How Often Have You Had Sex? Can you remember most, many, few?

Laying awake at night I happened to start wondering how often I've had (real) sex during my life.

I calculated the 'average' frequency of around 3 times per week, adjusted for the span of my active sex life and came out at between 3 to 4 thousand. But then I started thinking about specific instances, ones that I can more or less place distinctively and recollect consciously enough to be a true memory, instances that I can recall with details.

And dang if I had trouble coming up with more than 25 instances and that included all the sex partners I've had over the years. 25 memories of having sex sure ain't many and no matter how I let my mind drift or think or not think, I seem to truly have forgotten about all except for a fraction of a percent. I find it kind of depressing.

So, since misery loves company, I'm wondering what the tally might be for other members? Mind you, for this to count, the memories have to be true and distinct, not just some number that would 'probably' be right. I mean really specific memories.

We don't count.

My wife and I, under normal circumstances, tend to have sex every night. Of course, there are times when we won't (tired, etc.) or can't (lack of privacy, husband or wife away..). From that we can get an approximation for penis-in-vagina sex.

We have largely stopped blowjobs or handjobs except as foreplay, so these must be quite smaller counts. Penis-in-anus attempts can be counted on the fingers of one hand.

Not many before I met BA. I’d guess 3-4 times a week before her strokes for 20 years, Which was pretty frequent considering how much I traveled for work. Not counting what we’re doing now which isn’t penetrative sex on my part.

Yes, amazing how few one can actually remember distinctly. Which is weird considering the importance we place on sex. On the other hand, how many Meals can you remember? Look at how important they are. 😃👍

Yes, amazing how few one can actually remember distinctly. Which is weird considering the importance we place on sex. On the other hand, how many Meals can you remember? Look at how important they are. 😃👍

Yeah, but meals are not usually all that pleasant. Not as memorable as sex can be. You eat because it's a true biological necessity. You have sex because it can be pleasant and fun.

No SEX here these days, IF I do something nice, brownie points only last a few minutes and the female partner feels she is punishing you but cutting out any intermacies. What they don't realise is they 9females) are only driving US away. regardsd, irrigator333

Easy for me right now, 5 or 6 times. I recently saw my ex again and we had a quickie in the bar's bathroom.

Hi Hi iaka!!!!, Never did it in the bathroom of a bar .. but after work at the local "waterin hole' across from the "shop" .. on the way out she said," My place or yours??" I said,"How about right here!!!" I had a 1993 Ford long bed "Econoline" van and I kept "fixins for when I didn't want to drive home... shoulda' posted the sign i had that said..."If this Van is Rockin' don't come knockin'!!!!!" Twas a great night!!

Audentes, Fortuna, Iuvat!!!!,

PS Yes!! it was in the parking lot!!!!

highwater

My wife and I were having sex several days a week until we had the kids. Now it's just masterbastion for me. But boy it's just like the TV show with David Spade where he counts everything his girlfriend at the time says that could be considered a sexual innuendo. The things my wife says gets me horn. Sex at this time would be risky she was diagnosed with AFIB three or four years ago.

Difficult to say this but it been maybe less than 50 times during my entire life... Its not that I havent wanted to do it more. It has been do to an uneasiness about the act itself for me. I felt awkward and dirty and embarrassed. I feel because one I grew up with encopresis and two my mom made me feel sex was wrong and horrible. I think religion caused her to feel this way and she taught me to be ashamed of sexual things. So I have tried to avoid the act.

We have never counted the number of times having sex nor the kinds of sex. I can remember quite a few that were particularly "memorable". lol. I once heard that when a young couple first get married, they should put a bean in a large jar for everytime they had sex the first year of their marriage. After the first year of marriage, you were supposed to take a bean out of the jar each time you had sex. It was predicted that the jar never gets emptied out before you pass on! Might be some truth to that for most couples but I am bound and determined to not happen with us. The old saying goes, "Use it or lose it" definitely applies! 😃 Denise

I never counted and have been sexually active almost 40 years. With my wife, it would probably average out to about 2 times every 3 weeks due to her health problems. For whatever reason, I remember having sex with some of my old girlfriends more vividly than with my wife. That sounds terrible, and I am sure that over 90% of the sex I have had has been with my wife. When I was in my late teens and early 20s I think the sex was more adventurous, daring, in some ways taboo - so I think it was more memorable in a way.

@denise Definitely. Well ssid.

I never counted and have been sexually active almost 40 years.

I wasn't really asking about how many times you've had sex.

I asked about how many times you can actively remember having sex, how many times you could describe how things happened or about anything memorable that happened or with whom or where.

