How are women supposed to give a handjob to a circumcised man?

How do you give a handjob when they're circumsized, isn't there too much friction sliding fingers over the tip? On the odd occasions I give my husband a handjob my top finger and thumb are wrapped around his foreskin which slides back and forward over the tip. Do you just have to use lube every time?

How do you give a handjob when they're circumsized, isn't there too much friction sliding fingers over the tip? Do you just have to use lube every time?

I wonder about this as well, it just sounds like it would be much more work to do a hand job on a circumcised penis. I think lube must have to be used, or saliva. Maybe it just has to be kept wet with something because it must be uncomfortable with friction if it is done dry and wouldn't the glans just get raw if it was done too much?

On the odd occasions I give my husband a handjob my top finger and thumb are wrapped around his foreskin which slides back and forward over the tip.

Most times I just wrap my whole hand around my husband's penis when I do a hand job on him and that makes his foreskin move backwards and forwards so his glans is out and then it is hidden again, and I have a lot of fun doing that. I have got other things I like to do though, I do what you do with my fore finger and thumb and it is good to vary it because he says it feels different. Another one of them when I have pulled his foreskin back with wet hand or some lube, I wrap my fore finger and thumb around the ridge of his exposed glans to give him more stimulation.

I wonder about this as well, it just sounds like it would be much more work to do a hand job on a circumcised penis. I think lube must have to be used, or saliva. Maybe it just has to be kept wet with something because it must be uncomfortable with friction if it is done dry and wouldn't the glans just get raw if it was done too much?Most times I just wrap my whole hand around my husband's penis when I do a hand job on him and that makes his foreskin move backwards and forwards so his glans is out and then it is hidden again, and I have a lot of fun doing that. I have got other things I like to do though, I do what you do with my fore finger and thumb and it is good to vary it because he says it feels different. Another one of them when I have pulled his foreskin back with wet hand or some lube, I wrap my fore finger and thumb around the ridge of his exposed glans to give him more stimulation.

Yeah I use my whole hand too, but I kinda use the foreskin as a guide for where the top of my hand should be. When we first got together and I was out of practice with guys, he moved my hand there, I think I must have been holding him lower down and not giving the head enough attention. Once he's well enough lubed I run my thumb straight over the tip and he loves that.

@JT1999 @Amethyst You are totally right to wonder how to masturbate a circumcised man. I guess it depends on where the circumcision scar is (close to the glans? away from it?) and how loose or tight the skin is. I definitely can attest that several inexperienced girls caused me discomfort and even minor injuries when trying to give me handjobs, and my wife, despite being more experienced, sometimes causes me irritation. Even intercourse can cause some irritation.

Either one uses lubrication (but it dries very quickly; thus the interest of doing it in the vagina, which self-lubricates), or one rubs very carefully (rubbing without friction on the totally dried glans is then better than being a bit wet, enough to "stick" but not enough to glide).

Recall this surgery (especially the tight versions, if I'm correct) was not so long touted for deterring boys (or even adult men) from masturbating without hampering their capacity for reproduction.

Regarding masturbation techniques, I can throw in some info based on personal experience. I always wondered myself how circumcised guys masturabated without a foreskin. I now know and I’m happy to share.

Prior to being circumcised my primary method was repeated retraction of my foreskin. I guess that’s the norm, I used light grip with first two fingers and thumb. I know others use a full palm grip and some don’t (maybe can’t) retract.

After my circumcision I had to relearn how to do it. There’s three main methods for me. The first is just grabbing the shaft skin and shuffling it as best as possible. I’m cut tight with no coverage so the glans doesn’t get direct stimulation. However, if I’m in a sitting position there’s a bit more slack. It’s more subtle and needs focus but there’s a slight sensation which is (I think) caused by the repeated tension on the glans skin surface as it’s stretched. I can increase stimulation by encircling with thumb and first finger around base of glans while ‘shuffling’. Handling the inner foreskin area and the slight friction against corona does the job.

Second is to slide my hand up and down with a very loose grip. While it’s dry, there’s not so much friction. The light touch is good although it sometimes feels like day to day friction wearing my cotton boxers. I just have to be careful I don’t overdo it and get sore.

Last is the lube method. Basically a blob of moisturiser or massage oil of some sort (never soap or shower gel!) in my palm. It’s mind-blowing but a bit more messy. I keep this as an occasional treat as I find that it has an impact on glans sensitivity, e.g. if I do this then try first method next day I struggle. It takes a few days to get back to where I was.

There’s minor variations on these.

@Dwayne

Thanks for sharing your experiences. Even as a uncircumcised guy, I can confirm that masturbating while keeping the foreskin retracted tightly feels way different and that I had similar experiences while experimenting with taping methods to keep my head exposed.

