How to make spanking less painful?

I would suggest the following:

If you will be spanked over clothes, every layer of clothing between you and the implement used on you will help. Balance the need for protection against the risk of being caught with padding. You can probably get away with an extra pair of underwear. Even better would be a chamois cloth. (It goes without saying that you should take care to make sure your chamois is completely concealed and won’t shift around.) Heavy denim jeans with patch pockets over the seat are always a good choice. Back in the day, heavy jeans were the classic wardrobe choice of kids who faced a school paddling. It is unfortunate for me that all my spankings are on bare bottom.

If you have the opportunity, warm your skin beforehand. A warm bath or shower will do. Make sure you dry the skin well, though. If you forget to dry your bottom I wish you good luck.

Try to control your breathing. Take deep, steady breaths. It works for a while only.

Try to stay calm and relaxed. The fear of pain makes the perception of pain worse. Clenching muscles might help you deal with the immediate sting but can cause more soreness afterwards. Choose if you want the before or after the level of pain.

Try to distract yourself. You might try reciting the multiplication tables in your mind or conjugating verbs. You might focus intently on some object in the room, such as a painting or the pattern of the carpet. The more you occupy your mind, the less you’ll be focused on the pain. For me it hard to focus on anything except the pain,

Find something to hold onto tightly with your hands. Yes, I do grap anything with my hands.

Allow yourself to vocalize. Don’t attempt to hold back your grunts, groans, ouches, etc. Agree I cried and yell a lot.

You might try applying a burn gel with lidocaine. I don’t how much this would help if applied beforehand, but it’s a topical anesthetic. It would probably be very useful afterwards. Make sure to follow the product directions. Also, if you apply beforehand, make sure you do not leave your bottom damp. Dampness might actually cause worse stinging. Good advice of applying lidocaine the problem is my husband do not allow it as he wants the spanking to sink in. Very good advice of not leaving your bottom damp it extra painful when spanked.

What are your suggestions to make it less painful?

Well, the spanker can set out to modify the force. Personally I don't think spankings, all spankings have to be butt burners. There are ways to achieve a hot, angry, red, bottom. For one, I tend to slap with a flexible wrist, that snaps the flat of my hand across the bottom. It's an interesting sensation, much more broader than just a burning pain. 2ndly with more articulation you can make a good impression and both of you can go at it longer. The panic of the one your spanking is fun because your not giving them anything beyond limits, expect their expectation of time. But then you are in control.

I don't understand "how to make a spanking less painful." The purpose of a spanking is to inflict pain. If you don't want to be responsible for pain, the simple solution is don't spank.

My wife was the first to ask me to spank her, the pain was what turned her on.

I think the idea of the post is what can the person who is receiving the spanking do to tolerate the pain better. The OP gives some suggestions for the spankee, not the spanker.

Why would you want a spanking to be less painful. It defeats the whole purpose of the spanking..

Why would you want a spanking to be less painful. It defeats the whole purpose of the spanking..

So it doesn’t hurt as much? I dunno. Why should there be safe words?

To make it less painful but a great experience is the spanker to wear a pair of Leather Gloves makes a great sound and feeling

I don't understand why a lot of people are surprised by this post. There are so many things to enjoy about spankings, the intimacy, the power play, the vulnerability, the position, the submissiveness, it's not only about pain. I think these are great tips.

I think you'll find that anyone administering a spanking will be wise to the wiles you propose.

In my own, admittedly limited, experience, a spanking isn't just about the spanking itself. It's about the whole ritual. That includes being sent to the place where the spanking is to occur, whether that be the bedroom, the living room, the kitchen or whatever. The miscreant is then to prepare for his spanking by not only fetching the chosen spanking implement, but also to dress for his spanking.

That might be bare bottomed, or in a pair of punishment panties.

I certainly wouldn't countenance him wearing thick jeans or additional padding.

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Have the spanker go a little lighter on the strokes until the spankee is warmed up. After 20 or 30 light strokes, the spanker can start hitting a little harder as the spankee indicates with a thumbs up to slowly increase the intensity. Once the bottom is properly warmed up, it feels really good to take the harder strokes and they feel really good with a little pain at that point.

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A good spanker observes spanked person's reactions and adjusts hits force. As well, or maybe in first place, the spanker should have a conversation with spankee re what he or she likes, expects and so on. What is a heavy spanking for one can be moderate or even light for someone else.

A spanking friend surprised me during pillow talk. She was only into spanking to please me! Turns out she struggled to take a hard spanking so I lightened up. She was just as aroused so it was great for both of us.

I have replied to this topic before, so I'll mention it again. I had a ping pong paddle used on me, it makes a loud noise butt (pun intended) is not too painful. Quite the turn on to have over someone's lap.