LADIES, What do you like most about sex with men?

What do you like about sex with men (physically and/or psychologically)? What don't you like? What could we do to make it better?

The single biggest thing is ask your partner what she likes and spend some time after sex doing a ‘start, stop, continue’ discussion

I like that my longtime partner is more concerned with my pleasure than his own. He says he gets a big boost from every orgasm I have. (Me, too!)

I like how it makes me feel powerful to cause the reaction I get when I give him oral.

I like the way he enters, a little in, a little back, in a little more, until I'm really getting impatient.

I like the way it feels when he's inside me. It seems so right it's like he should always be there. Awkward to explain at the library or grocery store, though.

I like sharing a laugh about our thwarted attempts at various positions stymied by physical aches and pains. It sometimes takes a while to find something that both works and doesn't hurt either one of us.

I like how his mouth feels warmer than my pussy, and how he'll tease me for a long time before licking my asshole.

I like how he'll offer to look at porn with me beforehand, to get us both in the mood, but what the people are doing in that porn is mine to choose.

I like how carefree we are in bed, messing up the covers, each other's hair, knocking things off the nightstand, all that.

I like how accepting of my body he is, probably more than I am. And I appreciate that he understands that and is good if I just want some candlelight form the other side of the room, or to leave the light on in the bathroom.

And because we've been together so long, I like the emotional intimacy as well, including the afterglow.

I like everything about the closeness I have got with my husband when we have sex, it makes our emotional bond stronger and I think that is more important than anything. He is a very physical man as well and he has always just picked up on how and where I have liked to be touched and he puts my orgasms first. I love giving him his own pleasure too though, I am not selfish, I love giving at least as much as getting! I love how he feels inside me and when he has his release in me I feel very satisfied that I have caused that! And positions-wise I really love doggy! I have got a bit of thing about missionary too and being on top of him but doggy is just the best.

The single biggest thing is ask your partner what she likes and spend some time after sex doing a ‘start, stop, continue’ discussion

@Nurse_Phillips Could you please elaborate or give an example of how you have used this technique? Are you listing new things you want to try and things you don’t want to do anymore? Or is this a more targeted and nuanced discussion?

Talk about what you liked and ask her what she liked - be specific (continue). Ask what wasn’t good, what she didn’t like (stop) and ask her what she would like you to do that you’re not (start).

"Awkward to explain at the library or grocery store, though." That gave me a good chuckle @PinotNoir . 😃

I was going to be dramatic, but thought no, just be honest slut. I use men for their cock. I like the feel of cock inside me and cum. Being held in place, squirming and squealing, or meekly submitting to receive it. I feel disgusted with myself after the act. For me, it is a humiliating experience. I like those feelings. Sending a dick pic is a sure way to turn me off or be unfriended. Revolting looking things. But still they dispense the cum I enjoy. Leaves me in a quandary, frankly.

I like a good cock once in a while. I like to be reminded that at one time I thought they were important. That I once craved that sort of thing. I enjoy the feeling of being penetrated. The rhythm of the act. The release. The mess.

As I said, I like a good cock once in a while. I just really don't care what it's attached to. Don't tell me how good you are. Or how this time will be the greatest. Or what we will do next time, because there is rarely if ever a next time.

The man is my plaything. The only reason he is included is, as @Bad_Princess alluded to, is his rod and cum. The rest is disposable.

Please understand I'm not humiliated, I'm not submissive, I just know what I need when I want it.

For me I don't like men (plural) and don't want to have sex with them. Only my man. I do appreciate a good body on a man and enjoy looking and being looked at in return. And I am a bit of a flirt with my husband's friends (and their girlfriends too). But honestly I don't think I have the desire in me to want to do anything with any other men.

I was reading the post underneath by @JT1999 and thought ya I have a husband too. I was not thinking of him as a man.

He is more like a caretaker slash owner, possibly a Father figure? He is old enough to be my Father and in some ways acts as one. DRAT!

I am being controlled! And I like it.

Our sex is a mix of bondage and nice romantic stuff. I like this. He is caring and listens to my stupid things and puts up with my shit. He is nice to my friends. He realy likes women. I like to have sex with him, it is more a mental than a pysical thing. I have this dream mist with romantic images of unicorns eating babies, fanged teddy bears with a bright blood spatter back drop with a meadow full of romping killer bunnies, and a floaty emotion drifting through me" La La La La FUCK ME SILLLY!!" Toung hang'n out eyes rolled back vibe goi'n on! You get it?

He does nice things too! After a shower, he blow-dries and brushes my hair out, styles my hair, and does my nails. He took a course for this. He does my friends to "in more ways than one".

He has a lot of ideas and theories, and chases me around with his base, singing songs about me, not all of them are nice. It is romantic and fun.

He may be bat shit crazy, but he is popular and fun.

SO for you guys to be better, try and be fun, creative, and listen. Asking "How was your day?" goes a long way. Make your girl feel appreciated and listened to. Sex is better with this connection. On a more personal note, shave your pubes. Wink, it may improve your experience.

I like to be appreciated and loved. I don't klke it to be a where your lover has a satisfying experience and that is not done in a "slam bam thank you maam" sort of way although that can sometimes be good. A better way would be to express your appreciation for the privilege of your private times as opposed to it being an expected obligation by either party. The actual physical parts of your private moments are so individual that offering any thing to improve your sex life together would be futile and best left to the joy of mutually discovering what makes your clock "tick" with one another by being open and honest with each other.

Great thread! I hope more ladies answer this. It's a help, but I communicate well, which is what a lot of it is about...