At first I could hardly come by just stimulating the head, but after experimenting for two weeks it became my favorite masturbation style.

This is a question I get a lot with new partners and most partners I have had struggled to do it to me without lube.

When I am doing it myself, I don't use lube because I didn't have access to it as a kid so I developed a specific technique when I started to masturbate. I have no loose skin even when soft, so to masturbate I grasp really tightly around the tiny strip of skin between the scar and the head, making sure one of the fingers on that hand is pressing firmly against the frenulum that the doctor thankfully left me with, and then I do hard and fast but tiny movements on that area and rely on friction to do the work.

Most partners don't like gripping so hard or pressing in those places, and they have told me they think it must hurt, so we always fall back to using lube!

I guess if you are used to the long, gentle gliding action of someone with a foreskin, my method must look brutal to them lol. It got me through the difficult teenage years (with only a few tears and abrasions along the way!), but it did make it difficult to cum the first few times I had sex (much the the delight of my partners I imagine, lol), because I had to adjust to not having the death grip pressure to get me off.

With lube, the sliding over the glans of my uncircumcised member is intense. My wife teases me with this. Intense but delayed or extended edging before climax.

Thank you @Dwayne and @Testy_Paul_a, it just sounds like it is all a bit of a struggle really and difficult to do at all. I am still not sure what I would do about it, and it just seems like using lube helps but there is a chance it could just get rubbed raw and be painful unless you keep using more lube. I do not understand the bit about using lube making the glans less sensitive either.

You wrap your hand around his dick and stroke it back and forth.

I’ve literally jerked off dozens of circumcised cocks and have never had an issue. I don’t understand what the big deal is in these ‘can’t give a handjob to a circumcised penis’ threads.

Edit (as I thought it was started by a dude)

Vary the pressure you used to hold it with. You want your hand to slide back and forth. Unless you’re tearing skin, you’re unlikely to hurt it.

@Nurse_Phillips YOU got it... well done!

@Nurse_Phillips said

I’ve literally jerked off dozens of circumcised cocks and have never had an issue. I don’t understand what the big deal is in these ‘can’t give a handjob to a circumcised penis’ threads.

Well... to be fair, you are looking at the question through an American lens. It's a different matter for (most) women native to the UK and Europe, whose experience is primarily with unmodified males.

@DrZ

That’s why I added the addendum. I responded initially thinking this was another of the dozen threads started by guys about circumcision

I have never experienced any difficulties. Either grip it tightly and move the skin to the extent possible, or grip it loosely and stroke it like you would stroke any other part of the body. Even better, alternate between the two pressures. Personally, I prefer without lube.

You could alter your technique by rubbing the flat part of your palm over the tip / glans. You could also rub or touch lightly around the base of the glands where it meets the shaft, and the frenulum. I had a gf in college who never really did the up and down stroking as much as she touched and massaged the head part. Sometimes she would take both hands and grasp the shaft, lightly twisting in opposite directions. She was not into oral sex, but never failed to bring me to orgasm with her "handiness"

You are overthinking, if in doubt ask the owner of the said circumcised penis what he likes, is best for him or get him to show you. Easy

Fortunately I have never had to masturbate a circumsised penis. I would have been at a loss as to what to do !!!

Perhaps I am guilty of what @DrZ said - I am looking through an American lens. Even more so, I have a circumcised penis myself. One that I have made happy with my own hand more times then can be possibly counted! My understanding of the uncircumcised penis is the foreskin retracts and almost disappears when it gets hard. My Mr Happy does not have said foreskin, but once hard, circumcised and uncircumcised penises pretty much are the same. I like to think I give a nice lil head (pun intended) start to anyone who is wonderful enough to play with mine because of my always exposed head.

My understanding of the uncircumcised penis is the foreskin retracts and almost disappears when it gets hard.

@MarcNY - In reality that is far from universal. It is that way for some men but not for for others. And not being the way you describe does not indicate a problem, but is one version of normal.

@DrZ

That’s why I added the addendum. I responded initially thinking this was another of the dozen threads started by guys about circumcision

@Nurse_Phillips - I know exactly what you mean, and thanks for the clarification. On these threads, usually it ends up with the same argument on repeat. Sometimes I think a thread titled Circumcision Ideology Fight Club is needed to move those tangential arguments to, so that the other threads can remain on the actual discussion point put forward. 😁

Since my Wife died last year, my libido has not diminished so I am self administering. I find that Aloe Vera gel is great. Remember ladies that you are basically simulating your Vagina, which is wet and warm. After a short while, the Gel dries a bit, but usually, running my fingers fairly tightly up the underside of the shaft, extracts a small amount of the natural juice ( from the Cowpers Gland) which revitalises the Gel. If that js not enough, then Saliva keeps things nicely moist. If you don’t like the mess from the ejaculate, I use a Vinyl Glove slipped over the Penis in the final moments before coming, I can get my Cock into one of the fingers, which gives a nice tight sensation as I cum.

