Women: Talk about the first blow job you gave and do you like/dislike going down on a man

There's a great thread going now about men reminiscing about their first blow job orgasm. I don't want to derail that thread, so I started one from the woman's perspective - on giving. Sorry guys, I'm not interested in your experiences as a giver, not because I don't care about you, but because men and women are very different and your perspective won't be the same.

One of the themes in that thread is 'blow jobs are something girlfriends do but not wives'. Is that really true? Ladies, is oral something you give to 'get' a man and then stop once you have him? If you've stopped, why did you stop?

I recall giving my first. I was barely 14 dating a boy who was 18. He had gone down on me (and I loved it) and I figured I should reciprocate. I had jerked him off before so I was familiar with the mechanics and I more-or-less knew what to do so during one of our back seat sessions instead of jerking him I took him in my mouth. I had tasted his cum surreptitiously before so I had an idea what I was in for.

I remember the deliciously soft feel of the skin on the head of his cock. The saltiness of his precum. Just how much I had to open my mouth to get him in there. Feeling him getting even harder in my mouth, the surprise and the force when he came and almost choaking. The texture of his cum surprised me. I had tasted it on my hand before, but it wasn't the same. Just how hot (temperature) it was and how HOT (fucking sexy) it was. I was hooked. I loved giving them from the first and I still love giving them. Would love to hear your take, ladies.

One of the themes in that thread is 'blow jobs are something girlfriends do but not wives'. Is that really true? Ladies, is oral something you give to 'get' a man and then stop once you have him? If you've stopped, why did you stop?

No that is not true it stops when you get married, definitely not for me, I LOVE giving my husband a blowjob. I was 16 when I had my first experience of giving one, it was when I lost my virginity to the amazing guy I would marry. ❤️ I did not have experience but I used the advice I had been given by my mum when I was about 14 or 15. I did plenty of licking around his tip and then I retracted his foreskin and use my tongue to lick around his bare glans in circles and I took him into my mouth, in and out in a good rhythm to repeat the movement. I used my hand up and down his shaft too like I was told. And I must have done it right because he squirted his warm cream in my mouth and I enjoyed swallowing it because I really liked it.

I think it is not ok how some ladies seem to stop doing things like giving blowjobs and even stopping having sex as well after they marry their husbands. I think it is dishonest and I think women who do that did not even love their husbands when they got married. I think some men on Zity have had that happen to them and it just seems a bit sad really, they must think they were lied to.

I put the Specially for Women tag on this topic as well.

@Amethyst Thank you!

I agree. I get sad when I read about all the sexless marriage threads. I understand losing interest after menopause, my libido took a hit and I had to adjust, but I did. I love my husband too much to not have sex with him. I understand 'falling out of love'. Get a divorce, or if that's no practical, give him a pass to get it elsewhere. Men need sex. I believe women do too, but for different reasons. Locking a guy down and then taking away the physical is just wrong.

I imagine a lot of people get tired of me talking about my little boyfriend in college, but it was he that did everything for the first time. He was either the lucky dog or unfortunate soul depending on how things turned out.

Yes we tried everything on each other including a BJ. One night I told him to strip down, got on my knees, got him hard and took his Willie into my mouth. I kissed it then wrapped my lips around it and when back a forth wile stroking his dick. I got a shot of warm cum in my mouth while he was squalling and having a conversation with God, Oh My God, as I remember. I do remember spitting out his load.

He did get several more before he left me, I did OK I guess. I have always heard that swallowing a load gives one a good complexion, I have a good complexion.

As @Amethyst quoted at the top of her post I'd have to make the observation as to some women do give blow jobs to get a boyfriend with the intent of gaining a husband and with no small amount of premeditation on their part let that bit of their giving blow jobs fall to the wayside for whatever reason. To enter into a marriage or long term relationship with giving blow jobs and seeing the pleasure it gives to their man only to withhold it or stop it altogether after cementing the deal of marriage is wrong on so many levels.

Quite some time ago I posted this on another thread

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=930468

At that time my husband was the man that I gave blow jobs to and as well written by the original poster she had this to say,

I remember the deliciously soft feel of the skin on the head of his cock ... I was hooked. I loved giving them from the first and I still love giving them ...

Since the seven plus years that I posted in another post my experience with sucking cock has expanded beyond that of my beloved husband wherein I have seen and felt added dimensions to this simple but extremely intimate act of sucking the cock of the man I am with. Indeed the taste and texture and warmth and all that has been noted here in this thread are something that I savour to my very centre and those facets alone would be quite enough to see me continuing this with those men whose cocks I suck.

