Circumcision decision making as adult

If you decided to be circumcised as an adult I am curious about who you spoke to and what support people around you gave for your decision or whether you met any resistance?

Specially interested in what your partners/ spouses/ family/ friends thought about your decision

Did they try to talk you out of it. Did they try to talk you into it

When your foreskin has become super tight, there is no decision to make. You get the operation done! Your body has made the decision for you. I have never looked back after operation day.

When your foreskin has become super tight, there is no decision to make. You get the operation done! Your body has made the decision for you. I have never looked back after operation day.

There are sliding scales when it comes to tightness and there are alternative protocols in many cases.

I had circumcision recommended to me by five or maybe six different doctors and was referred three times. The only resistance I got was from the urologist the first two times.

Strange to say, but I would talk about it first of all with my mother-in-law. She was a midwife for 40 years and has always paid particular attention to this topic compared to the men in the family, including the grandchildren and especially the sons-in-law. I would talk to her — it would be a bit embarrassing but also exciting, since it’s such an extremely intimate matter.

I haven't had the need to think about that because I've been circumcised since I was 7; But I have been the one asked for advice or opinion on several occasions already.

Did they try to talk you out of it. Did they try to talk you into it

Only talked to doctors. Of course, doctors will generally try to talk you out of it if there's no medical urgency, but if you find the right one and plead your case they'll do it for you without a lot of hassle. Afterwards at some point I don't remember I mentioned it to my brother who thought I had lost my mind. He's a very meat-and-potatoes, missionary position, conservative type of person, so I wouldn't expect him to understand.

When I was around 9 my step mother brought me to a new pediatrician and they both felt circumcision was the way to go, but I didn't fully understand what it was or why it would be done because they talked about it together but later on my dad said I was too young to make that decision. Later at around 12 or 13 I didn't like being different from the other boys in the shower so I thought then I would do it but when the pediatric urologist showed where she would cut I was too afraid to do it.

Jump to my mid 40s and I wound up having my foreskin suddenly not retractable first thing in the morning and after an embarrassing phone call to my doctors nurse and trip to the ER I was circumcised by 1030am or so. I didn't really feel like there was any other choice due to I had great difficulty urinating and the nurses could not get a catheter in. The more they tried to get it in the worse things got. I did not consult anyone nor tell anyone and only my doctors and partners have known since then.

@badgy1 Your step mother wanted to have you done because you were tight?

I made the decision to get circumcised as an adult. Before that, I didn't know that I had a partial phimosis. I only talked about it with three doctors who examined me.

Of course, doctors will generally try to talk you out of...

It is totally different in the US, where genital examinations are often performed as part of an annual physical. American doctors will often encourage circumcision and suggest seeing a urologist if the patient hasn’t yet been circumcised.

I have wanted to be circumcised since I was 12 or 13 years old. I was finally able to get circumcised at the age of 51. I talked about it with a few family members and a few close friends. I didn't want their opinion because I had been convinced for a long time. It was just information between us. Nobody tried to dissuade me from doing it. The reactions were neutral.

I have wanted to be circumcised since I was 12 or 13 years old. I was finally able to get circumcised at the age of 51.

Was there any reason why you waited so long?

No, there is no particular reason. Just the passing of time. At 13, you still depend a lot on your parents' decisions, and you are also a bit embarrassed to talk about it. Then comes the time of studies, building a family life, giving priority to the children. And here we are, at 51 I was finally able to decide to take care of myself.