Circumcision Ideology Fight Club

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You wrap your hand around his dick and stroke it back and forth.

I’ve literally jerked off dozens of circumcised cocks and have never had an issue. I don’t understand what the big deal is in these ‘can’t give a handjob to a circumcised penis’ threads.

Edit (as I thought it was started by a dude)

Vary the pressure you used to hold it with. You want your hand to slide back and forth. Unless you’re tearing skin, you’re unlikely to hurt it.

@Nurse_Phillips You nailbed it, girl! There is very little if any difference between circumcised and uncircumcised. The never endings are not in the skin that was left by not circumfixing the penis anyhow. Forgive me but if you worried about the foreskin, you in the wrong mindset anyhow.

Now during my wild and crazy days, when I was using my mouth instead of my hand I did check for smegma under the foreskin in uncircumcised males.

once hard, circumcised and uncircumcised penises pretty much are the same.

But @MarcNY they are not the same. I have got a few friends who have had sex with circumcised men and they say hand jobs are not the same because there is no foreskin to move backwards and forwards. I got together with a few of my group of friends today, 9 of them and we got onto talking about sex, and I brought this up because we had not specially talked about hand jobs before. lol Well they said how when you do hand jobs with uncircumcised men there is movement of the foreskin backwards and forwards over the glans. That is like I find there is with my husband and I love it. ❤️ But they said circumcised men are not as easy because there is not that skin movement, and they did not like it as much. But 2 friends who said they actually prefer circumcised penises said it is ok, you can just spit on it to lube it!

But @MarcNY they are not the same. I have got a few friends who have had sex with circumcised men and they say hand jobs are not the same because there is no foreskin to move backwards and forwards. I got together with a few of my group of friends today, 9 of them and we got onto talking about sex, and I brought this up because we had not specially talked about hand jobs before. lol Well they said how when you do hand jobs with uncircumcised men there is movement of the foreskin backwards and forwards over the glans. That is like I find there is with my husband and I love it. ❤️ But they said circumcised men are not as easy because there is not that skin movement, and they did not like it as much. But 2 friends who said they actually prefer circumcised penises said it is ok, you can just spit on it to lube it!

@Amethyst, Of course I will never know what it feels like to enjoy that foreskin movement you describe. I can tell you that I LOVE having the head always fully exposed. (Think of it as the Dude's Clit) For me, a hand job or a blowjob needs to concentrate on the ever exposed gland. I love the feel of a hand, mouth or tongue directly on it. It's right there for the playin' with no skin covering

For me, a hand job or a blowjob needs to concentrate on the ever exposed gland. I love the feel of a hand, mouth or tongue directly on it. It's right there for the playin' with no skin covering

I get what you mean @MarcNY, it makes a lot of sense to me. I do a lot of that as well with my husband, it is all part of the teasing and stimulation. 😈

@MarcNY - In reality that is far from universal. It is that way for some men but not for for others. And not being the way you describe does not indicate a problem, but is one version of normal.

@DrZ, I guess I lack a good reference to "how the other half lives" penis'wise. Living in The States, especially in NY City, exposes me to those who are more than likely to have seen mostly circumcised (although that is changing quite a bit). I would think that any dedicated lover would figure out what a fella likes. The one being played with could also do himself a solid and share anything that really gives him thrills. Don't keep any of the good stuff secret

I get what you mean @MarcNY, it makes a lot of sense to me. I do a lot of that as well with my husband, it is all part of the teasing and stimulation. 😈

@Amethyst , It would sound like hubby is a lucky guy!

The never endings are not in the skin that was left by not circumfixing the penis anyhow. Forgive me but if you worried about the foreskin, you in the wrong mindset anyhow.

I do not agree @ddell2 because my husband enjoys light touches there because of the nerve endings he has got, he does not need rough treatment of his penis. Some posts on Zity make it sound like a lot of circumcised men need their penises to be handled quite roughly to get them to an orgasm and I think that is a bit of a shame really. I think a lot of American ladies think the foreskin is a problem to cope with because circumcised men are what they are used to and they learned to do hand jobs without foreskin. But British ladies like foreskin a lot more than them, or they are just not bothered about it. I think it is natural and part of the fun to play with it though so I am different to you, we have just got different ideas about it.

@Amethyst , It would sound like hubby is a lucky guy!

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