Age of doctor or other provider doing your exam

As a boomer guy I am finding that it seems there are many very young female doctors and other providers such as PAs or NPs doing exams that are in their 20s and 30s, and sometimes the power dynamic feels unfamiliar and somewhat vulnerable to me due to the reversal of age and gender. Do you feel that way too as an older person with a much younger, opposite sex doctor?

This is a curious question. I’m a millennial although only just, so I’m about the oldest a millennial can be. I went to the doctor more as a kid than as an adult, so some of my fondest memories are of doctors who always seemed a lot older, and now at 42 I’m the same age they were, and when I’ve been to the doctor as an adult it was still mostly men older than me to begin with, but my current GP is a woman who I think is my own age but maybe slightly younger, and since my last couple of face-to-face appointments (mostly for mental health so BOO no physical exam) I’ve been preparing myself for how I might end up seeing an experienced doctor who’s now either my ‘peer’ or younger than me from this point onwards, as it does seem to be the trend that medical professionals appear younger than me. As a gay man, I both love and dread the possibility of seeing a young, twinky looking doctor who’s freshly qualified from medical school, or perhaps even completed his foundation years 1 and 2 and is now becoming a GP…I think I’d be fine at the time, but there would be healthy fantasied later!

The closest I've had to this was when I went to the doctors with abdominal pains last year.

My GP had a junior doctor in with him - over ten years younger than me - and asked if I would mind her observing. Naturally I said it was fine.

Now I've said before about how it's a secret turn on for me when the doctor uses childish terms like referring to listening to my tummy or examining my tummy button in exams, but this time the doctor was very medical to her. He talked about looking for scarring on my stomach, and auscultatung directly above my umbilicus etc.

It was a different dynamic, but was just a bit disappointing that she only watched rather than actually had a go at examining me, but I guess that comes down to time pressure.

Both me and my girl friend prefer older doctors. We generally enjoy it and one the safest option is to see doc out of your country as we does on vacations. Also go as couples. Try to be anxious about the issue. We prefer older doctors as we feel more comfortable and they can make them believe the issue is real. We don't mind the gender of the doctor but ask if the partner could be there.

If i am the patient i tell i have penis pain possibly due to intercourse. My partner is heavy and after cow girl i could have gotten penile sprain. We do multiple cums to make the penis swollen before the visit. I pretend shy and close the eyes during examination. Most doctors jokes with her our sex habits and positions. She loves the sight and that her kink. When she is the patient she visit skin specialist or gastro. If it's skin specialist she mention rashes and stretch marks as the issue. If its a male old doctor i get the chance to see the examination but the female docs never let me see it so far. For gastro the idea to tell about stomach pain and cramps. For her its always a chance some does ful examination while some don't. Once when we were in malaysia the doc even did full body checkuo with kitty trimming. He said bushes cause infection.

I’ve felt that. It was bad enough when they were younger than me but then they started to be my kids age 🤣

That being said, my all-time favorite gynecologist is about 10 years younger than me than I am. She’s who I was seeing when I went through menopause and we had some wonderfully frank discussions about my changing body, sex, and everything else. It honestly felt like we were learning from each other which was really cool.

I have had quite a lot of medical attention lately and the doctors all look like my MA students - less than half my age in some cases. I always want a doctor who is male and older than me, but the latter condition is pretty hard to fullfil these days - same age is just about possible if I go private.

It was an adjustment getting use to doctors significantly younger than me, but I'm now at an age where most doctors older than me are retired. It only bothers me when they look about 12. If I am seeing a new doctor, I always check how long they have been practicing. (I admit itt is still difficult to get my head around the fact that 2010 was 15 years ago)

As for gender, although I prefer females, it doesn't matter as long as they know their stuff

Do you feel that way too as an older person with a much younger, opposite sex doctor?

Interesting question.

In the last 15 years or so, I've gone through the transition of most providers being older than me, to being my age, to being younger.

For me, the power dynamic has always been tilted in favor of the doctor - and that is my preference. The doc is the subject matter expert and should be in control.

However, I've found here recently that when seeing a young female PA, the power dynamic has definitely shifted. They are clearly uncomfortable and possibly intimidated by me. I defer to them because this is their area of expertise - but they are frequently hesitant or less than thorough. I recently saw a young female PA at the dermatologist who was clearly intimidated by my presence (I'm a fairly big guy, mostly fit, and 35 years older, but I go into the appointment with the intent of being subservient and reserved). With her clearly uncomfortable i had to guide her through parts of the exam (do you need to check the soles of my feet or between my toes?)

My current primary care doctor is a woman roughly my age, and is usually in charge, establishing her dominant position early in each appointment (which is why I switched to her). But I doubt that she'll stay in practice for more that a couple of more years.

