Getting a Proper Snug Fit With Diapers

This subject has probably been addressed elsewhere but I haven't found it in searching. I'm 73 and have progressed from wearing pull-up incontinence underwear to wearing Tena Super Stretch briefs (diapers). My mom put me back in cloth diapers and plastic pants when I was 11 years old because I was still wetting my bed every night, this continued until I was just about 16 when I was finally staying dry at night. One thing that I clearly remember was how snug mom got my diaper pinned on me at night, there was no sagging between my legs (at least until it was soaked by morning), no gaps on the front of the diaper. While the diaper I am using now is not the plain cloth of my youth, I am trying to get that same snug fit that I see in many images. The one feature of the Tena diapers I really like is the long hook and loop vertical fastener that seems to provide more gripping area as opposed to the tapes on the landing zone. The feature I don't understand is the wings on the top of the diaper front. If the front wings attached to the wrap from the back, it would make more sense, otherwise the front wings just work themselves out and hang out (unsightly to me). But recently, I discovered that by not extending the front wings and folding the top couple inches inward, I am able to create a very snug fit between the legs and across the front.

Has anyone else had to modify their diapers to get a better fit?

If we were talking about cloth, I would recommend Snappies. They are elastic stretchy with grips, they pull a cloth diaper nice and snug. https://www.greenmountaindiapers.com/products/snappi-diaper-fasteners?variant=45947827976

They are ment for babies, but can be adapted for adults, using the larger size 2.

Now for tab or tape disposals, I recommend to get a snug fit, to use the wall. Put the back of your diaper against a wall, and bring the front up between your legs, then snug it up, and fasten the tapes.

I have always felt that I did the best job on my own diapers. Maybe I am just a little too fussy or set in my old ways. There is one thing for sure when Mom diapered you in conventional cloth diapers you knew you were in diapers.

I have never been into having anyone put my diapers on.i am very particular about my tight snug fitting experience.i used to lay on the bed and I would carefully center the diaper from side to side and front and back,then I tugged the front of my diaper so it was perfect and stick the tapes,I always wanted the tapes to be exact on both sides, later in my diapers enjoyment I learned to get a nice fitting diaper with clear packing tape.years ago many diapers had lousy tapes and they came loose alot

I have been diapered a few times by nurses after having surgeries. Outside of nurses no one else has changed my diaper. I've always been very particular on my diaper fit. Always thought no one could get right.

Recently my loving partner Ashley had moved in with me. We where in the bedroom after I showered one morning. She noticed I was struggling a bit, she asked if she could help.

I was a little hesitant at first, but decided to let her help. I started to position the diaper under me. Ashley said, I mean to actually do it all. After she positioned my diaper, applying barrier cream and powder I was impressed.

I quickly told her about how particular I was about the fit. She told me to be hush, proceeding to tape the taps. Stuck her index finger in to place the leak guards like a pro. I was completely satisfied and amazed.

I asked her where did she learned all of this, she replied I'm very observant. She noticed where the tape tabs where before from wearing in front of her. She also informed me that she watched me changed a few timed before without me noticing.

Now Ashley does most of my diaper changing anymore. If she doesn't, she always has my diaper prepped with a booster pad and lite coating of powder. She also picks out the color of Magamax, pink or tye- dye.