Ladies fingering your male partner

To the heterosexual ladies here:

Do you like fingering your male partner (anally)? If so, why? What's your technique? What position? What precautions do you take (gloves, lubricant, cutting nails, giving the guy a suppository or enema beforehands to clean him…)? Do you finish him to orgasm, and do you achieve this just by rectal stimulation or do you give him a handjob or blowjob? Are there specific circumstances for you to engage in this activity as opposed to intercourse?

Yes, I do if my partner likes it. In my experience, it varies greatly. Whether it's a one-night stand or a relationship, I've had partners who really enjoy it, while others hate the practice and resist any contact with their anal area, let alone rectal penetration, even with a finger.

My current partner likes it a lot. We practice this type of sex independently, without any penetration. I usually prepare my partner with a small enema, but it's usually okay if he goes to the bathroom first. I always wear a medical examination glove anyway. Lubricant is mandatory.

The type of stimulation varies. From massaging the perineum and anal sphincter between my index finger and thumb, to full-blown finger fucking (in-out), to prostate massage. My current partner (60 years old) prefers prostate massage. We pursue this type of satisfaction until ejaculation/orgasm. I've also satisfied partners with fellatio, but most often, and currently, I prefer to give a gentle handjob with my free hand, intensively massaging my partner's frenulum with my thumb. This always leads to ejaculation.

He then returns the favor with cunnilingus and clitoral masturbation, naturally even to orgasm.

@sabinchen Have you ever got your partner to orgasm without penis stimulation, just by prostate massage?

Preferences also change over time. The erogenous zones change, the intensity and the excitability.

I do not like fingering, however, I will wear a glove and do that if the person wants it. I recently found a private strip of woods. It's owned by a gay resort. There was a guy that wanted me to finger him. So I put the glove on and fucked him with my finger while he shot his load down my throat.

I will almost always orgasm if someone does that to me while I'm jacking off.

I really enjoy a prostate massage to climax so much! I agree it is difficult to find a partner, but when you do, WOW so nice!

Yes, I like to give him a prostate massage.

My partner enjoys having his prostate massaged by my finger and my hand on his penis at the same time. He has told me that he has never enjoyed a finger in his butt before, but doesn’t know what specifically about my technique makes him enjoy it.

He has liked toys inside him for a long time.

I just poke the hole and wiggle my finger for my Husband. He enjoys it while I suck his cock. I don't. Any other guy can just sit on a stick. Or let me peg them with "Something Evil". I like to hear them scream.

I've never done it.

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Speaking for my wife . . .

My wife likes fingering me anally not because it turns her on, but because she knows it turns me on and she likes to pleasure me just as I like to pleasure her.

What technique? Generally, with me lying on my back, she starts with her index finger on her right hand and massages my prostate. Then she adds her middle finger and then her ring finger. Then she slowly and gently inserts her entire hand and then turns and twists her hand. Meanwhile, her left hand plays with my penis and testicles and occasionally, she does a little oral. Sometimes, I will turn on my side and sometimes onto all fours. We have a replica of a woman's hand with fingers pointed together, not a fist, for when my wife's hand and wrist get tired.

Precautions? I do a quick clean out beforehand with my enema-connected-to-the-toilet system.

Finish to orgasm? Generally, yes.

Rectal stimulation only? No. I need to add stimulation to my penis. Incidentally, my wife can do it and it feels good, but she can't do it rigorously enough, and for me at 67, it needs to be pretty rigorous, so I help.

Additional info: After playing around as described above, my wife inserts multiple anal toys and dildos, general one at a time. This can lead to pegging.

Specific circumstances for anal fingering and anal play over intercourse? The above takes place once a week, and occasionally, twice. We try to have vaginal intercourse every day, but not with the goal of orgasm. If orgasm happens, it happens, but it generally takes too much energy and effort to reach orgasm more than once or twice a week. Every day, we just try to roll around in the hay for 15 to 30 minutes with my winky in her hoo-haw.

For the fact checker looking for inconsistencies across my various experiences, we don't actually "roll around in the hay." Please don't take the statement as an embellishment or a misrepresentation of the truth. That is simply a euphemism for having sex in our bed. We don't have any hay on the property and I'm sure we would both find hay to be way too scratchy.

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