Psychology of a diaper lover

The attraction to a diaper is a strange thing. For me and many others, diapers during childhood were the worst and most hated part of our lives. Amazing how they can come to mean so much to us now. I kind of wonder if the development of this attraction is similiar to people who have a spanking fetish. Somthing dreaded as a child morphing into somthing we love. Any comments?

.As a child even at the age of 4 I wanted to be diapered and asked once if my mother would diaper me. So I can't say it was heated at that time , I have always loved to be in diapers.

I don't know why but it's a great out let for stress. Having a diaper on just relaxes me.

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I have a need to wear diapers, but I feel very comfortable in diapers and they make me feel very secure and even confident in myself. I would agree they help releave stress for me also! I LOVE wearing diapers and plastic panties all the time. Diapers R' ME. 😃

I had trouble potty training, so, i was taken out of diapers for a while, but, it wasnt long before i was put back in them, it continued on like that til i was like five or so...At the time it sucked, more because no one else was going through that than anything else...

But, it wasnt long, maybe a year afterwards that i started dreaming of being put back in them.....

There's a Freud theory about it somewhere....Read about it in General Psychology...

I also was a late potty trainer (around about 4), and I remember having my very first yearnings to go back to diapers when I was 5.

I know part of it is a sexual release, but that doesn't quite explain the comfort I get from putting a diaper on and actually wetting it. Maybe it is kind of like the same feeling people get from smoking a good cigar, or drinking a good Scotch. I find the rougher my day is the more I earlier I want my diaper on (I usually wear diapers at night, and after work).

I think part of it is that early childhood is likely the most stress-free period that we've had. Putting diapers puts us back in that time (at a little tiny bit of us).

Lots of thoughts on this. For the young, very young child, diapers were a time of safety and comfort, of being provided for when helpless.

When threatened with or actually punished by being made to wear diapers against ones will (usually after toddler stage and before puberty), one has a time of emotional rush from fear.

When puberty and hormones kick in, and when sexual arousal is added to the rush of blood into the penis from the fantasy or reality of being diapered, wires cross and we associate arousal versus fear with the situation.

I love wearing diaper all the time. I have not hated it 😁

There are many reason people love wearing diapers. For me, it feels good ( I do not know why), it also makes my life easier (no need to find the washroom) 😜

I was just the opposite. I didn't have too much trouble potty training; I was out of diapers before I turned three. But everyone else seemed to be having problems, and that's what sparked my curiosity. The girl down the street was five before she kicked the pants-wetting habit. Another neighbor's son was six before he was out of diapers. My best friend was in and out of diapers when I met her, and she was seven at the time.

Long after I knew all these people, around the time I was 16, was when I started having bedwetting issues. I thought about diapers, and my childhood fascination for them re-appeared. When I turned 19 I met and dated a girl who was into wetting and diapers, and that fascination soon turned sexual.

I didn't have many diaper experiences as a child, so I guess you can say I'm making up for it now.

I'm curious how many people here have a younger sibling close to your age, because perhaps the attraction of diapers may be due to a fact of jealousy as a child of how it seemed your parents paid more attention to your sibling/silings than to you. this is just a theory though

I have Memories of liking diapers secretly as a child. When I was younger I was in trouble for ripping of my diapers and spreading the feces all over the place.(No mem of such thing) I had diapers taped on my mom said she reliezed It was time for potty training.

Later I was Stealing pull ups and wearing them to bed at age 6,8ish.

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I'm curious how many people here have a younger sibling close to your age, because perhaps the attraction of diapers may be due to a fact of jealousy as a child of how it seemed your parents paid more attention to your sibling/silings than to you. this is just a theory though

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Well I do have a Little Sister, but, she's only two years younger than me, so I was in diapers the same time she was...We actually got out of them about the same time...

Although, i may have been a little jealous that it was ok for her and punishment for me....Something to think about...

I always thought that my attraction to diapers was because of the high level of attention that the diapering person must give me. I didn't get the right type of attention growing up.

Thanks for your comments! I guess I was looking for a common thread where there was none. My wife was diapered until 1st grade. She hates plastic pants from past memories. I wish I could share her past.