But as time has gone by and my experiences with my husband and other men I have learned to appreciate the fact that sucking their cocks affords me the opportunity to keep my wits about me and to be able to observe every reaction that my man gives up and enjoy and possibly revel in the fact that it is me that is causing my man to react in this way and that. Every suck and every lick or stroke of his cock as I hold him in my mouth causes a reaction in him that I am able to observe with almost a detachment that I would not otherwise be able to do when fucking him and taking up into the cum lust mist with him and us. But I am able to be the catalyst of what I see in his eyes and body and sounds he makes and I can see how every nuance of my tongue on the tip of his cock or the feel of his shaft on my lips and in my hands makes him enjoy my sucking of his cock.

I am a right selfish bitch when I suck my man's cock and assume the role of a the one to put that quiver in his body and make it so that he loses all and every ounce of inhibition when I am the cause for him ejaculating into my mouth. It was me, I was the one, the reason that for a bit of time that he gave me his cock to suck that he had that bit of ejaculatory kaleidoscope of colour and sound literally from their very centre and into my waiting mouth to swallow. And in my own twisted way of thinking I know that their ejaculate that I swallow will be digested by me and made part of my body on the cellular level. I know full well that the ejaculate that I swallow has some bit of calories and also calcium, citrate, fructose, glucose, lactic acid, magnesium, potassium, protein, zinc, water, plasma and mucus, which is served up to me from the man whose cock I suck and bring to ejaculate in my mouth.

That bit of some women falling out of love with their chosen mate because he can no longer achieve or maintain and erection and not be able to satisfy her in the ways of their younger days is all too common. But my experience has shown me that even men with chronic conditions or health issues that deny them the 'diamond cutters' of their youth are able to ejaculate and give me their essence because I care enough to suck their cock for the pure joy of seeing their face and hearing their sounds and the their body reacting this way all because I am sucking their cock.

My reward? My ego or vanity or perhaps over estimated sense of self worth in it being me who brings them their release all because of me. But as I watch them regaining their composure and becoming aware of their surroundings, I feel the soft and gentle touch in my hair or tracing my the back of my neck and that peace I see in their faces and I no longer feel the succubus claiming another man as my victim, no the man whose cock I sucked and ejaculate that I swallowed is that of someone I love or care deeply about and I am theirs to defend them in those moments after I caused their release into my mouth.

The original poster saying that 'Locking a guy down and then taking away the physical is just wrong' and this quote from @Amethyst

I think it is not ok how some ladies seem to stop doing things like giving blowjobs and even stopping having sex as well after they marry their husbands. I think it is dishonest and I think women who do that did not even love their husbands when they got married.

These women are right. 🌹

I recall giving my first. I was barely 14 dating a boy who was 18. He had gone down on me (and I loved it) and I figured I should reciprocate. I had jerked him off before so I was familiar with the mechanics and I more-or-less knew what to do so during one of our back seat sessions instead of jerking him I took him in my mouth. I had tasted his cum surreptitiously before so I had an idea what I was in for.

I remember the deliciously soft feel of the skin on the head of his cock. The saltiness of his precum. Just how much I had to open my mouth to get him in there. Feeling him getting even harder in my mouth, the surprise and the force when he came and almost choaking. The texture of his cum surprised me. I had tasted it on my hand before, but it wasn't the same. Just how hot (temperature) it was and how HOT (fucking sexy) it was. I was hooked. I loved giving them from the first and I still love giving them. Would love to hear your take, ladies.

I wish I had enjoyed my first times giving blowjobs. Its hard to remember exactly what I was thinking at the time but I wasn't a fan, and that was before the neck and jaw ache. If he had been interested in returning the favour then maybe it would have been different, but he never kissed me any lower than my boobs. After him I spent a couple of years only seeing other women I got to really loving oral sex, receiving but especially giving, but when I met my now husband some of those old feelings were still there, I was a bit hesitant going down on him, didn't feel as confident about it as I did with women and I definitely didn't want him to cum in my mouth. We were together for a few years before I told him I wanted that, but then he never wanted more than a few minutes of having his cock sucked as a warmup because he preferred sex, and I was happy to go along with that too. God bless him, he would go down on me over and over too, like he couldn't get enough. But now we've been together a long time and I have no special lady in my life, I've gotten to love giving BJs more and more. I find myself fantasizing about it more and more too, and he loves it when I get myself off with my fingers as I'm sucking him. I'm slowly but surely getting more used to taking him deeper too, eventually I'd like to be able to be able to take it all without gagging. Gagging is not sexy 😂

So I'm a trans woman who almost exclusively dates trans women so my experience is a bit different.

