How do they turn it back on?

This is something that I've always wondered about. I even had a friend that was a gyno and never worked up the boldness to ask him but...

The guy spends all day long every day looking at naked women, inspecting and touching them in the most intimate way imaginable. We all trust, that this is done in a professional and non sexual manner. Maybe not quite all, but if it wasn't that way, few men would allow the doctor visit at all. We want to protect our mates from abuse. I'm excluding fantasy and play exams here. Thats a whole different thing. Now Dr Gyno heads off for the home front. Its hard to imagine what Mrs G has to do to present something excitingly new and sensual! I know from my non-medical lifetime of work, when I finally get home after a long day, the last thing I want to see or do is something work related. I just have to wonder how they turn it back on? Maybe a Zitizen might have the answer from experience.

It is a different setting @WaterLog, their partners at home are not at work so that is different for them.

I don't think as a gyno you always see nice things, also is for proctologist.

Also it's like @Amethyst writes: Different setting, different place.

I think you learn to separate the two quite easily. I worked for a number of years as a massage therapist and saw a lot of naked women over time, and I'm not saying I didn't appreciate the fact that a lot of them were very attractive, but it is a totally different mindset. The bedroom is a whole different vibe.

I imagine it is done in exactly the same way as any other medical professional. They are looking at human bodies every day. Yet most medical staff I have known had a higher sex drive if anything.

I imagine it is done in exactly the same way as any other medical professional. They are looking at human bodies every day. Yet most medical staff I have known had a higher sex drive if anything.

Yes, that makes sense to me. It would be really creepy to have your actual doctor displaying, or hiding an erection wouldn't it? but the interesting thing for me is how to turn it back on when you are off work. If I work all day fixing computers, when I get home I really don't feel the need to repair my own.

Don't misunderstand me, I don't doubt that doctors can and do turn their sexual appetite on and off. Its just something that seems to me would be difficult. For example, if I am working and person I find attractive passes by, my body can react even though my brain says that person is not available. Especially in our younger years, anything, even a smell or sound can have the body madly preparing for sexy time. It doesn't wait for permission to get started, and in the distant past of my younger years, it wasn't about to shut off the preparation just because I wanted it to do so.

Something has to happen either consciously or unconsciously to restore that natural reaction after office hours.. Just seems strange.

If I work all day fixing computers, when I get home I really don't feel the need to repair my own.

There’s a big difference between repairing a computer and using a computer. Same with doctors, there is a difference between work and enjoying intimacy with their SO.

Most medical professionals, at some point, are going to need to examine someone’s body, including their private parts. I would imagine that some go home and masturbate, while the majority see it as just another day of work.

It is there job as opposed to the sexual interest they share their life and bed with. One pays better monetarily. The other satisfies the mind and body.

There are plenty of misconceptions and associated drama that always comes up in discussion around this topic -

Male vs female gynecologists - It's not entirely a male thing - yes there are female doctors who are attracted to female patients

Men experience sexual stimuli differently than women - in particular they are much more visual - it's how male brains are wired. They do not unsee something they like

Men (or women for that matter) do not have a switch that turns sexual stimulus on or off. There is no special doctor's only super secret switch for this either

The concept of sexual relationship is different from sexual attraction - you can be in a committed relationship and have a profession as a doctor, auto mechanic, or software programmer and take notice of a sexual feature, a smile, someone's hair style, whatever....it just happens and it does not enhance or diminish your sex drive for the partner that you have a relationship with. It also does not imply that you lust after the person you noticed and act on that lust (of course it does happen but that's not my point...if you act out your lust and it's not reciprocal with the other person or you are in a committed relationship then you go to jail or get divorced regardless of your profession.

There's a lot more to it psychologically than this but if you apply the facts specifically to a male gynecologist who is not molesting his patients and who goes home at night to have wild sex with his wife you end up with a perfectly normal scenario ---

As part of his job he sees women all day, he may find one attractive, and he touches a part of her body that is associated with sex. He does this for a purpose other than sex but he still finds his patient to be attractive and thinks she has, let's say great looking breasts. He has the capacity to control his behavior but he still likes the feel of her breast, nipple, whatever. He keeps that to himself, conducts himself professionally, and moves along and takes the exact same course with a woman he does not find attractive...he could very well like the feel of her breasts also even though he finds her unattractive...and maybe feeling her breasts turns him off....but he still conducts himself professionally. Another doctor does the exact same examination but fails to conduct himself professionally and ends up in court accused of molesting the patient, the first doctor does not, even though both like breasts. It's not an off on switch, it's self control. If there is an on off switch then doctor number 2 cannot possibly be convicted of molestation....perhaps his switch failed but that's the fault of the switch not his personal behavior. There is no switch so doctor number 2 gets convicted due to his lack of control and his conduct.