I once heard a very insightful doctor say, " The things that terrify us most in childhood become increasingly attractive as we grow older." That was from Dr. Drew Pinsky from the radio show LoveLine. This statement works for diaper lovers, children who were sexually abused (often become attracted to "bad men"), even children from drinking parents (become drinkers themselves or become attracted to drinkers). We are the products of our environments, nothing more.

To me all disposable diapers is a part of my way to play with them. I have both a press fetisch and a fetisch to drench them and when I use the diapers I can use both of these fetishes, while the diaper life greatly is reduced when I either drowns them or let my broad magnificent buttocks enclose them and slowly squeeze them to death.

I started wearing in my teens. I think it was a way to coop with crap I couldn't deal with at the time. I felt I was alone and just weird until I discovered more ABDL people online. At that time I had no idea what to call my kink. My mom did find out when I was 16. That was a strange unease time in my life. She asked and I just ignored her basically. I mean seriously how does someone respond to that?

For me, i simply see diapers as just a pair of shorts and underwear. I see them for comfort and stress relief as well.

I honestly don't remember diapers being the -worst- part of childhood. They just were a part of it - albeit a big part. I got used to being diapered for bed. "Let's get your nappies on!" Was a part of the routine. While I felt some shame at being diapered, I think I associated the diapering routine with comfort and being taken care of. Lifting up for the diaper to be put on, pulling it up and pinning it on and aiming my feet at the plastic pants holes. The smell of baby powder. I never got to put my own diapers on or take them off, even when my age hit double digits. Pinning on diapers isn't easy if you're the diaperee LOL! The part I didn't like, for whatever reason, was having them taken off in the morning OR getting a diaper change. Something about going from warm and comfy to cold? Easier to feel like a baby at night then in the day? I don't know.

I'm certain that wearing diapers so much as a kid led to the attraction today though.

I saw this question and did some reading. Its pretty much been settled that we are sexual beings even in our infancy. We get sexually aroused and some infants even have orgasms. We all develop with different childhoods, so the different experiences make us all different. The fact that we like diapers, or spankings, or both comes from the things that stimulated us when we were young.

Endorphins in our brain tell us WOW that feels good. They can be released by a variety of stimuli. Even pain, as in a good old spanking. We can bond those "good feelings" and sometimes link them to our sexuality when we are young. That little pat on the front or the soft damp warmth of wetting our diaper actually can be quite "hot" in our infant sexuality. It's just we don't have the experience to put it in an adult category. The tender hug along with the stinging bottom after a good spanking can do the same. Freud thought we were all little pervs in our infancy and the we kind of worked it out as we got older. I guess some of us just decide not to work all of it out. That those perversions were in fact as rewarding as what our society deems sexually acceptable.

Diapers were both the "worst" and the "best" when I was young. I thought spankings were the "worst". It wasn't until much older that I realized that spanking could trigger the same reactions. They struck a fear in me. They represented my immaturity and failure to meet my parents expectations that I was growing and maturing into a "perfect adult citizen". Threats, spankings and actual diaperings humiliated, but also reminded me of those wonderful tactile memories of my past. The endorphins were triggered again and that "Wow what a rush" feeling returned. I probably learned to associate humiliation with sex in those episodes also.

Anyways, like Popeye the Sailor said, "I am what I am". So bend over for your spanking you bad little boy and we'll get your diaper on for bed time.

I've been trying to figure this out for my entire life! It even led to me writing the true story of my lifelong love of diapers (which, one day, maybe I'll put it here in the library after I finish it and change a few names / places to--as they used to say on "Dragnet"--protect the innocent...ha).

In my case I think it all can be traced back to a few things:

1) As an infant I was very sick and spent most of my first six months in the hospital. When I was finally OK and able to come home, it was springtime. We had a big deck out back where my mother would also put the playpen, so my first experiences being happy, healthy, and at home are at a time when it was sunny, warm and I was wearing my cloth diapers and plastic pants. (To this day my favorite times to wear my diapers are on sunny, warm days when there's little going on and I can relax and enjoy them!)

2) My mother was obsessed with germs and me not getting sick, this is probably because I'd been so sick as an infant and she didn't want it to happen again. Because of this, she changed my diapers as soon as I wet / pooped them and had me out of them by the time I was about 2 1/2 years old. My earliest memories go back to this time and I remember back then seeing other kids / girl cousins in their diapers, soaked and loaded and being allowed to keep playing until it was convenient for their mothers to change them, and wishing it were me.