Younger doctors, nurse practitioners, and PAs are inevitable. Healthcare is a team effort between patient and provider, but they are the trained provider with the expertise, and they need to act like it.

Internist is in his late 40s male

Ophthalmologist fe is in her mid 30s

I’ve found that the younger mds are more attuned to the most up to date medical practices. While experience counts, use of technology abd keep up on the latest treatment options is more prevalent among the younger physicians, just me observation and opinion. My internist uses AI to connect to my medical record and our conversation is put into my medical record. Saves major time for him.

Taking a bit of a zag here. I prefer a Doctor who knows what they are doing. Age , gender, and race have zero to do with competency.

There are a lot of educated idiots out there who talk a good game and are totally useless.

To the question. After experiencing some shit Family Doctors, I finally found one I trust. He is younger than me, from another country, and knows his trade. My Gynecologist is older and knows what she is doing. I trust her. Both of them are willing to answer questions and take the time to explain things. I am a difficult patient. I do not just do what I am told.

I ask questions and want to hear their reasoning for treatment plans. If I don't agree with it I say no.

One nice thing about public health care and there are a lot of benefits is that our chart is on a provincial record. Any doctor or specialist we give permission can access it read our medical history, and add to it.

Last time it was a bloke in his 30's. I don't think he was a medic at all. Medical was organised by our company's insurance provider. He was just a person who is trained to preform tests (hearing, vision etc...). Everything was happening in the van parked in our yard.

Last fall I tried to get into see my regular doctor who I have been seeing now for close to ten years. He is in his middle sixties a little older than myself. We have gotten to know each other over the years and I'm very comfortable with him. I couldn't get in to see him and had to make the appointment with someone else. The only provider available was a younger female nurse practitioner who was in her later thirties to very early forties. I was very pleasantly surprised by her professionalism and knowledge. She was very competent and good at her job. I wasn't bothered by the age difference and she seemed very comfortable with me being a male. She was genuinely concerned about me being comfortable with the exam and with what she was going to do. I have been thinking about trying to become one of her regular patients after my doctor retires.

I dont like medical professionals too young, although they no doubt do a grand job, it just freaks me out a little. Hard to explain why. I do prefer the older/mature male, which can not only be a turn on, but also I feel more comfortable.

My preference in providers is always female, and I am completely comfortable with all ages.

As a senior citizen, I’m more concerned with the competence of the medical provider, than their age or gender. I’m old school, in that I believe that a person’s ability to do the job, should be the only reason why they should get the job, not because of politics.

I have had only one doctor younger than me. A woman. She was anxiety provoking. She pushed with extensive investigation for the smallest abnormality. It didn’t work out, and I found another doctor.

I have had only one doctor younger than me. A woman. She was anxiety provoking. She pushed with extensive investigation for the smallest abnormality. It didn’t work out, and I found another doctor.

When I was 30, I had a female doctor who was around 60 years old. A very well-groomed, good-looking lady, but the rather strict type who tolerated little contradiction, and with whom I never really developed a relationship of trust.

For a long time now, I’ve been going to a medical practice staffed by two female doctors.

They’re now around 40 years old. Both are very competent, but I still have a preference for one of them. Well, it’s hard to explain why. I just feel more at ease with her.

Three years ago, a third doctor joined the practice. A young woman who was only about 27 when I saw her for the first time. And yes, that did feel a bit special. She also looks very young, which initially gave the impression that she might be less competent—though of course, that’s not the case.

But as several people here have already pointed out, what matters most is that all of these doctors are highly competent.

And yes, as a man, I simply feel more comfortable with a female doctor—at least when it comes to my general practitioner.

These days, it’s becoming increasingly difficult to find a male GP here in Belgium.

And in the near future, it will become even harder, as medical schools already have a clear majority of female students.

I remember the primary care physician that my wife and I went to for many years once told my wife that we should definitely have a primary care physician that is younger than us. That way, the person can serve as our primary care physician well into our old age.

That physician was five years younger than my wife and me, and was always very thorough with us. She herself retired at a young age (60), and so my wife and I necessarily had to find a new primary care physician. The one that we currently go to is less than half our age. Unfortunately, she's not thorough in conducting examinations like the previous one was.

I have had only one doctor younger than me. A woman. She was anxiety provoking. She pushed with extensive investigation for the smallest abnormality. It didn’t work out, and I found another doctor.

@Gmb072 Good decision. I have come across those penny snatchers as well, dropping little tidbits to encourage a pointless visit. By the way, you have two identical posts up. You may want to come back and take one down. Just click on the lines at the top right and choose delete. Or leave it there if you like.

I think the youngest male doc I have ever had was 55? As a kid, he was a ex-army WWII veteran. After undergrad and grad school, he was about the same age. 35-to 50 he was at least 65 to 75....Currently, he is 60. Never had any docs younger than 55 even for dentist and or eye docs. Always male ; just prefer it that way.