My first time doing that was probably last year, I was dating another trans girl, I have sensory issues so I had to work my way up to giving oral, but she held space for me to explore, I started by kissing the inside of her thigh near the base of her parts, eventually working my way up to taking her into my mouth, estrogen changes the way that part works so the head of her penis would get wet, really slick with her fluid, she ate a lot of fruit so she even tasted a little sweet, and when she came she would squirt more of that slightly sweet clear fluid, and I would kiss her and share it with her beacuse she mentioned liking the taste.

I still give oral to girls like her, they tend to be really sensitive and have soft skin, blushy and cute as they get overwhelmed by sensations, I can't imagine stopping when I hopefully marry my current girlfriend in a few years.

Beautifully written @Ms_Lila and a very interesting perspective @JT1999 . I for one never get tired of hearing about your exploits with your old boyfriend @Tillie , or anything else you get up to for that matter. You ladies rock.

Blow jobs don't get a girl pregnant. It is a safe way to keep a boyfriend sexually satisfied without a pregnancy scare/issue. In those instances when actual protected sex or the girl to get on the pill is not available.

After marriage it can be a moment of opportunity that a blow job works better than having actual sex to satisfy his "need".

Now to answer the question, I can't remember the first blow job I gave sub. It was over 39 years ago and that memory is forgotten.

If I had refused to give my husband a blow job after I got married I would have found myself in divorce court and frankly I wouldn't blame him. I believe that given oral is part of being a women and he reciprocating is part of being a man. Furthermore my husband claims that me going down on him after he has been in me is one of the two sexiest things a women can do. The act can also lead to a second. Dare I say second coming? While not always the second is usually better than the first. My advice to any woman is learn how to use your mouth in sex.

@ddell2 Wasn't there something that, until recently, in many US states, oral sex was considered "deviate sexual intercourse" or "sodomy" and even officially a crime, which in practice was rarely prosecuted but could be invoked in divorce proceedings? E.g. "my husband initiated deviant practices so he's the one responsible for our breakup"

(I think I read about something in the 1980s where one spouse actually tried to get the other one a criminal conviction because of that!)

The 80’s isn’t ’recent’. Some US states had Sodomy laws on the books. In 2003 the Supreme Court Lawerence decision made them all unconstitutional .

2003 isn’t really recent either.

And this isn’t the thread for discussion of the history of the legality of oral sex, it’s about women sharing their experiences as the giver.

And this isn’t the thread for discussion of the history of the legality of oral sex, it’s about women sharing their experiences as the giver.

Yes, men please do not spoil this topic by going off topic and do not take it over either, because that will stop other ladies posting and we get that happening too much on topics that are for women.

@ddell2 Wasn't there something that, until recently, in many US states, oral sex was considered "deviate sexual intercourse" or "sodomy" and even officially a crime, which in practice was rarely prosecuted but could be invoked in divorce proceedings?

@Jacana

I can't speak for all of the United State but in high school in Texas and undergrad school in NC oral sex was very much prevalent in the late '60s. The so-called sexual revolution is attributed to the '60. In high school most of my girlfriends had oral sex experiences. I didn't start my own birth control until I started college but many of my high school girl friends started before me.

I also had girl friends that practiced oral sex with their boy friends because of the fear of getting pregnant.

Nurse_Phillips covered the sex laws that were usually only enforced in saltatory rape cases.

At first time I said to my self Y am I putting his dick into my mouth , The head of his dick was not bad but as it began to grow I said This is not going to fit in my mouth anymore Now I know Y they call it a blow Job ( up and down in and out lick the dick ) But now I got it pretty well down ( I love when he shoots the sperm )

My first time was with the guy who later became my husband. I did not want to risk getting pregnant and really didn’t want to have sex before marriage at all, so he talked me into giving oral. I was curious about it too so it’s not like he forced me or anything. It felt very naughty and kind of dirty honestly but I didn’t mind doing it, so it was a big part of our intimacy from the early days. Seeing his reactions was and is still the best part. No, I didn’t stop it after marriage haha.

The first blow job that really meant something to me was when I went down on my husband @TedStarr. It was before we were married and I was discovering that I was falling for this nerd with the glasses who knew what he was worth and who was cautious about relationships. He wasn't my type in the physical sense but there was something about him that I just couldn't shake off and I kept thinking about him. It took me awhile to gain is trust or get past his nerd defenses because he had always seen me either with another girl or an aspiring Adonis type guy.