3) I was supposed to have a younger sister who died at birth and I also remember seeing friends / cousins who had little sisters and being envious and wishing I could be around all those pretty pink dresses and plastic panties and see all the diapers. I think this is why I tend toward the sissy side with my diaper fetish.

4) I lived next door to a girl who was my age who loved peeing in her pants and did it all the time, her mother would yell at her and she'd get in trouble then go right back to doing it anyway and once told me that she didn't care because she loved it. I later realized that she also wore diapers at night until I moved away from there (and who knows, maybe longer than that, and that was when we were both in Fourth Grade). She coaxed me into trying it and that's when I began to realize that I loved the way it felt and I loved the smell of peed-in clothes.

All of this sort of came together a few years later when I had a two year old girl cousin, her parents tended to be lazy and thickly diapered her and left her in them until they were soaked and drooping down to her knees. One summer day we were visiting them and I was attracted to her diaper pail in the bathroom, lifted off the lid and was almost knocked over by the smell of the wet diapers and got what probably was my very first erection. I kept going back in there to "use the bathroom" so I could smell them again and again. I don't think I've quit thinking about diapers since!

So I think this probably explains why I love the things I do--cloth diapers and sissy baby clothes on sunny days, wearing them until they're soaked and loaded and smell to high heaven, doing it in spite of knowing it's wrong but because I love it anyway, diaper pails full of wet diapers, and just being a naughty wet smelly stinky big baby!

I married my 2nd wife about 49 then a few yrs later 50,s started wetting the bed always had some problems.I had a frank talk with her she had made up her mind needed to be put back in diapers there was no sexual thing.I didn,t have a real arrangement that would work.I,am a lot older than her and now she is more dominate than ever before.

I wrote a reply to this question on Quora.com I hope it helps you a lot. When I was 12 I was put back in diapers for medical reasons. I was scared to death and found the only people who were able to help me were DL?TBs. I am not a DL but it hurt me a lot when my DL friends told me how badly people looked down upon them. I wanted to help them and started doing research to find the answer as to why they liked diapers. What I found I posted on Quora. I hope it helps to give many of you some reassurance that there is nothing wrong with you. I hope it is okay to use urls here too.

There is a lot to this question that good child psychologists are well aware of but many others are not.

This is about what is known as the Transitional Phenomenon and the Transitional Object . This phenomenon is something that all children experience and certainly not something to be taken lightly.

I do not normally reply to posts about Adult Diaper Lovers but after thinking about this I’m thinking I should, because an adult DL is normally a child or adolescent DL first. This is not about Infantilism you are always a diaper lover first.

First let me reassure you there is not anything wrong with you. Yes this is very normal for some boys and girls, though not as prevalent in girls.

There is nothing that you should be afraid of. This is much more common than people realize.

This phenomenon happens to a child in infancy.

This is about the baby’s first personal possession the first comforting possession known as the Transitional Object that helps the child to console themselves during times of anxiety, when the mother is not there for the child, and is carried with the child all the way through adolescents. And yes a diaper can very normally be that first possession. Just as easily as a teddy bear or a blanket. This is not something to be ashamed of or afraid of. All children experience this phenomenon.

It is not unusual but not something people know much about.

Do not shun your child for this. This is about the bond between the infant, child and adolescent and the mother that is crucial to good healthy development. (This is not about regression.)

This is something very important throughout a child’s life.

Please read my reply at the following post. Please read all of it, it is very informative.

How common is it for a 12 year old to like wearing diapers?

My reply is, Why do boys become Diaper Lovers?

https://www.quora.com/How-common-is-it-for-a-12-year-old-to-like-wearing-diapers

It is a long post but try to read all of it. The last part is just as important as the first.

Some people would call this a fetish but the doctor whose paper I referenced my reply from did not feel that liking diapers in childhood nor adolescence constituted a fetish although it was possible to develop as an adult.

For a person who is a diaper lover wearing diapers is not in itself a fetish. When wearing them takes on a more aggressive nature in affect for sexual gratification that is when it becomes the fetish. When it comes to Infantilism this is a paraphillia which is a derivative of the fetish. You are always a diaper lover first.

It is important to refer to the usage note of the following url.

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It is important to notice that the term can be and is also used to imply "less mainstream sexual practices" but without necessarily negatively implying any dysfunction or 'wrongness'.