When you're watching an enema video (or in person), what turns you on the most?

For me, it's several things:

1. First and foremost, the enema must be REAL. I prefer bag enemas.

2. It needs to be from a FULL BAG. Some of the e-videos really cheat. She needs to take it all. No cheating.

3. It needs to be the WHOLE BAG. Giving a few drops of water just isn't realistic, nor is it what I would require if I were the giver.

4. It needs to show the insertion.

5. It needs to clearly show the bag emptying into the receiver / clear tubing is a plus, with soapy water, so one can see the flow. Clear water's not bad, but soapy is better.

6. It needs to involve realistic reactions. Fake screaming, whining, etc. are just stupid. I've given hundreds of enemas to women, and I never got the reactions I sometimes see in videos, because they are fake. I didn't give tiny enemas, either. 2 quarts plus. Always.

7. It needs to show the bag AS THE ENEMA GOES IN. Why? Then you know she got the enema.

8. It's good to have a toilet scene, so you can gauge whether or not she got a real enema. Reality based, Visible Expulsions are appreciated, but not necessary. What IS necessary is to know she got filled.

9. Inflatables and large nozzles being inserted are enjoyable to watch, but cruelty is not, unless only a pencil sketch. I've seen some videos where it's obvious that the purpose is to hurt or harm. I assume they are consensual or at least consensual/nonconsensual, but I actually am concerned for people who are mistreated. Some of these are erotic classics, but...

10. If it is a scenario that emphasizes sexual contact, that can easily spoil the video, because the enema ceases to be the focus and the sex becomes the focus. A true enema lover wants to see THE ENEMA.

11. I like enemas where the enema makes sense, either from a medical or erotic or BDSM perspective, not something that's dumb or impossible to have happen.

As I said, I've given many enemas. I love to give and I love a compliant partner, meaning that I love someone who knows she's getting an enema if she sees me--or at least is willing to accept whatever happens, without complaining too much. Some whimpering and groaning is good, if she cramps. I prefer her to enjoy the process and be accepting of it. Many of my play scenarios involve an enema that was unannounced until the bag came out. If the woman is into medical fetish, it's unlikely that she will resist, when told that it's necessary to be clean for the rectal exam. In such scenarios, I generally give 2-3 enemas from a 2 quart bag, filled completely.

If I'm receiving the enema, then I enjoy a giver who understands the importance of the stimulation involved, is committed to giving the full bag, is caring (I can't quite take a full Klystra bag since my surgeries), and is helpful when it comes to afterplay (prostate massage, etc.). When receiving, I prefer "enemas till clear," which generally takes a fair amount of time, and when I have seen Pro-Dommes, I let them know that I expect to get completely cleaned out.

That's all I can think of at the moment.

Comments welcome, especially from women, but anyone is fine.

Nozzle insertion. I like to see it disappear inside because I can imagine how good it feels. I am always disappointed when a hand or something hides the insertion in a video.

More or less in order of importance:

* The more realistic, the better. My favorite are the rare truly amateur videos that women or couples filmed of themselves. The more the enema seems staged, the less I'm going to be into it. I'm completely out when the enema itself is obviously faked.

* I strongly prefer erotic enemas, especially a woman masturbating or otherwise being brought to orgasm as she takes a bag enema. While this can be in a BD scene, the more willing or excited she is about the enema, the better for me. But it does have to stay grounded and realistic. In my experience women are generally pretty quiet when they masturbate or are otherwise being sexually stimulated until just before they orgasm, not squealing and moaning loudly in ecstasy the first moment their clits are rubbed.

* Just like @Doctorh3e, I want them to take the enema with a bag holding at least a quart, and do their best to take it all. The videos of women repeatedly taking half of an 8 oz bulb or taking a shower shot for just a second or two and then squirting it out before they do it again do nothing for me.

* While I like to see a woman expel, I don't need them to have any further relationship with any excrement produced. While, if Im honest, I don't mind seeing a bit of brown come out (seems more real / unstaged), I am repulsed by the scat videos with smearing (and I hate to even mention eating). Not kink shaming any of you who are into that stuff, thats just on the wrong side of my personal line.

* Equipment wise, I've already mentioned my strong preference for bags. For nozzles, I ideally like seeing something other than the standard enema pipe. A douche nozzle is absolutely fine with me, as I believe most of us into erotic enema play graduated quickly from the enema tip to the douche nozzle and stayed with it for quite a while before moving up to more exotic nozzles like dbc's or 1"+ delrin.

* I want to see the process from beginning to end - other than I am personally ambivalent about watching equipment being put together or bags filled. I want to see the lubing of the nozzle and anus, I want to see the insertion (preferably close up), I want to see and hear the clamp open, I want to see the bag deflate slowly while still showing her as she takes it. I want to see a close up of the nozzle being removed. Ideally I want to see her struggle just a little while she holds it a few minutes, and I want to see her expel it.

