Women do you masturbate while being penetrated

Sometimes it happens that during penetration my wife rubs her clitoris with her fingers, in fact she masturbates while I penetrate her... I understand that she needs clitoral stimulation, but it bothers me a little.... I would prefer to be the one to satisfy her with a finger or by licking before or, possibly, after penetration. How many of you women have this habit and what do your partners think about it?

I have had partners do this and I did not mind. I sometimes reached down and took over from them if they were happy with me doing it, but it never bothered me that she did it.

Edit: I actually enjoyed seeing their technique. They were much more forceful with their rubbing than I had done it to them! I learned a lot 😃

Edit: I actually enjoyed seeing their technique. They were much more forceful with their rubbing than I had done it to them! I learned a lot 😃

A LOT much forceful indeed !! Much more pressure and much more speed...

I've had a couple of women do this in the past, reach down and rub her clit while I was penetrating her and having sex. I find it extremely hot and arousing. Instantly cranks the turn-on factor up to eleven.

I agree with @Testy_Paul_a , they definitely went harder and faster than what I usually did.

Based on my experience, most women really enjoy clitoral stimulation but in most positions, it is hard to give her clitoris much attention during penetrative sex. I don't mind if she does it herself or even includes a little vibrator. And as others have said, I think it is quite hot to see her masturbating.

For me if I'm laid on my back its very rare that I'll orgasm just from being penetrated. He usually gets me there with his thumb, but I know he likes to watch me do it myself with a finger or two or my bullet vibe.

If I'm laid on my belly with my legs together its much easier for me to get off without anything directly stimulating my clit, there's just something about that angle that makes it easier for me.

Sometimes it happens that during penetration my wife rubs her clitoris with her fingers, in fact she masturbates while I penetrate her... I understand that she needs clitoral stimulation, but it bothers me a little.... I would prefer to be the one to satisfy her with a finger or by licking before or, possibly, after penetration. How many of you women have this habit and what do your partners think about it?

By the way, I wouldn't take it personally. She probably just wants to orgasm with you inside her, its nice to have something to squeeze onto. My husband always makes sure I get mine once or twice before we start having sex anyway so sometimes I just want him to finish and I'm not bothered about another orgasm, or my clit is too sensitive for it to happen easily. But then other times that final orgasm during sex is the best one and it sets off his.

The first time that I had anal sex, with my girlfriend, I was behind her doggy style. She was very tight but we had prepared for it and used lots of lube so after a short while she was relaxed and enjoying it. She started pushing back onto my cock and when I reached down to hold her hips her hand guided my fingers to her wet warm pussy. Our fingers worked together on her clit and I could feel the spasms as she came.

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It takes the right position, some flexibility, and a little maneuvering for me to rub my wife's clit whilst I am simultaneously penetrating her vagina. Usually, because she has easier, direct access, my wife takes care of the clit-rubbing responsibility whilst I’m concentrating on penetrating.

Sometimes, I lie down beside her and massage her clit as a part of foreplay and sometimes the foreplay gets so hot and heavy that it becomes the entire play and she reaches orgasm just from the clit massage. Often, she will take over the massage/masturbation because she knows exactly how and where to apply the pressure, and as it has been said by others, she really puts on the pressure.

As she approaches the orgasm, she tries to increase the pressure even more but usually by then her arms and hands are quite tired so I press my hand down on her hands to add the necessary pressure whilst her fingers continue to work the actual magic of how and where to apply the pressure because she knows exactly what feels best . . . and then, voila, orgasm!

I used to feel bad when I could not bring my wife to orgasm on my own. I guess it was a little blow to my macho-male ego that I wasn't sufficient for her needs. However, since my macho-ectomy, it hasn't bothered me at all that sometimes she needs to take over because in that specific moment, the way to her orgasm is through her ministrations, not mine. I've learned to be happy that she reaches orgasm rather being sad that I can't claim some victory for getting her there. The victory is that she reaches orgasm, not who or what gets her there. I mean, she's never jealous when a vibrating butt plug helps me cum. She's just happy that I cum.

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My wife masturbated sometimes while having sex, usually in the doggy position during vaginal or anal. I thought it was hot, even though I didn’t have a view. Made for more intense orgasms for her which was a turn on and ramped up my performance.

Part of the need for this arises from anatomy--so many small variations in us humans, right?

Mr. Pinot Noir does not align perfectly with my clit in penetrative sex, either vaginal or anal. So if it's going to be stimulated during penetrative sex, it's going to take someone's hand. Depending on the position, mine's often "handier" (see what I did there?) with the bonus of knowing exactly how I'd like to be touched. He doesn't seem to mind at all; he's pretty sure of his manliness without needing to be the only way I can come.

I’ve done it if I’m close and he’s not hitting the right spot. I think you need to be responsible for your own orgasm. By that I mean you need to advocate for yourself via feedback and sometimes being more hands on.

In the past, it happened that I fingered my wife's clitoris as I penetrated her, whether she was in missionary or on top of me. She no longer appreciates that I rub her in these positions (unsure why), but accepts it if we do it spooning.

What happens most often is that if she wants to get off, she climbs on top of me and grinds herself on me. A rarer occurrence is, when in missionary, she adopts a certain position (it's difficult to describe, it's something that I feel rather than objectively perceive) that I think is meant to expose her clitoris to more stimulation (and perhaps also G-spot).

So, no, she does not rub herself, but will do things to get stimulated.

I do it! I believe sex is a two way street and it's my responsible as much as my partner's to provide good sex. It's one of the things I do to help me achieve an orgasm! Also if my partner is performing cunnilingus on me, I reach down and part my lips making my clitoris more easily accessible.

How many of you women have this habit and what do your partners think about it?

