Does our enema fetish make any of us worse partners with when making love to someone not into enemas?

I have always been an ass man! My wife knows of my fetish for enemas and she has taken a few from me, but it is not a big turn on for her. She kids me whenever someone with a cute ass passes when we are out together. During sex with her, I often fantisize about enema porn to increase my arousal and penis size. Often too, I think about women I have known own over the years who received enemas (not sexual) and shared the information with me. As much as I do enjoy doing sixty nine with her, my tongue on her clit and and eyes on her anus but often my mind is on some remembered enema story from years ago. Anyone else out there worry a little bit about this? Could our sex partners, both straight, gay, or in between know how much this is going on ?