How old were you when you realized you had a spanking fetish

Breaking it down. How old were you when:

You were fascinated by spanking?

Got turned on by spanking?

Wanted and needed to spank or,

Wanted and needed to spank?

The entire thing turned you on?

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How old was I

WHEN I WAS FASCINATED WITH SPANKING:

9 to 12 years old. I did not like getting spanked by my parents. However, as a boy I fantasized about being spanked by two different women at church. Why? I don't know. I just remember imagining the following: No lecture because I didn't do anything wrong. I was just getting a spanking. She pulls down my pants and then my tighty-whitey underpants. Then she places me across her lap. Then she spanks my bare bottom with her bare hand. In my fantasy, I didn't cry. I think I wanted the feeling of intimacy associated with her bare hand touching my bare bottom.

GOT TURNED ON BY SPANKING:

55 years old, about 12 years ago. My wife and I were fooling around. I was on top and she playfully slapped my bottom. And I like it. She kept doing it and I liked it. At the time, we were building a house so she had a drafter's three-sided plastic ruler on her nightstand so she grabbed it and started smacking my bottom with it. And I liked it so she kept doing it. A few days later, somehow I came home with two heavy-duty rulers from Staples. My wife used them on my bottom and I like it. Over the last 12 years, we accumulated a short wooden paddle, a round wooden paddle, a long wooden paddle, a wooden paddle with holes, a hard-plastic paddle, two leather paddles, a Delrin cane, two wooden bath brushes, a hairbrush, a large wooden spoon with holes in it, and several other implements.

WANTED AND NEEDED TO SPANK:

60 years old. I really would love to spank my wife with my bare hand, but she has an aversion to pain. So I respect that, but I still want to do it.

WANTED AND NEEDED TO BE SPANKED and THE ENTIRE THING TURNED ME ON (combined these last two items):

55 years old. Ever since my wife playfully whacked my bottom 12 years ago, I have wanted and needed to have her spank me. My love language is touch--I feel extra loved through touch. To me spanking is an intense and intimate form of touch between two people.

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I hated spanking till about 12, then the embarrassment and humiliation of it started to excite me. But the thing was I didn't know what excitement was, but I knew there was something to. As time went on, 13 or so I knew what excitement was, and understood. But I couldn't let my mother know it was having this effect on me.

How old were you when:

You were fascinated by spanking?:

This is a hard one, because it really is as early as I can remember. I don't have a specific memory, I just always remember getting a rush from hearing about the idea and that also slowly began to include other forms of corporal punishment either as I heard about them or were exposed to them through experience. I think I might have been like 6 the first time I intentionally flipped to the word spanking in the dictionary all the while getting a huge rush of excitement out of doing so.

Got turned on by spanking?:

I'm assuming you mean like, physically sexually turned on. Sometime around 12 or 13 I think. I remember getting wet and also not realizing what that was or meant at the time.

Wanted and needed to be spanked or, Wanted and needed to spank?:

I mean, it really didn't take me long after my mom started after I turned 8 to realize that there was a part of it that I really liked even though in those moments I simultaneously feared it. I'm not exactly sure but definitely childhood. It wasn't til puberty that I started imagining what it might be like to spank someone else.

The entire thing turned you on?:

This question feels like a repeat but I'm taking it to mean when did I realize or have a complete picture of all of this? Probably around 14.

Never was spanked growing up. Though in school I’d occasionally hear of a classmate who was spanked at home… which intrigued and scared me. I shy away from pain so young me didn’t give it much thought to my teen years, but the idea of a classmate pulling down his or her pants to be spanked bare bottom was a very exciting idea (not so much the spanking itself).

However since I joined Zity and read much more of people’s experiences and chatted with some people about it… I am MUCH more interested. Not sure I’d call it a fetish but then labels don’t interest me.

I grew up in the spanking era and the spankings I got after puberty I would always jerk in the privacy of my room with a sore bum. In doing some research I was not alone as your bum has many nerve endings. In addition all spankings were over the knee and as a male you penis is up against the leg. Then being older the whole shame and added a sense of excitement. My wife and I dated in High School and she had the same feelings. Luckily I married a spanko

I was fascinated from the get go. I love to watch on rare occasions my sister getting spanked and my poor teddy bair was spanked pretty often. I also think I like being spanked even though it stung...quite a bit sometimes. But much love and care afterwards with encouragement to do better in the future. Maybe it was a mother daughter bonding thing Denise

Probably when I was in my mid twenties. Had a friend's wife over my knees for a spanking. Found it turned me on sexually and have been extremely fond of doing it ever since.

I have posted about that event somewhere on here.