I find it funny that the majority of responders to the above question has been males and their experiences. Lol

Now to answer the question myself. I don't usually masturbate during sex. Some nipple stimulation may sometimes happen, but it isn't usually enough, or what is needed, to orgasm. If my sub is hitting the right spots, the mental buttons have been flipped, and the stars are aligned I get to see stars of my own. It is hard to explain. When things are good...they are very good.

I flick my bean during oral sex. It is not popular but too bad. I prefer doggie style for penetration so I am easier to fully enjoy. I just enjoy it and hope for some strokes and breast play;I dont play with myself, just relax, feel it all.

If you won’t do it yourself, you can’t get your ego bruised when she does it for herself.

With some women, and I am only kinda lucky in this regard, the clit is close enough and sensitive enough to reach climax from a dick alone. This can be helped if the man penetrates in missionary and then kind of shifts his body in the direction of her head, so as to put more pressure on the vaginal wall in the direction of the clit and on the clit itself. But in other positions or when this isn’t working, one of you is going to have to work that clit. And if you want to be a memorable lover, this is even more important than how big your dick is or how hard you can slam your pelvis into mine. Fundamentally this isn’t something men should take personally. It’s not something that’s wrong with your dick or something, it’s just a technique that doesn’t come naturally.

I also masturbate during penetration, but only when it's anally. In my experience, this relaxes all the muscles of the pelvic floor, including the rectal sphincter. The blissful sensation when I massage my clitoris also distracts me from the slight pain, at least initially, that sets in when the ring of the sphincter is stretched and penetrated. Even later, it's simply pure pleasure, since anal intercourse, at least for me, doesn't offer the same level of excitement as vaginal intercourse. This isn't to say that anal sex can't also be pleasurable for women.

@sabinchen (This is offtopic) May I ask why you engage in anal intercourse if you find it less exciting and pleasurable than vaginal?

@jacana: The fact that I find anal sex less pleasurable than vaginal intercourse doesn't mean that I don't like it at all. Besides, women often do things to please their partner. Right? I don't want to elaborate further here in the forum; we can discuss things directly.

@sabinchen I did not mean to offend.

I seldom masturbate during the active to and fro action during vaginal intercourse. In many positions it’s hard to use my hand on myself If I am being screwed from the rear “doggy style” I’ll often help myself along if my partner has a history of ejaculating quickly. As someone else wrote earlier, if I am having anal intercourse I will usually masturbate to achieve an orgasm. Without help I seldom orgasm from anal intercourse alone

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@sabinchen (This is offtopic) May I ask why you engage in anal intercourse if you find it less exciting and pleasurable than vaginal?

@Jacana If you want to keep a man, let him stick it up your arse. They get around to your vag soon enough.

give your clit a tickle while they're up your arse for a good dirty girl vibe. Most guys love it.

Whenever I am being taken doggy style or in the scissors or spooning or anytime anal, I will always be stimulating my clitoris regardless. I tell my husband or lover that he should not worry about me having an orgasm because I will be making sure that I have one and it is no reflection on their sexual prowess.

As a matter of fact my 'getting mine' on my own allows me to better enjoy the feel of him enjoying me and that is very important. I make sure that he knows that his presence is what I want and what makes it so easy for me to orgasm and him to see me being myself with him. I absolutely love sexual intercourse with my lovers and my masturbating takes the pressure off of them to perform and makes it easier for him and me to enjoy our closeness.

I realize you’ve posed this question to the women following this topic, however I wanted to add my experience. Like the OP, my wife also has to masturbate on the rare occasion that I’m allowed intercourse. I’ve measured my self and I’m just under four inches when I am erect, so unfortunately for her, sex with me appears to be an exercise of futility. She is a well-developed woman, with large breasts, very nice hips and bottom, and a beautifully welcoming vagina, so it must be frustrating for her to not have a male partner with similar gifted endowments as she. In 34 years of being together, not once has she experienced orgasm when I am penetrating her. Inevitably, her right hand will slip between us so that she may rub her clitoris before my premature ejaculations. It is disappointing to be lacking physically, in including technique, but I try to make up for it by doing more than my fair share around the house and being a good listener.

This is a very interesting and important discussion. After reading the many different responses to this question, it involved many different ideas. Reaching Orgasims During Penetration varies greatly for all of Us. Achieving a Orgasim, Yes, is The Ultimate, However, Sometimes it is easier and more powerful during foreplay. The pleasure from both parties during Vaginal or Anal penetration can not be understated. The Path to a Desired Simultaneous Orgasims is most definitely part and parcel The Art of Love Making. I feel Women and Men who Masterbate, can More easily Climax as they are in better control of Their Bodies Responses to Stimulations. Just my thoughts from my experiences and research regarding Senuality and Sexuality. Enjoy!

I’ve measured my self and I’m just under four inches when I am erect, so unfortunately for her, sex with me appears to be an exercise of futility.

@rodjerkerr Why not try one of these extender thingies? From my experience with strapon sex and dildoes the rubber cock feels good in there. The two of you should give it a try.

Lube your rocket before putting it on for a good feeling like the penis stroker sleeve gives.

https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/penis-enhancers-c-1009.aspx

@Asteria nicely said!

@Bad_Princess thank you for the suggestion. I will give this a try. The Butch Sheath on Adam and Eve link you sent looks like a place to start. Rocket? Thank you for the kind words. That word has never been used to describe my anatomy ever. I wish I understood this better, but the humiliation I experience as an under-endowed and unendowed male has frequently been a source of arousal for me. This sheath looks like it may contribute to my insecurity, which is the only reason I need to buy it. Imagining myself having to stop for a moment to place such a device on my penis, due to my physical inadequacy, so that my wife may experience for once, what is normal for most women, in the course of love-making with their husband.

The title has been edited to clarify who the topic is for. Some recent male responses have been removed.