I was the one making the move on him and when we did finally start dating it took me a little while to get him into bed but he actually had to get to know me first! This studious bookworm actually had some really good moves in bed which surprised me in a good way, and it took me a couple of times going to bed with him to have him trust that I was good to go with him and wouldn't cross my legs on him when he wanted a little. When we got past that point the sex was really good and we didn't hold back but it was always penis in vagina and he wasn't complaining.

Then one morning when he slept over I woke up next to him and watched him sleep and saw that he had an erection going on. So I thought I would give him a special little wake up call and I held him in my hand and that was nothing new to us because we did do a lot of touching and he just stirred a little bit in bed but he was still asleep and waking up and liking what he was feeling. Then I moved down and put his penis in my mouth for the very first time for us, as in me taking Ted's penis in my mouth and he woke up.

I had given blow jobs to guys before but it was always for grins and giggles and I had the idea that Ted would get a grin on his face being woke up this way. But as I put his penis in my mouth I looked up and was going to give him an evil grin but the look on his face told me that this was something super special for him. I will never forget that look and I am so glad that I didn't ask him what he meant by that sweet but surprised look on his face and instead I changed my plan of giving him a quick blow job for fun. His expression on his face completely blew me away and made me want to make this something really special for him because I had this question pop into my mind about this sweet suspicion I had.

I took my time with his penis in my mouth and gently sucked on it and ran my tongue all over the head and around the rim and I kissed and licked his shaft and always went back to take the head of his penis in my mouth and give it some gentle sucks. And the look on his face and in his eyes made me think something I was definitely going to ask him about. I wasn't going to tease this man anymore or make him wait and I found myself meaning every suck that I sucked on his penis and every touch or stroke that I gave him. And then when his cum burst into my mouth and I was tasting his hot and wonderful cum filling my mouth and on my tongue and the roof of my mouth and feeling this warm squish and velvet silk smooth slippery mucous with almost like a little hint of Clorox but something I wanted to swallow pretty fast because it isn't the best taste but not the worst either. It was like other cum I had tasted with other guys but I put that thought out of my head because those were just blow jobs.

And Ted had spurt all of what he had and I made sure he was drained all of the way and he lay back on the pillow with this look of almost disbelief. I lay down right beside him and he didn't look at me and I asked him if this was the first time? He didn't say anything and didn't move his head and seemed like he was trying to think of something to say so I just told him that it wasn't going to be the last time for him or for us. The nerd boy library dweller owned me from that instant on only he didn't know it.

Everything before that was just me sucking a cock and with him everything after that was oral sex with all the nuances and the whole spectrum what makes it special for me every time since then.

I love giving blowjobs. I love that moment where I’m kissing my partner and feeling his erection through his trousers knowing I’m going to have him in my mouth soon. Then getting onto my knees and lowering his trousers and then his pants. I love spending time on him. We usually move so he’s sitting as my neck gets a bit sore.

I have quite a few sensory issues with some textures so don’t enjoy him coming in my mouth. I’m happy for him to cum deep in my throat or on my body, usually my boobs.

I would never stop giving a man oral sex after we got married, I love it too much! I love the smell of my current partner and his cum, though I have been with some sexual partners whose smell I’ve not liked and it’s made me feel a bit sick. Being really sensitive to texture and smells isn’t always the best thing.

My first experience at giving a blowjob I was 17 and he was 21. We had been out partying when I decided I needed to go home. He took me home, the rest of my family was not at home at the time, he walked me in and we started making out short story off went the cloths on come the sex. We were laying in bed when he asked if I would give him head. I said I would try. So I slide down and put his hard cock into my mouth. I had no idea what I was doing but I kept sliding it in and out of my mouth and licking it with my tongue. I had a friend who had given a number of blowjob and she told me a couple times how to do it. As I was going down on him I was also trying to remember what my friend had told me to do. I just kept sucking on the head and licking his shaft. He kept pushing my head down on his cock to get deeper until he reach my gag zone I thought I was going to throw up on him but I didn’t. After a little bit he started to tense up I heard him moan and he unloaded in my mouth. It scared me I pulled back and some of his cum was in my mouth and some on my face. I swallowed what was in my mouth the taste was ok but wasn’t sure about the texture. I have come to love both as well as giving the hubby head. After we were done he said I didn’t pretty good for my first time I just needed to be careful with my teeth.