I cannot remember a time when I was not excited by and as I hit puberty sexually turned on by spanking! Growing up at a time, '60s and '70s America where spanking was ubiquitous and inescapable this was hardly surprising! Barely a weak went by without seeing, hearing or witnessing at least one spanking! And even if you did not hear or see one; you would hear about someone getting one or about to get one! Then there were the warnings and threats to kids about getting a spanking if they did not "start to behave themselves", "start minding", "smarten up", "wise up", etc... And of couse the buttocks being very close to the genitalia ensured that a spanking would always generate sexualized feelings and would have a sexual dimension for me and lots of other kids as well! I know this to be a fact because of the conversations we kids would have about the spankings we received! Both as younger children and teenagers! Also the prevelance of spanking in games we played 'Doctors and Nurses', 'House' and other games where spankings would be handed out as penalties for the losers, testified to the extent that even the thought of a spanking excited and as we got older sexually stimulated us kids! Of course I'm not saying I'm speaking for all youngsters back in those days - there were some kids who dreaded spankings SO MUCH - that they did not even want think, let alone, talk about them and even less introduce them into the games we played! To be fair ALL KIDS DREADED SPANKINGS; it's just that some of us were so excited and fascinated by them that we overcame our fears enough to talk about and participate in spankings with our siblings, cousins and friends. So to answer this excellent and timeless question; I cannot remember a time when I was not excited by spanking and broadly speaking did not have a spanking fetish!

I think I wanted to spank and needed to be spanked from fairly early on in my life! The fact that whenever we played 'House', 'Doctors and Nurses', 'School' and also introduced spankings as penalties into other games we played, testifies to this! The spanking would invariably be a bare bottom one that would often sting plenty, though of course they were nothing like the 'scorchings and real rump roastings' we got at home and from other adults! Of course in my case, though by no means all the other kids I knew, this desire to both spank and be spanked continued into adulthood; I even exchanged spankings with my Aunt Rose - who was a definite spanko - as an older teenager and young adult! And my wife, who also has a spanking fetish, regularly spanks me as I do her! But it is unquestionably in childhood that the roots of my spanking fetish can be found!

I’ve been fascinated by spanking for as long as I can remember. I had a friend that was a little boy and we played doctor when we were like 4. But didn’t actually understand “playing doctor” and it was really about the patients having their pants down and getting spanked for being naughty and not listening to the doctor.

I think for me, I just wanted to feel taken care of. I have always craved physical affection and touch. My parents were not like that at all. They weren’t physically affectionate (or affectionate at all) in anything. So when they spanked they just grabbed my arm and started hitting my butt. No explanation, no nothing. And then when it was over, no affection. No hug or I love you or anything. As an adult I feel like I wouldn’t even have minded the pain if it came with some sort of display of love.

I was fascinated from the get go. I love to watch on rare occasions my sister getting spanked and my poor teddy bair was spanked pretty often. I also think I like being spanked even though it stung...quite a bit sometimes. But much love and care afterwards with encouragement to do better in the future. Maybe it was a mother daughter bonding thing Denise

This is me, Denise. I would have loved that type of “bonding.” Though, even as a kid and teen, I never held out hope that I’d get it from my parents. They were lost causes. I’d pick out a teacher or TV parents and so on to fantasize about that type of relationship with.

I can trace most of my fantasies and kinks back to that desire to feel taken care of. Rectal temps, enemas, medfet and so on. As an adult I, of course, now understand the sexual pleasure that comes from them that I didn’t understand as a child, but it all comes from a place of wanting to feel cared for despite the pain or embarrassment. The idea of “this is for your own good” is such a turn on for me because it’s someone saying “I know you might not want this but it has to be done because I know what’s best and I’m in charge and am taking care of you.”

My fascination and obsession with spanking, and more precisely, corporal punishment, started when I was about 13.

I went to a school which used corporal punishment: usually applied with a rubber soled plimsol for lesser offences with the cane being used - sparingly - for serious misdemeanours. I felt the plimsol twice: it wasn't nice but I think that was the combination of being in real trouble as well as the pain. But afterwards, I did get some sort of kick out of looking at my red - and slightly bruised - bottom.

And occasionally, I'd see the damage the cane left on another boy's bottom. I found myself thinking about what it'd be like to find myself on the receiving end and to have my bottom decorated with some vivid deep stripes.... and that was how it started!

From as early as I can remember!

I was always fascinated and turned on (though I didn't recognize it as being "turned on" till adolescence) by spankings, as well as med-fet, exposure, etc. As I've said elsewhere, I had vivid fantasies as far back as a age 6/7. I only experienced one spanking as a small child and found it pretty traumatic, but elements of it became part of my fantasies from then on. Coming across a spanking scene in a movie, cartoon, book or comic was a thrill. Any discussion of it (which was very rare) among other kids was fuel for the fire. Yeah, I been a spanko my whole life.

I'm the odd one here, coming from a childhood that did not include spankings.

I think I was around five when I became deeply interested in spankings. My family had a set of The Book of Knowledge, where some of the volumes had Mother Goose poems with illustrations. I was fascinated by the Old Woman who Lived in a Shoe. Now, a woman and lots of kids living in a shoe should have been a wonder, but no, I was all about "she whipped them all soundly and sent them to bed." And the picture! A little girl had both hands on her bottom through her dress, clearly having been spanked, and a boy was being spanked, kicking his legs. I wanted to be both of them.