Spankers - What excites you?

A lot of posts on spanking focus on being on the receiving end. What about those of us who are spankers or switches?

What is exciting to you? Is it the feeling of control and power? Is it the visual of a reddening bottom across your lap? Is it the way your spankee moves or squirms? Is it using a certain implement?

Great question, especially posed to the one spanking. For me, it's the combination of the physicality and personality of the one I'm spanking. I enjoy and have enjoyed spanking a young man in the age range of 19 to 30, short, athletic, color is of no difference. I love when my spanking causes a level of erotic response, yet it is a firm spanking, and then sort of a panic, at my cadence and duration.

A handful of things excite me about being a spanker! I do agree that the feeling of control and power for me as a natural-born top/domme is quite exquisite! Relishing in the despondent attitude of a spankee knowing her(I mostly spank women) day is gonna get a whole lot worse when she strips those pants and panties off for me. I'm also a person that just loves the butt/bottom as an enticing body part to fawn over.

While it may sound a bit...dorkish, What REALLY gets my juices going is knowing I'm seeing someone's bare bottom, especially if the person is quite modest and has never really shown it off before. It's like crossing a sacred line between spanker and spankee, that I am laying my eyes on your bare butt and drinking in all of your intimate details 😘

Posting for my wife:

1) She is an Alpha type woman!

2) She is the one that always takes control

3) While I was driving & hitting bumps that I could not avoid she went into a rage ( due to severe back pain). As soon as she stopped screaming, she said to me “ If i

Genuine reactions, whether it be promises t be good, sqirming, kicking legs up and down, crying, sexual excitement or orgasm.

My favorite things I like to see in subs tend to be the same things I like the most about being a sub.

Of course I want her to whimper, and struggle, and cry. But what I really enjoy is her compliance and will to struggle against the pain and humiliation and remain in position - taking her punishment like a good girl because she knows she deserves it. I like to see and hear her acknowledge that. I like to see her tremble with anticipation when she gets undressed or has to stand in the corner before hand. I like examining her from head to toe, and seeing her most intimate parts peak out from between her legs as she’s bent over. And I like creating art on her bottom.

@PutMeInTheCorner

And I like creating art on her bottom.

😘🤌

@Hookajoe It really is like painting a picture sometimes lol. Especially if you’re using a cane or a loop.

All of it. The control, the visual aspect (a bum man from way back), the trembling anticipation of the receiver, the vocal responses, the whimpers, and gasps, and finally, the cuddling and closeness of aftercare.

The visual of a bottom turning from pink to dark pink and red.

The sound of contact.

Watching the checks move/jiggle with the contact.

For me it is a combination of things. First is the visual. I find a woman’s butt so delicious, so enticing , so beautiful to look at. My special and favorite position is OTK. I try to put her in the perfect position…. where her clitoris is pressed against my thigh. It allows her to manipulate herself as I spank her, and perhaps reach orgasm. It’s happened a few times and is such a turn on! I find that cadence sometimes is what does it for them. I’m not a fan of leaving marks, only redness, so my spanking is primarily sensual… with a sting…. to get her wet.

I have yet to spank someone, other than some gentle taps which don't count.

When I fantasize about properly spanking someone, what gets me most excited is them going into submission... facial expression, body language, their voice, their words... knowing what is about to happen. I think I will be as nervous as the spankee!

Also, I think the moment their bottom is bared, oh my that very much excites me... it's like the point of no return, the person has allowed me into her personal place, to see things no one is supposed to see.

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To me administering a spanking is an exquisitely intimate experience.

A year or so ago my husband told me he'd like me to sometimes treat him as my little/baby girl. Of course I was shocked at first, but we talked about it and I did a load of online searching, as well as confiding in my sister.

It seems that lots of men in high pressure jobs enjoy the release of having zero responsibility and being treated as a toddler etc.

We gave it a go, and now we both love the role playing.

For me having him submit to my authority and meekly do what I tell him is a real thrill. It isn't just the power trip, although I've come to love that. It's also that I know how much he enjoys it, even if he pretends, when we're role playing, not to.

This is a great question! As someone who has always fantasized about being over someone's knee being given a spanking, I have never really thought about what is going through the mind of the person GIVING the spanking, sitting up while the victim is lying face down. It must be a rush, having all the control, being 100% in charge, though it must be a bit demanding too - having the control means having all the responsibility, emotional and physical.

Being into disciplinary spankings I like to see some genuine embarrassment, genuine pain and genuine regret.