So back to doctor number one. He goes home to his wife having felt breasts all day long. Surely he is bored with looking at and feeling breasts, heck maybe he is, maybe all his patients that day were unattractive to him and he is fed up with feeling breasts of women he finds unattractive. But there is a major difference with him and his wife - it's not transactional, it's emotional. He has a relationship and something totally different that he shares with his wife that he does not share with his patients. It makes zero difference that he has felt breasts all day....they are not his wife's....that is entirely different to the brain. It triggers entirely different nerve responses, hormonal responses, physical responses...there is no need for self control...so now when he feels breasts it's a completely different reaction in the brain even though what he sees and feels is the same as what he saw and felt the entire day.

And the moral of the story is this - sex is at best 1% physical and 99% mental. It's not that the "natural reaction" mentioned gets turned off and restored later....but it takes on very different forms in the relationship than it does during the professional hours. You could make the exact same comparison with a prostitute - when she is having sex for cash it's transactional...but it's still sex and maybe she likes what she does along the way. For the gynecologist it's transactional and he can still like what he does along the way. Yet both of them can have a relationship outside of their transactional experiences....and it's entirely different as far as the brain is concerned with what they do all day...or night...for a living.

@doc4u72 Thanks for the concise post. I was just about to say the same thing regarding mechanics. Not so much now due to age aches and pains, but in years gone by I would go to work and do car repairs all day. But then could come home and work on a project car for personal enjoyment. I imagine those in the medical profession are the same.

Oh this is exactly what I like about going to the gyno with my wife. It's what I call "docwatching" which is like whale watching or bird watching. Observing the doctor as he examines my wife and identifying what level, if any, he is enjoying himself. After you've been at these appointments awhile you get pretty good at identifying the species:

Scared Doc - Wraps her up in more cloth and coverings than what she came into the office in and puts on exam gloves the instant he enters the room.

Timid Doc - Young and inexperienced. Very nervous throughout. Rushes in, rushes out, barely says a word.

Sneaky Doc - Aside from taking the pap he pretends to look away most of the time, but every now and then you catch him taking a good look at what he is doing.

Master Doc - He maintains complete professionalism at all times. Gives her a flimsy paper gown or paper sheet only. Gives a very thorough exam. Puts her in a number of clinical positions. Always uses a metal speculum and extends the stirrups at a generously wide angle. Makes sure he gives the husband a great view with maximum exposure. Looks at the husband at critical points to let him know who happens to be in charge of his wife's body at that moment. Engages both husband and wife in conversation during the exam and of course makes sure to inquire about sexual health matters.

That last one is quite rare to find in the wild, but if you do, you will seek him out again!

There are plenty of misconceptions and associated drama that always comes up in discussion around this topic -

And the moral of the story is this - sex is at best 1% physical and 99% mental..

@doc4u72 Perfection in that single line. All the rest was very precise and correct, but this sums it up perfectly.

Thanks for the comment!

Male RN here. A true story: Me and another male RN student were in our first semester of nursing school. We were eating lunch and the subject of nude women came up. He wistfully said he had been looking forward to that aspect of medical school, but it had lost its' appeal. I agreed. He asked me how long it had taken me to see naked women, and men, and dogs and cats as just another job. I thought 'about a week' before the thrill was gone, but I was much older.than him. I said "I don't know. how about you?" He said sadly "about a week." I had to laugh out loud. It seems you relate to the person, not the body. But after 25 years, I still remember those two bodies........

You turn your sexual interests back on when you walk out of the office or hospital door. When you're examining patients the question always is, "what pathology am I seeing/repairing here today. " I think it must be very rare for anyone to be looking for disease or abnormalities while you're lusting after the anatomy in view. At least I never could. There seems to be a firewall between ordinary male and clinician.