I really like enema video when it is given with enema bulb as I find squeezing of bulb very erotic, for some reasons I like seeing enema with soft nozzle in other words one piece enema. Love seeing nice shape bum and woman enjoying giving herself enemas, multiple insertions are very nice.

it is also lovely when woman is giving enema to younger man or woman, either for erotic purposed or before medical exam or anal sex.

Love when I can see how she fills bulb from glass container and it is clearly visible how volume goes down.

Also great to see her lubing anus , even better inserting finger and also lubing nozzle.

Her ass or ass of receiving person either in all 4's or on side.

And then nice slow squeezing

Great to have some sort of rectal exam after enema

Up until the age of 12 Y.O. my mother gave me my enema's. I remember being "inviter" into the bathroom seeing the big red enema bag hanging on the back of

the bathroom door. My mom swishing some warm water around in the bag. Next she sat down on top of the toilet seat, an invited me across her lap, I was gentle placed, felt my butt being spread and the enema nozzle gently inserted, and the warm water started entering my behid, all the while my mom telling me "that's good", just a little more.

As I started feeling cramped she spoke softly, paused the flow, told me I was doing great and there was just a little more to go.

It wasn't until I heard the sound of the bag emptying that I allowed up, the toilet seat raised and I was seated to release. Afterwards I always felt great.

If I could I wouldn't have changed a thing.

"They were the best" .

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My preferences, in addition to those stated above? I like the receiver to have--how to put it nicely?--decent skin. Few things turn me off more than zits on the person's butt, or scars from past injury. (There's this woman with scars that look like cigarette burns, and it's all I notice.) That said, a butt that's a bit pink from a spanking is a plus. Seeing it happen as a lead-in to the enema is a bigger plus.

I don't need a perfect body, but I'd like someone who's reasonably healthy looking. As long as we're wishing, I'd like no hemorrhoids, no surgical scars, minimal tattoos and genital piercings, if any.

Ordinarily I don't care who shaves or doesn't but I prefer not to have curls blocking my view.

Please, can't the recipient be clean? I hate seeing the dirty soles of someone's feet (common in older videos especially). And can we tidy up the bathroom so we don't see the mildew in the grout, the many shower products on display, etc.?

No pets watching--a curious dog ruins it! TV or music in the background is distracting, even though I get that it's probably to cover any noise that might be overheard by others.

Let me add that I like a bag at least three-quarters full, a flow meter on the hose, with camera angles or panning that let me see both the shrinking bag and the spinning flow meter as well as the nozzle planted where it goes. I want proof it's a real enema going into a real person.

I enjoy the recipient's indication of rising discomfort, but not anything approaching pain. A little begging is a plus if it seems genuine, like "Isn't that enough?" or "Please, I'm so full," that sort of thing.

Making the recipient wait, holding the enema in considerable discomfort, if it fits the scene and the apparent relationship between giver and taker. A plug is nice, even though it's no guarantee of success.

No expulsion for me, thanks. To each their own.

And among my favorite endings is the person re-entering from the bathroom where they've expelled, and the enema administrator saying they'll get another one now. The person's face (when it's real) is wonderful.

So difficult to listen to all these variations that constitute a real enema. Difficult to get through without having an orgasm on the way of reading it a little disappointed regarding how someone’s buttocks might look when you are in your 70s you know it might not look great. I am only 95 to 100 pounds my butt is old I feel like That last entry made it sound like that would make a difference. It’s just not that firm anymore. oh well, someone might like the sagging lady.

@Bag_Lady Welcome to Zity. We all get older and our bodies show the test of time, but those who love us cherish us and forgive the wrinkles and scars!

Insertion, insertion, insertion! And a slight reaction on muscles and on the face!

I love seeing enemas given and taken with sensuality, eroticism, arousal, and realism. I don’t need a skit or a scene… just two (or sometimes one) person getting an erotic enema and certainly want to hear the sincere moans of the recipient. I want to know they are aroused… I enjoy seeing them cum.

Welcome to Zity @Bag_Lady. Nobody cares what you look like, here. Share your interests and experiences. We all have a history.

For me, the bread and butter of any enema video is a scenario where attractive females are giving males enemas in a realistic medical setting. There's just something special about a male patient submitting to an epic cleanout from an pretty, younger female nurse. I prefer the nurse in the video to be dressed realistically in scrubs, or perhaps a genuine nurse's uniform like they wore in the 60s and 70s. I don't care much for the nurse being dressed in a provocative nurse "costume" with her ass showing, or her tits hanging out.....too unrealistic.....unless of course it leads to porn which ruins the scenario altogether.

I also like to see realistic hospital enema equipment like a nurse would use to give a cleansing or barium enema. I like for the nurse in the video to do an explicit insertion, using dialogue like when real nurses try to calm patients during the insertion, and also when cramping starts happening. I find the realistic hospital enema scenario extremely erotic. Because men really do receive enemas from attractive female nurses without an openly sexual theme taking place.......even though the experience is perhaps secretly very sexual to the male recipient. I've experienced it firsthand on several occasions myself. At the time it didn't seem like too much fun, and it was embarrassing. But then I had time to soak in what just happened to me and became excited about it. This is why I like enema scenes with Kelle Martina, Alexandria Snow and Noelle Knight. They use many of these realistic nursing themes. The Stonefox series is the standard by which all enema videos are measured though.

