How to cum during vanilla sex?

Hi! My current partner is very vanilla and so far we're only been having sex where I top because I'm not really aroused without kink and she is not into kink at all. But she's a switch and she really wants to get me to finish so I was wondering what are some ways that would make it easier to cum during vanilla sex. Are there any supplements or creams that can help and has anyone else had a similar situation? We're tried toys and vibrators but it's still difficult.

Welcome to Zity @pepperinaa . Have you two tried cunnilingus? Maybe a silly question. I have often found with partners who have difficulty coming, a lot of oral attention often works.

How is your communication? Do you tell each other what works for you(besides kink)? How long have you two been together?

Maybe some of the lesbian, or bi ladies on here may have some better insight.

Hope you can work things out.

Communication is essential. Tell her your needs, listen to her concerns and limits. Try some “mild” kink and see if you can build on it. Don’t push too hard or too fast. We found some kink worked for us, others didn’t. Be willing to compromise, but don’t give it up.

I doubt supplements and creams wouldn't help as much as honest discussion about your and her needs.

There are certain dried herbs/flowers and also gummy candies that can help--but they have side effects and aren't available in every country.

Otherwise, you can really lean into your creativity and imagine you're in different circumstances. Some toys are more powerful than others. Have you tried the Melt?

More important, if this is your partner, you should work together to find compromise if you want a fulfilling, monogamous relationship. If you need kink, and she absolutely refuses it, and she needs you to o.... there's not much compatibility.

Is your goal to cum (simultaneously) with this person? Do either of you cum alone without a partner (e.g. do either of you masturbate to orgasm)? Do you both know what sort of external stimulus can bring you to orgasm in the first place? Start there and work from that point if you haven’t already. Half the fun of having a sexual partner (imo) is just figuring out how to please the other person in a way that makes them come undone with your touch and attention - you can work your own kink into the mix (consensually, of course) once you know what gets the other person excited in the first place.

Without knowing your "kink", I can assume you have a fetish. The thing about a true fetish is a person cannot get aroused with out it. As an example, you might think I have a fetish for woman's lingerie and it's true I clearly have an affinity towards it. The difference is, I can have vanilla sex complete with a happy ending with a female with out any clothes. The way I see it, you have two choices. 1. Get help with your fetish or 2. Tell her about your fetish and incorporate in with your sex. Just MHO.