The reason I got to wondering is because out of the few thousand number of times I must have had sex according to the law of averages and such, I can still only remember about 25 of these clearly enough to have a memory of those 25 and be able to say something about them.

All the others seem to have gone into the great black hole of oblivion. Whatever happened to those memories, why did I forget more than 99% of the instances? I have no idea.

But I was wondering if others are in the same situation.

@agracier Same here. One remembers only the extraordinary

The human mind best remembers first and last events. Do I remember those early times having sex? Of course, but also various partners plus unique events such as first time giving oral, receiving oral, menstrual sex, positions, locations, and so on. Now apply those events to the last time.

The memorable sexcapades stick out - a great orgasm, a broken inflatable nozzle, a new place having sex, the times he orgasmed so long, the times we both needed the sexual connection, ECT. They are the experiences I remember. I can't place a number on the times it happened, but they are great memories.

I think it has to do with age and experience. As a teen my first few times, I didn’t know what to expect, I just knew it felt so so so good. I just wanted to get to the end for that great feeling. I didn’t have a place, so it was do it where you can finish and get going. But as I got older, and had a place, well we could do it slowly, and more then once, 3 times was as many as I could go in one time, and then a 4 th time after a rest. But now once, and then sleep.

I’ve been sexually active for 45 years. Some of those years were more active than others but honestly I don’t think I’ve ever gone longer than a month without sex. Using 3x a week for an average - which is a swag (balances the every day weeks/ multiple acts in a session with the dry spells) but close enough for this exercise that’s 7020 acts of coitus. Yes the memorable ones stand out.

I remember the line from a movie when a woman was asked the same question. "How do you count the waves in the ocean?" I would probably come up with a fairly active number of partners but I don't want to look backward too long. As Jimmy Buffett used to sing, 'There is too much to see in front of me."

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@highwater

Holy moly, I'd really love to do this in a car, and a parking lot sounds like an exciting place to get it on... that being said gotta be careful about whoever could be looking! Also would like to have outdoor sex, rooftop sex, right next to a window of a high-rise building so you literally do it exposed but no one can see you because it's just too high. I got a thing for sex in odd places, you got me here 😜

My pump odometer has clicked over to 000000 twice, and it's still counting up! This is a tad of an exaggeration but am slut will travel. I enjoy sex.

Times I clearly remember as special number 20-something. They are the first times with different partners or remarkably submissive acts I have made, where I felt truly owned, stand out.

Holy moly, I'd really love to do this in a car, and a parking lot sounds like an exciting place to get it on... that being said gotta be careful about whoever could be looking! Also would like to have outdoor sex, rooftop sex, right next to a window of a high-rise building so you literally do it exposed but no one can see you because it's just too high. I got a thing for sex in odd places, you got me here 😜

If you find those things exiting @Hi_iaka try being bent over a truck hood, face down in front of a pub patio, and fucked or pined to a pub wall and deep kissed wth a hand up your skirt. Things that turn me on. A little too fast for you?

@Bad_Princess Think I'd go for the second option, except I'm the one pinning the girl, unless she's big or burly... in which case I do accept being topped 😉

Good question. I lost my virginity over 50 years ago, have had a few sexual flings before I met my wife, and got married, so to take a guess, definitely at least a couple of hundred times, but no records were broken. I’m sure that many group members have had more frequent sexual relationships than I have, and more satisfying.

I started early, to many to remember. But I do remember some special flings. 😉

Agracier, maybe you are not eating the best food? 😀

I've been having sex since I was about 15 and loved it but was still afraid of getting pregnant and all of that but when I found out how to have better birth control besides condoms and later the pill, I really got hooked. So I've been having sex for about 26 years now and average fucking about 5 times a week. So that makes it about 6,760 times that I have had sex but that isn't totally accurate since the 4 or 5 times a week isn't just a one and done fuck but maybe 2 or 3 times during that session or whatever you want to call it. I don't actually count how many times I fuck or am fucked during those times and some of those times include going down on my guy or a hand job or anal or between my tits or wherever.

I have also had more than one partner during some of those times and I don't stop to count because I am totally into fucking at the time and not keeping score. 😉 So being able to put an exact number on how many times I've had sex would be nothing more than a guess and I don't see myself slowing down anytime soon. I love sex and everything about it and it is the best way to just be myself. There are sometimes when I've gone without for almost a week like being sick or on my period but even then I will do anal in a heart beat or oral and that counts as far as I'm concerned.

I'm a slut for the people I want to fuck and I think I will have to count fucking a woman too but I'm not going to even try to do the math on that one. 🙄

I'm a slut for the people I want to fuck

@Dahiana Wish I was on your list!!! 🥰😜😋😋😋😉🌹🌹🌹