Considering dating again

Hi all 😊

It's been a while since my last proper relationship, and I'm not really into or up for anything casual. However, I'd really like medfet to be a part of the sex life I share with someone.

My last (and only proper) partner and I had a great sex life, and I was gearing up to telling him about my medical fetish and my yearning for him to "examine" me, but I didn't quite get the opportunity to.

I just love the idea of exploring examinations etc in a really safe and loving way, with someone who knows my boundaries but also knows me well enough to know when to push them. The intimacy, I think, would be unmatched.

Anyone got any tips on how I might approach telling the next (and hopefully last!) person I date?

I'd say that your medfet is something you'd ideally need to address as early as possible with your next partner if you're adamant on wanting it to be an integral part of your relationship. Because of its very nature (i.e., it's not a majority of people who has one), medfet could very well constitute a deal breaker for your partner if you bring that up with them at a later moment, once you've both gotten to know—and like!—each other a lot. It's (usually) less hurtful to be disappointed early in a relationship than later on after you've shared many things, so yeah, I'd say that you'd be better off to go all in earlier than later. When discussing your likes and dislikes in terms of sexuality, why not mention your medfet from the get-go and tell your partner how important it is for you?

In any case, best of luck!

I’ve found that people open up more once they feel they won’t be judged, so I try sharing something small about myself first to set the tone. Taking things slow and keeping conversations light at the start helps too. I got better at this after meeting people through sugar dating Taiwan, where honesty early on made things smoother. Sometimes the smallest bit of mutual vulnerability gets the door open.

I think what I might do is get to know them, see if things work between you sexually, and then after having sex a few times ask what other things they might be into or interested in. Then, when they ask you the same, you can say you want to do some role play, and when they ask what sort you can say you want to play doctor. After you see how that goes, suggest (if you’re interested) some more medfet stuff.

Unless you’re directly looking for someone who is currently into medfet, I imagine it’s pretty unlikely they’ll just happen to share your kink. However, I’m sure there are lots of people who are open to exploring together and/or doing it because it turns you on.

I’d say ease into it early if possible, and be open to trying things that they’re interested in as well. Good luck!