Uneasy during, as a result of exam

DocH2o asked earlier if any of us had refused any part of an exam due to being uncomfortable.

My query has to do with has anyone ever felt unease, not physical discomfort, but unease emotionally like something is just "off"?

I was much younger, ( I think I still had brown hair!) and was at the traditional end of a male physical

The female examiner, who was close to my age, physically, and I were alone in the room. I'm not sure if she took just a tad too long, or what caused me to feel that way, but as she rolled my scrotum, I felt that unease. I dressed, and never returned.

I think that whenever someone is uncomfortable, especially during a complete physical regardless of one's age, it is necessary and important to inform the examining doctor and/or nurse. Some folks have experienced horrendous physical or sexual abuse making the experience of an intimate exam very challenging. For others, and again, this could be due to one's age and prior experiences, it is for many of us a tad unusual to be naked and have our genitals touched by a stranger without sexual intent! So, yes feeling uncomfortable likely can happen. What you choose to do to address this is up to you. Good luck and take care.

I feel uneasy during every intimate exam. Not because of creepy doctor vibes, but it's just such an awkward, embarrassing experience in the moment. However, that's also the feeling that I crave and love to think back on and remember fondly in the comfort of my home.

For me it depends on the doctor. If it's a doctor I don't trust (and I've been traumatized in the past and almost died) I'm always uneasy.

If it's a doctor I trust I'm not "uneasy" but definitely "on edge" if it's an intimate exam. But then I look back at the appointment and remember that embarrassing feeling very closely and play that in my head over and over and it turns me on. I guess that's why I'm here

I don't know if "unease" is the best word, rather "apprehension." Usually, fir the first few times I see a doctor, I get more hyper focused on what they are doing and what they might be finding. Also, a slight embarrassment with the GU/DRE exams, also, whenever I need to see a specialist, such as urology, orthopedics, GI, etc. Don't know whether it is the exam itself or what they might find.

Yes, sometimes you might be picking up on cues that you're not aware of, and since you're not aware of them, you can't say I'm feeling uneasy because of fill in the blank.

I have had this, new patient meet and greet. No exam outside of vitals actually done, I couldn't shake this sense of "got to get out of here, something's not right". My bi tapps stopped it from turning into blind panic but my hands were shaking and that doesn't happen unless nerves are severely stressed or I'm releasing tension in somatic therapy. I don't know if it was new person and the fact I could see the extended stirrups in my line of sight, but I figured try someone else, and that sense of unease didn't follow me without an identifiable reason. It was identifiable, as they don't know how to handle this condition, they said something that made me wonder did you study to be that stupid, they don't know the referral landscape, and those are very concrete.

OH YES. About a decade ago, I had moved to a new city and randomly felt something weird on/around my cervix one day in the shower. I made the earliest appointment that I could with the family practice that I had gone to for care when I was in college. Well, the earliest appointment available was with one of the most elderly looking men I’ve ever seen practicing medicine - like if he’d told me he was retiring at the end of the week, I’d say it was about a decade overdue. He was actually an incredibly kind and attentive physician. I did feel comfortable after talking with him about my medical history, etc. and didn’t have any qualms about him doing the exam (other than he had HUGE hands…but hey, let’s make things real weird).

Before the exam, he asks if one of his medical students can observe. Sure, why the hell not, a pelvic exam really wasn’t any big deal to me by that point in my life, and I assumed it’s probably not something a lot of women would actually consent to. He lets me undress, etc. then comes back into the room with the most miserable looking human being I’ve ever encountered in a medical setting (and I’ve been in many over the years). We get started with the exam, the med student stands at my side, and the entire time, I can just feel their discomfort radiating off of them. The doctor was…er…VERY thorough (rather heavy handed, maybe) and at one point, I look up and this medical student makes eye contact with me, then gives me the MOST uncomfortable, withering look.

I think my discomfort and unease was probably just the vibe I was picking up from this poor student, but it was exponentially more uncomfortable for me on account of the invasiveness of my exam and how disturbingly OLD the doctor was. I never did go back to the doctor, but I have allowed other medical students in on my exams. Nothing has ever come close to that experience.

My query has to do with has anyone ever felt unease, not physical discomfort, but unease emotionally like something is just "off"?

Mostly it is my bodies reaction to the waiting for the results of tests for my sub. Mostly in the beginning of his health issues journey. How bad he was, how much damage was done, ect.

I tend to think to the worst case possible so that anything else becomes a relief. As it isn't as bad. Throw in ignorance of medical anything and I tend to know very little at times. Until I say the right thing to the right person who understands what I do not know.