Want to clarify a few things to help everyone out since I’m reading a few misconceptions and interesting takes on hiring a female dominatrix.
Are they worth the money? As some have already said: Depends.
Depends on the pro domme, depends on your expectations, depends on how specific your fantasy. It really all depends on your wants, and just like everything else, you have to be a savvy consumer when shopping for one of these mistresses.
That said, most dominants are just that: in control. They want business from submissives. Subs get off on getting dominated, being out of control, and flying. Looking for a domme to live out your specific fantasy is literally the opposite of this power dynamic, as you the bottom would be controlling the scene, and they would not be dominants, but rather service tops. Most pro dommes do not want to be, nor are they, service tops.
So if you get off on submitting, they will control you, but they’re going to do what THEY, the mistress, wants. They are going to dress the way they desire, and run the scene they wish to create for you, the sub. If you’re not into that, then you’re not even looking for a pro domme, but rather wanting a for-hire service top, and that’s ok. Let’s just be clear about the difference.
Real dommes aren’t going to follow your script, say what you want them to say or dress how you want them to dress, even though you’re paying them, because they are in control. You’re paying them to be in control, not get specifically what YOU the sub, wants. It’s important we understand this nuance.
If you can find a domme that tops the way you like, and engages in the play you enjoy, then all this doesn’t matter because they’ll do their thing, and you’ll love it. You have to actively seek out these types of tops and do your research about what they’re into. Find out how they like to scene.
For example, if you’re into enemas and medfet, grand dames in LA are great. Plus, they’re going to do a brief interview with you and find out what you’re expecting, what you want, what you’ve done before, your limits, etc. They are the exception, not the rule. Eve Minax in SF would also make my short list of mistresses I would recommend.
Ditto for ABDL stuff. You’re better off finding a “mommy”, or “nanny”, or “babysitter”, instead of thinking a pro domme is going to cater to your niche needs. Not likely you’ll get your money’s worth. I’ve been topped by both Eve and others I mentioned in an educational context (didn’t pay) at kink events, and can safely say there are many mistresses totally worth the money. Were I single and looking to play, I’d put their kids through college.