Likelihood of rectal perforation?

Hello everyone! I was hoping that I could get some general thoughts and reassurance about the risk of injury with anal toys -- specifically dildos, and specifically pegging.

While my rational mind tells me that run-of-the-mill anal play with average sized and soft toys is probably very safe, I find myself having some anxiety/hypochondria after I do anything besides the most shallow of insertions. I figure that if penetrating myself and getting pegged (not particularly vigorously) were very risky at all, there'd be a LOT of people in the ER with sepsis. For context, the toy I most often use is the Curve Soft from Tantus (https://www.tantusinc.com/products/curve-soft). This can't really be much riskier than what millions of gay men and straight women experience with anal sex, right?

What do y'all think the chances that I could actually hurt myself with this thing, if I'm not just like...slamming it in there? I figure if I DID cause any kind of perforation, there'd probably be visible blood, right? As much as I tell myself that this is most likely a VERY safe activity, I can't help but worry about it a little afterward, and sometimes I even find myself monitoring for like...fever and other symptoms. Having y'all tell me I'm a paranoid freak would be appreciated.

I think yes you are correct you have to be careful. Not many people think about taking it slowly and making sure it's got plenty of lube or oil on it so it slides in easily. If you push it or force it in you can really do damage and it doesn't take much damage to become a huge problem. When its odd stop. If you feel any pressure stop right away. I have known a long time that it is not how big of toy you use it's about hitting that special spot inside that matters the most. Once you find that spot stay on it and you will be in another world. You might even just try your finger to find your spot... Once you get where it is you can look for a specific toy for you. Always also remember to clean everything well you put up there including your finger...

Coming from a very seasoned giant anal toy user. It's always risky to insert things inside your body where they usually don't belong. The keyword is training und patience. Doesn't matter where you look the biggest part is lube. You can never use enough and it's definitely worth to invest in good lubrication instead of going cheap and using cooking oil or something similar. I prefer K/J/X-Lube and most people do as well. Then for the play itself it's very important to take things slowly especially if you're new to the game. Start with a finger or two and then slowly upgrade your game. You can use small Buttplugs with a smooth surface or a thin normal sized dildo. It's not a race so no need to rush, if you notice something hurts or even starts to bleed while inserting a toy stop right away and take a break. If you're trying to reach new depths you should definitely start with a very soft toy. Preferably soft silicone, slowly push inside and then pull it out again, relube and proced the process until you're either satisfied with the progress or you reached your limits. Making it a regular routine helps a lot, doesn't mean you have to do it every day, but maybe once or twice a week. It gets easier if you frequently do it since your body is getting used to it. And some day it's almost a natural feeling. Then you can size up. In 3 years of playing I went from taking two fingers to Buttplugs and Dildos the size of a forearm. And even bigger in Diameter.

Be careful of anything you insert. Even a finger.

When young and inexperienced my gf once inserted her finger for anal play. The next morning however I woke up with a white hot fire in my anus. I thought it hemorrhoids at first, but it turned out to be that her fingernail had cut into my anal muscles. It took some weeks to heal and embarrassment from the doc who did the correct diagnosis.

The thing is, I can still feel the scar 50 years later and it still restricts the size of insertable objects.

@agracier I recall reading about a porn star ("Annabelle Chong") who did a gangbang (vaginally). If I'm correct, it was prohibited to touch her vagina with fingers, and I think the reason was fingernails and possibilities of injuring her.

I also recall my mother's fingernail when inserting suppositories. Fortunately she did not insert her finger, she just pushed the suppository in until it was "swallowed".

Bright yellow. …as a long time anal toy enthusiast I believe you are well within safe play with that toy. Relax and enjoy yourself

Bright yellow. …as a long time anal toy enthusiast I believe you are well within safe play with that toy. Relax and enjoy yourself

Thank you. I do feel like I'm probably being paranoid. The 'stretch' with this toy (or the other couple I have that are similar in girth) doesn't particularly worry me, and I definitely understand that I don't want to nick stuff with fingernails, as others have bought up. I find myself worrying that maybe with a thrust I could push too hard and tear the rectal wall or something...but the thing really is only six or seven inches long, and I presume that there's a bit of leeway/stretch up in there, right? I don't hear a lot of stories about penises sending anyone to the ER, and I'm sure millions of people do plenty of vigorous thrusting.

Be clean and be careful.

I started when I was about 8 years old. It feels as good today as it did when I was younger and I've learned a lot.

Don't go to big and don't go to deep at first.

take your time and enjoy it don't ever be in a hurry you don't need a perforated colon.

Use soft flexible toys or objects never use hard thin objects you do that you're asking for problems.

There's nothing like spending hours playing with yourself, it can be very fulfilling and very gratifying.

I'm sure that there's also a health benefit that goes along with it.............

Brightyellow

As a long time and avid anal toy user, I believe you are perfectly safe with that toy. If you look on line much at the size of what guys are getting in their butts you would understand. The key point is listen to your body. If it hurts don't do it until can work up to it. I started very young and have slowly worked up to some very long and thick toys in me. Just relax and enjoy the journey. Its all good back there.