@Bag_Lady A butts a butt! In my 20’s and 30’s, a nice tight butt vs a 45 year old female butt that had wide hips due to child birth was my preference. Woiuld I have turned any bottom down or a 70 year old…..no, as long as it was clean and free of gross pimples or mine fields like @PinotNoir said. Now, I’d prefer a more mature bottom than one that looked my granddaughter.

Keep the faith….The fact you care about how your bottom appears says a lot. It’s exquisite! To us guys, they are ALL beautiful!

What do I like? The visual, close up of prep and insertion, stimulation with the nozzle, stretching of the anus with a medium to reasonably large nozzle, reaction (if not phony) to it, real enema not an empty bag - clean expulsions proving it wasn’t fake

I'm more turned on by a real enema, without any acting. Specifically, the feeling of being filled, the moans, the holding, everything that feels truly real. And also the position.

@Doctorh3e I totally agree with all your points. Essentially any/most of the Collector videos have the attributes we seek.

Some interesting preferences. The big theme coming out of members' comments seems to be the wish for realism in these videos. I concur with that especially after wasting I don't know how much time watching phony ones with something besides water--crumpled up paper ?--filling the bag, stupid dialogue that is not audible , nurses wearing caps and uniforms labelled with a cross and as one member commented," breasts hanging out" with the creators having the audacity to make the setting look otherwise medical. Near the top of my list is dialogue between the participants with them frequently using that magic E word. In a more erotic context I prefer they talk rather than moan and groan. Talk such as "what is Daddy doing to your bum ? and S(HE) replies something like "Daddy's giving me a warm soapy enema up my bum so he can fuck me up there later " turns me on personally. My pet peeve is when videos are labelled with the word "ENEMA' and the closest to one you find in the video is someone using a buttplug on someone. Each to his/her own goes without saying, in our Zity context. Some of you might like watching some guy tied up while another guy rams a non lubed garden hose up his ass while smacking him with a paddle but those hard core B and D scenes don't work for me. I would like to see more guys being enema gentle with one another. That's all. Thanks for your above comments.

The insertion of the nozzle, the belly massage, the big belly distension

At one point I had a good collection of Collector DVDs. There were two activities I wanted to especially see in the videos: expulsions and masturbation by the beautiful models.

The best one of all was called Madam X, a curvy redheaded mature lady, who kept her face hidden. No expulsions in this one, but two different scenes which could always take me over the top. One when she was laying face down, she reached back, spreading her cheeks and holding them open while the Collecter teased her hole and slowly inserted a big nozzle. The other she was laying on her back, face still hidden, taking the the bag with her legs in the air, masturbating enthusiastically. I liked to think that is just how she'd do it if she was alone in this intimate moment.

Years ago I got rid of my Collector DVDs so they wouldn't be found accidently by anyone else. Only 1 survived I had hidden in a different place. It's called Lola, a gorgeous young woman, who pleasures herself during the last of her 4 enemas. I haven't been able to part with this one yet.

For me my favorite part of watching someone receive an enema is a close up view of a douche nozzle sliding slowly in and fully inserted. Most of the time they just get about an inch in and just leave it hanging there a the recipient starts complaining about how full they are.

I’ve always enjoyed seeing a full figured women with a big bottom and big thighs with a nice bush lay on her back and pull her legs back and see the douche nozzle being fully inserted.

Best scenario for me is both the giver and receiver totally naked and in a real setting. I’ve always loved seeing an older mature women’s bodies even when I was younger.

I’ve always loved seeing an older mature women’s bodies even when I was younger.

You've come to the right place, then!

Much has already been said here: no sex, no fake bags, no silly costumes, and so on, but rather a story from beginning to end, including the subsequent emptying. But I would like to add two aspects that are important to me: First, there should be a giver and a receiver, and second, very importantly, both should speak. Only then will their relationship to each other and the feelings that prevail during the procedure become clear. Is the giver strict, matter-of-fact, caring, pleased? Is the recipient shy, bashful, greedy, excited? Does she feel humiliated or well treated? -- Only when people talk does something happen. Only when you hear what one person wants and what that triggers in the other does tension arise. For me, nothing is more boring than an enema performed in total silence.

The best ones for me are the real ones made at home by real people. The amateur style videos are great because of the familiar little things like the how the water sounds when it is running, the less than perfect look of the bathroom, the neighbors dog barking, etc. It’s unintentionally intimate and then you can tell it’s the sound of real moans as you can watch the bag get smaller and the belly gets bigger. I love the looks of relief when releasing and the sounds of it hitting the bowl in unison.