. Often too, I think about women I have known own over the years who received enemas (not sexual) and shared the information with me. As much as I do enjoy doing sixty nine with her, my tongue on her clit and and eyes on her anus but often my mind is on some remembered enema story from years ago. Anyone else out there worry a little bit about this? Could our sex partners, both straight, gay, or in between know how much this is going on ?

I don’t personally fantasize about enemas while having sex but we can’t control our fantasies.

As I never had a partner who found enemas to be erotic, this never was an issue. For what it’s worth, erotic enemas were a solo endeavor, with the enema taking the role of the sex partner.

I’ve followed the advice of C,S,N&Y; when you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with.

No it does not.

I sometimes fantasize about enemas while having sex with @liquidsky. But he’s also my enemate. And I suspect he also fantasizes about enemas while having sex with me.

That sounds like an uncomfortable predicament, and I think I’d also feel some guilt if that happened to me beyond my control.

Sex not involving enemas doesn’t land for me as “less than,” although I appreciate that I’m unusual even among klismaphiles in that medically necessary enemas are much more arousing to me. When I need an enema, sex is the last thing on my mind.

However, sex after a successful enema of any stripe can be fantastic, so in that sense my need for enemas can enhance lovemaking even though my husband isn’t involved in the enema at all. I’ve been fairly transparent with him about this facet and explained that not only do they help me with IBS, they happen to bring a lot of blood flow to sensitive areas.

I do wish my husband had an interest in administering to me and the caregiving traits that would make that enjoyable, and I of course have a curiosity about what our bedroom life could be if that were different. Yet that doesn’t affect my ability to be mentally present during the other things we do, and I prefer to be in the moment rather than distant in an unrelated fantasy.

There’s nothing wrong with fantasizing—I have a large and growing gem case of those—I just prefer to save it for other times and am glad thus far that those fantasies have not been intrusive. But I appreciate that this aspect of my wiring is just luck.

Well I'm a trans girl who almost exclusively dates trans girls so most of my partners took enemas before bottoming.

I've never been shy about liking enemas, but not every partner has wanted to indulge that intrest.

Never negatively impacted my sex life.

I experienced sex in all..or most... of its facets, enemas have always been a way to prepare for anal sex, but had many partners, male or female, that did not like it as foreplay, others that were enthusiast. With my wife it became kind of an automatism when we went in that direction. As it requires some planning ahead, not always we were able to include it in our sessions. So, enemas are very exciting if both partners enjoy them, if not I would not let that hinder a nice passionate moment...

When I first met my wife in college, she wasn’t exactly into enemas. However, her OB/GYN having prescribed enemas for occasionally cramps and constipation during her period. Followed his advice, even though she didn’t particularly like enemas, relieving both cramps and constipation. Hence, she only used enemas when absolutely necessary.

Fast forward a year, when she and my sister shared an apartment. Shortly after moving in together, one Friday evening, she came in feeling like she was coming down with the flu and mentioned it to my sister. My sister suggested, a couple of enemas would help her feel better. At first, she refused my sisters suggestion. Not being one to take no for an answer, she talked her into giving it a try. After a soapy followed by a rinse enema that evening, my future wife felt a lot better. The next evening, my sister suggested another couple of enemas would be a good idea. Then asked my girlfriend, having just started her period, if she would return the favor and give her a couple of enemas. Judging from her experience the previous evening, my girlfriend agreed. Once they finished giving each other a couple of enemas. They discussed how they were going to handle things going forward, and decided to continue, because it worked for both of them. Over the next year, giving one another enemas when needed, my girlfriends attitude towards enemas had totally changed. Learning they were not only pleasurable but turned her on sexually.

My wife and I were very much into anal sex, anal play. For whatever reason, my wife was very adverse to enemas, even suggesting one as prep for anal or the idea of sharing or giving. Did it effect our sex life - absolutely not! It would have been another nice aspect I would have enjoyed, but not if she was not enjoying it as well.

When I was dating a virgin in my youth and she masturbated me, I often fantasized about giving her an enema. This fantasy made me cum faster. We didn't have sex because we were very young, so an enema was out of the question at the time, as she simply wouldn't have understood. However, it didn't interfere with or affect my sex life in any way, nor did it affect my other partners.

@Sweetest_Relief I wish I could give you two "likes" to your #6 here.

I have commented elsewhere that an enema erection was much more significant, in the absence of Viagra or Cialis, which did not hit the market until I was in my 40's.

My affinity for enemas, coupled with massage and other stimulation, were said to add some "animalistic" tendencies to our lovemaking.

As with age and health challenges that many of us endure, our ability for those previous animalistic sessions are tempered. An enema, or direct prostate stimulation, is still helpful in preparation even though it can seem somewhat selfish.