Spanking after a long break

This is a question for people who had regularly been spanked for discipline and pleasure but then had a long break (a year or more) with no spanking which was then resumed, maybe with a new partner. I am interested to know how your perception of spankings changed? Did not being spanked for a long while change your pain tolerance and/or psychological or physical reactions?

Had pause for nearly 5 months

Psychologically there is nothing changed - the same mix of "Finally!" and "Why the hell I asked for this insufferable pain again?"

Pain tolerance clearly decreased, but not to the "break-in" level, when I used my stop-word the first and the last time. Interesting, that somehow decreased only butt tolerance - tolerance to hits to the back or to crotch did not changed. May be kind of psychosomatics, dunno

Physical reaction also changed - it was nearly impossible to maintain position and not wriggling around, unlike when spanking was more-or-less regular activity

@strider382 did the person spanking you change and did you get the same out of spanking emotionally (post spanking, not during) as you did before?

@Patientlywaiting The same person, the same tool (wide leather belt), about the same intensity. Post emotions... Much bigger relief when it finally ended, and bigger gratitude to the Master who did the spanking (I mean for making me better by punishment). And also longer time before "Fuck, I want more!" thoughts appeared - about a day and a half instead of few hours

@strider382 It will be a very different situation for me, my husband always spanked me and he passed away a year ago so if I'm ever spanked again, it will be by a totally different person. I'm seriously craving it but also thinking about how it will be.

I went about three years with out being spanked as a result of the Covid pandemic. The "spankings" I get are actually pretty hard canings so when I'd arranged my first post-pandemic punishment date, I was quite apprehensive. As I've said in other posts, I am not a masochist and I don't like pain - but, for me, a proper beating has to hurt a lot. And I also knew from experience that if I haven't been punished for a while, it's easy to forget how much it actually does hurt. That first stroke can be a really nasty shock.

However, once I'd managed to get "into the zone" after the first few strokes had landed, my tolerance was pretty much as it had been previously. Certainly my bottom showed it had been a sound punishment.

Maybe it's like some skills where once you've got the experience and knowledge, it all comes back naturally even after a long break!

@charles_uk Was it with a new person or the same person that caned you before? I've only had a cane used on me for fun. Rather you than me!

@Patientlywaiting - the cane used properly certainly isn't fun! It's not easy to explain exactly what I get out of it and, usually, any attempt to explain results in further confusion. But it pushes certain buttons and is a need I have that needs to be addressed from time to time.

It was from a new punisher. After such a long gap, my previous disciplinarian's circumstances had changed so I had to find someone else.

A new punisher presents its own issues but I don't think they're really that much different if it's a short time after another spanker or a longer gap. It's a case of striking up a new relationship and building trust from scratch. What one person considers a hard punishment, another might think of as being moderate. If you know your spanker and they know you, there's an understanding of limits and boundaries. That's not there the first time someone new is dealing with you. Are they holding back because they aren't sure what you can take, or is it that the punishments I've taken previously really aren't that hard? And, ultimately, it's about trusting someone I don't know at all well initially. I always talk a lot with a new spanker first to build up a degree of understanding but nothing can fully prepare for that first meeting.

And it's also about the chemistry. Sometimes it just doesn't work for me. I might get a feeling during the initial chats or it might be that there's something not quite there when we do meet.

But, despite all that, I do need to be dealt with from time to time and sometimes that means just jumping in and going for it.

As a follow up to my previous post, I hadn't been properly disciplined since January. Neither of my regular disciplinarians are currently available so today I met up with someone I had been talking to on and off for a while on Fetlife.

As I said, with a new punisher it's about building things up from scratch and there's always the concern that their idea of hard is rather different from mine. My normal fear is that I talk up that I can take a hard thrashing and then find that it's too much for me to take!

But there's the other side of the coin too: where the punisher thinks a lot of stingy taps with a small cane is a genuinely hard punishment! And that's what has just happened. Yes, it stung and hurt but it was a massive let down. The colours on my bottom were very vivid immediately afterwards but now, just an hour and a half later, little more than a bit of redness with one small area which might bruise a little.

Maybe next time, after a bit of talk, it might be different but the whole dynamic didn't work for me so I'll put it down to experience and move on.

Yes I find I difficult to find the right disciplinary.when I was very young my brothers gf would discipline me and she knew how to discipline a young man for sure beyond her only my one cousin knows how to discipline me properly but she is a couple thousand miles away so