With all due respect to those folks who cannot believe that male doctors, and yes female doctors as well, absolutely have sexual thoughts and interests...on the job ... let's think about a couple very recent events in the public sphere. Keep in mind that I'm not trying to imply that the vast majority of doctors are not able to control those thoughts, but those thoughts do in fact exist. Humans are wired for sex...men differently than women...men are more heavily influenced by sight and touch. I'm also talking about non emergency situations, not surgery, or other similar situations where the brain is entirely focused on a very specific set of tasks. Big difference between a routine exam with an attractive patient and a life saving procedure or intricate reproductive system surgery, or even a problem visit for that matter.

Recently we had a physician in Cincinnati - you can find some details online, let's please not discuss that though ... he is a terribly sick puppy. But it's worrisome that he strongly voices the on-off switch narrative as his defense. The hospital has buried this and scrubbed as much as possible off the internet. Now this guy needs to expire behind bars and it makes no difference what he is saying...he's a monster no matter what. His crime would be the same, but somehow I just think its magnified by the fact that he truly thinks he was able to turn off the human mind and sexual thoughts. In his mind he thinks that since he turned off the supposed sexual switch that he could not have commited a crime. If you believe in the on off switch he has a point. But - he is not going to jail for his thoughts. He acted on them. And that's the difference.

And a couple days ago we have the Ft Hood doctor. We don't know if he's going to try the on off switch defense when it gets to trial. I wouldn't be surprised though. I've seen this same logic used over and over again in both ethics and legal proceedings where the doctor in question, and I think they actually believe this, bases their entire defense on the off switch. They go so far as to admit to an act that was just plain wrong because, well, they are a doctor, a different type of human, and the switch was turned off at the time, so whatever they did could not have been wrong.

I suppose this belongs more in the psychology section, but seriously folks, doctors can have sexual thoughts. They can think a patient is attractive. They can lust after that patient in private. They can get carried away with a patient if it's entirely consensual. As long as they are acting professionally, doing their job and doing it well, the supposed switch could stay on all day and night and no one gets harmed. What they cannot do is act on whatever thoughts they have without consent.

And if we go overboard denying that doctors have sexual thoughts, that all doctors have a secret off switch. Then the monsters out there have a valid defense. One juror who truly believes in the off switch can stand firm. The guy in Cincinnati is already using this .... his switch was off on the job...he just...turned it back on after hours and that was a mistake is what he is claiming. I can't wait to hear Mr Ft Hood's explanation.

Everyone has sexual thoughts on and off the job...the guy flipping hamburgers, the lawyer handling a work discrimination suit, the fireman, the library worker, and yes radiologists, dentists, veterinarians...and doctors...and doctors who perform intimate female exams have more access to foster those thoughts.....they just, for the most part, don't act on them. Reality is a funny thing....the harder and louder you try to deny it...the more real it is.

I imagine it can't be easy being married to a gynaecologist. Especially when you get older and young girls come to his practice.

Luckily, my husband has a ‘normal’ job ;-)!

I am not a medical professional but I can tell you that because of my former profession I saw naked women who were sex professionals and their uninhibited activities 2-3 days a week. When I was at work it didn't feel like anything and I didn't even have time to watch the shows all the time but at home the sex with my wife was amazing. Many times our work began with the women inserting a speculum into their vaginas and showing us their cervix, a woman's most sacred place. It was reportedly their way of showing their trust in us, who had their safety in their hands.

@Emppu Now you got me curious what was your job! Were you a cameraman? Lights operator? Sound tech? Director? Now I'm running out of ideas about jobs needed to make an adult movie. I can't think of any other activity that would let you see their shenigans directly for 3 days a week.

I was in the personal security field. Performance stages were one of our work areas. During the performances we were on stage, for example, behind the curtain, about 2-3 meters away from the performer, ready to act if someone attacked the stage or something else unrelated happened. and it wasn't about movies, it was about stage shows...up to 50 girls a day. I worked in the industry for over 25 years, so I've seen quite a few women's pussies

So live shows, just not filmed... Thanx for explaining!

