Do you try it before you make her do it?

So after cleansing enemas I inserted a 2” marble egg. After getting accustomed to that I inserted two 1” steel balls. For a moment it felt fine, full but fine. Then while standing I got an urgent need to expel. I clenched but I began to spasm as I held it in. For fear of expelling I used two fingers to push the toys in against that strong urge to expel. It subsided, but it was faintly still there. I laid down and clenched, that moved everything deeper. And the urge felt nice. But in control.

The constant pressure was erotic and still there. Pushing against my anus from the inside. A very nice feeling. Standing up it became a challenge.

The reason I did this is because I’m going to subject my sub to this and insist she hold it in while walking around. It can be done but there are waves of panic!! If it’s anal I try it on myself first so I have an idea as to what I’m subjecting her to and how it feels.

Anyone else do this? For me it can only be anal. For female dom on female sub, the dom can experience more first.

I strongly believe that tops should try toys/procedures on themselves first so they know what their bottom is feeling.

I strongly believe that tops should try toys/procedures on themselves first so they know what their bottom is feeling.

Yes so true. Of course there are things I can’t test because of anatomical differences but I can come close. For example I always test Tens unit on me first at different intensities. I have also found that stimulating her clit after orgasm is much like stimulating my gland after an orgasm. Barely tolerable!!! I want jump out of my skin. Can only do it if I’m tied down. Pleasure becomes punishment real quick.

Always, but together with her. In this way we evaluate the feasibility together. Only when these things are impossible for a man, she tries directly, but with a lot of caution.

Golden rule applies here, too.

Just in general, and starting from the very basic things, I strongly believe that you can only do such things to your partner which you are fine with your partner doing to you. For matters that are specific to the anatomy of a partner it is even more important, because you must put yourself onto their place by using their feedback on things that you do to them. It is the absolute bare minimum requirement. On top of that are partner's wishes and preferences...

In essence, the point of doing it is to share the pleasure, and it must not be forgotten along with the fact that mutual respect and trust is the most important thing in any relations.

So in my opinion it is the absolutely right way of doing it.