Is it bad i’m obsessed with trans women?

Hi. so I’m a cis lesbian, I’m 19. but iIve always really loved trans women, so much. they are so beautiful and elegant. it’s not a fetish, more like a type. but I feel bad about it. I don’t wanna fetishize anyone or seem like a chaser, but I really just can’t stop thinking about them. Is it bad?

I'm a straight male. I have never been with a Trans, but I find I like them. Sort of the best of both worlds.

I personally think nothing is to be called "bad" as long as you dont hurt anyone else with it

@SofiaCutie

Hi. so I’m a cis lesbian, I’m 19. but iIve always really loved trans women, so much. they are so beautiful and elegant. it’s not a fetish, more like a type. but I feel bad about it. I don’t wanna fetishize anyone or seem like a chaser, but I really just can’t stop thinking about them. Is it bad?

Why would appreciating a body type or gender configuration be 'bad'? This is not said about people/gentlemen (ha ha) who prefer blondes, or BBW or are gay or whatever. I hope that it isn't the present day demonizing of trans women/people in the US that is giving you pause. Because that would be a shame. Don't let politicians or other leaders determine your sexual or emotional preferences. It's none of their bloody business.

If you are attracted, then so much the better. You aren't harming anyone and neither are they. Many are, as DocTemplar said, the best of both worlds in a way. You have the masculinity of someone with a penis (which can be a handy body part for some types of sexual play) combined with the soft, usually hairless femineity of a feminine body with breasts. Essentially someone who can be either naturally passive or penetrator, submissive or dominating, with all the necessary body parts.

Be yourself with this. If you are attracted, then enjoy the feelings and emotions, browse photos or vids or whatever. Many other people are attracted and appreciate trans people.

Don't worry about it.

As the parent of a trans woman, I'd go with a qualified "maybe."

The fact that you're open to relationships with a trans woman is good. But the word "obsessed" suggests that you're not seeing women like my daughter as a whole person but in a fetish-y way, which you say you don't want to do. (Good for you!) Being trans is an essential part of such a woman's identity, so this is more than having a type, IMO.

So maybe the thing to do is befriend many trans women. They often need allies, especially when out in public doing ordinary things. Volunteer at an event where you'll meet trans women. Get to know some trans women better and go places with them, not on a date but accompanying her to the public market or thrift store. You'll find some more likable than others, like in any group of people with something in common.

And if a relationship that's more than friends develops with a trans woman you especially like, that's great -- because by then you'd see beyond their trans-ness to who they are.