Ladies: when and how did you learn about sexual intercourse?

Hello ladies:

I’m curious to know how you reacted when you learned about the concept of sexual intercourse (the idea a man may insert his penis into the special space between your legs). Was this also the time you learned about your vagina’s function about creating and giving birth to babies?

Did you learn this in a sex education class at school or from a person or some other way?

Were you scared at this thought, excited, curious?

I learned about intercourse from the encyclopedia when I was 11. I was totally shocked that my penis would one day be used in another way other than peeing. I admit being scared at the thought of putting it inside a woman not even fully understanding or even ever seeing this special space!

I learned about where the penis goes from my mum when I was about 9 or 10. When I was growing up we talked a lot about things to do with sex and she told me things when she thought I was old enough to learn about them. So when she told me about penises going into vaginas I was a bit amazed that it was something I would do one day, and I wondered as well how it was supposed to fit inside. lol

I learned from a cousin and then later from a book my mother gave me. Like @Amethyst i was a little shocked that was going to go inside of me. More so when I saw my first erect one.

About age 9 or 10 in 5th grade. I was in a group that gave a presentation on the sexual organs of females and males. I had the male portion. I knew the basics of the mechanics but probably not the real enjoyment one could get from it.

I feel you @Amethyst and @Nurse_Phillips.

From the time I learned about how sex worked, I too didn’t understand how that was going to fit. I think I first learned how sex really worked when I was 9 or 10, and for the first time I was explicitly told that the penis goes inside the vagina.

Talking with friends at school or my siblings or whatever before that, I thought sex must have just been more of a naked cuddle… But inside? I had put pens/ pencils/ and my fingers in there and that was not easy to do, and I do recall feeling as if even that was too big…

And people supposedly do this for fun? And enjoy it?

Then, just like you said Nurse, I was confronted with my first erect penis… I think my first PIV sex was complete before I stopped thinking “how is this supposed to fit in there?”

Love the responses so far! I never considered the how it was going to fit aspect. A few other things that hit me as an 11 year old boy was:

- I’d have to be naked (I was shy being naked in front of stangers)

- my penis would go inside this magic space in the woman but isn’t this kind of invasive I thought. I had a very rough experience in the hospital when I was 6 where my anus had to be continually examined. I wondered to myself if intercourse would be something like this for the woman. There was nothing I read at the time that it would feel pleasurable.

I was always confused about a lot of things surrounding sex. My parents gave me a very basic education on the matter, and I heard or saw various things over the years from movies or catching things adults would say within earshot. However, when I was 11, a boy in my neighborhood showed another girl and me a dirty magazine, and those images shocked me. The large breasts being sucked, oral sex, 69. men with their penis between women's breasts, large and erect penises, anal sex, sex in all kinds of positions, double penetrations, omg. I was kind of traumatized. lol Anytime I saw a couple, I wondered if they were doing those things. I really thought to myself that I could never do any of those things.

@KellyG You made a very interesting point, thank you. Youngsters watching porn are exposed to extreme acts, which are not representative of what they will do or how they will do it.

So true, Jacana. I can smirk about it now that I am an adult. However, in those very early years, I had a lot of fears and worries surrounding sex. The boy who had the magazine was also my age and stole it from his big brother.