I was in the personal security field. Performance stages were one of our work areas. During the performances we were on stage, for example, behind the curtain, about 2-3 meters away from the performer, ready to act if someone attacked the stage or something else unrelated happened. and it wasn't about movies, it was about stage shows...up to 50 girls a day. I worked in the industry for over 25 years, so I've seen quite a few women's pussies

Very interesting! I certainly knew that security was needed and provided somehow, but behind the curtain never occurred to me. Should not surprise me since I've worked in the entertainment field for a long time and pretty familiar with the "other show" that happens offstage.

@Emppu

I was in the personal security field. Performance stages were one of our work areas. During the performances we were on stage, for example, behind the curtain, about 2-3 meters away from the performer, ready to act if someone attacked the stage or something else unrelated happened. and it wasn't about movies, it was about stage shows...up to 50 girls a day. I worked in the industry for over 25 years, so I've seen quite a few women's pussies

I bet all your mates were jealous of your job.

@emppu So they had a live sex show involved a speculum? Wild! I can't even think it happening here. Which country was that?

They showed us the cervix as a sign of trust to the security personnel.

all this has happened in finland

Master Doc - He maintains complete professionalism at all times. Gives her a flimsy paper gown or paper sheet only. Gives a very thorough exam. Puts her in a number of clinical positions. Always uses a metal speculum and extends the stirrups at a generously wide angle. Makes sure he gives the husband a great view with maximum exposure. Looks at the husband at critical points to let him know who happens to be in charge of his wife's body at that moment. Engages both husband and wife in conversation during the exam and of course makes sure to inquire about sexual health matters.

That last one is quite rare to find in the wild, but if you do, you will seek him out again!

LMFAO! I'm not convinced this type is rare. Hard to find maybe, but not rare, regardless of those that say they've seen, inspected and handled thousands of female bodies and it has no effect on them. I've also seen thousands of naked females, in porn, and I still get an erection and rub one out when seeing the next one.

@Sanne

I imagine it can't be easy being married to a gynaecologist. Especially when you get older and young girls come to his practice.

I'm certain that the income from his profession goes a long way to easing thoughts of jealousy.

I think using the term "lmfao" is a little over the top directed at Steve W. and maybe it's just a different understanding of what he was talking about. I've seen exactly these various doctor "types" he lists. Here in the US it is very rare to find a doctor (a real one, not play) who openly (not just inwardly enjoying himself) lets on that he is interested in performing an exam in front of the husband. I think Steve W. buried his point in the line "gives the husband a great view with maximum exposure." Most will go to great lengths to pretend they have zero interest, look away while performing parts of the exam, go to great lengths to keep the body covered,and etc. But every now and then you encounter Steve's "master" doctor. They signal ever so subtly that they know darned good and well that you are enjoying watching the exam, and they reciprocate, ever so subtly, with more exposure, better views, not rushing, and so on. They never go into anything unethical, but they are quite noticeable. On an interesting note it's been a female gynecologist that has invited me to take a closer look through the speculum...has happened a few times over the years...never with a male doctor.

But hey, if there are doctors out there openly enjoying themselves during an exam...by all means...let's get a list of them published...I'll have two tickets booked on the next plane out!

I had to read that a couple times, and I think cm110365 is in agreement that turning the brain on and off is a myth. I have not had any doctors invite me to take a look, but oh my wouldn't that be hot. I have had several, all female, comment on how healthy, or, how great my wife's cervix looked. I had one who was twisting away with the pap brush and she said, sorry this is the part of your cervix I cannot see as well. The best though was this one woman who had her finger buried way up inside my wife's butt and when she went to pull out there was this squishy sort of noise from the latex glove that sort of snapped back. She looked over at me and said wow she has the best grip I've ever seen!

So I will repeat a joke a gynocologist once told me when I said I was jealous of his job and upset that I couldn't do better in biology classes. He said what does a gynocologist and a marine biologist have in common. I replied they both take biology classes in college. He replied we both look at crabs all day and deal with a never ending fish smell. While this joke is gross it drove the point home that no one goes to the doctor with a healthy vagina. That's what a general practitioner gets to see and the rare yearly exam everything will be okay. The majority of the women coming into the clinic have issues with odor or sexual infections or pH imbalances or hormone problems or bleeding problems. When they get home they are happy because their significant other isn't spreading their legs and saying hey tell me what's wrong.