Harness experiences

I’ve recently been fascinated by stories of young boys who were kept in diapers and harnesses when they were out. Sometimes it was just a trip to the store. Other times, they were traveling and going through an airport. What’s your story?

I love harnesses and leashes! Always fascinated by them, and loved to see any in use.

I had my own set, way back to riding in my carriage. Don’t remember that part, but later I had to wear it again, and I can remember it. Our yard was fenced, but there were gaps, I was able to get out, and would run off. My mom broke out my old Zip A Babe harness, and would then put me on a leash, tied to the back porch. I could no longer escape through the fence! My older sister took great pleasure, in teasing me while I was on my leash. She would leave the yard, to go play outside with friends. I can remember, running to the gate, and coming to the end of my tether, crying cause she was on the other side laughing at me. Tug as I might, I wasn’t getting free of the leash, and I couldn’t get at the zipper in the back. Yep, I still remember the frustration being on that leash.

I now have quite an extensive collection of baby harnesses, leashes, reins. I have a large collection of adult sized baby harnesses too. Love reliving, the young tethered child days!

You can see a small fraction of my ab harnesses, in some of my old photos here.

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PS. I never wore my harness outside of our yard, not that I can remember.

I enjoyed going parasailing on holiday once. I felt like a toddler hanging from the harness!

I think that is terrible to do that to a child. Hold his hand don’t put him on a leash, they are not dogs

I think that is terrible to do that to a child. Hold his hand don’t put him on a leash, they are not dogs

Not all children will hold hands. Not all parents have enough hands for all children and the items being dragged along.

Personally if it is being used responsibly and the child is safe then why not.

I do not have children of my own. I do not remember ever having a harness or holding hands. My parents were not attentive and expected me to keep up at my own pace. I do remember roaming around shops looking for them.

If separated, go to the car and wait there. The system worked. One time, I lost them in a grocery store. I waited at the car while they spent a long time searching in the store. They left when it closed. I was at the car waiting for them.

On the topic again, with those memories, we all may have been better off if I had been on a harness.

I put my pets, two cats and a bunny, on a harness so they don't wander off exploring or bolt if something scares them. I love them and do not want to have bad things happen to them when we go for a walk.

I would put a harness on a child for the same reasons. Taking a child out with an exposed diaper is not something I would do. Tacky as glue.

#4 @toshe63 ..... I agree with you 100 %. I have raised 4 kids. Never have I ever put a leash on them. Sorry. But I know I am going to get a lot shit for my next statement. Parents need to be parents and not their friends. when a child does something stupid like run ahead in a parking lot, you need as a parent, and give them a good crack on their ass. you only need to do this once or twice before it sets in. So the next time, we as a family, say go into the parking lot we all hold hands. That is what a parent is...... a teacher. Teach your children. leash's are for animals.

I used to look down on it. But if used as a safety tool rather than a baby sitting or control tool, I’m ok with it. A mother carrying a load of groceries, pushing a stroller and trying to keep a toddlersafe..It’s prudent.

#4 @toshe63 ..... I agree with you 100 %. I have raised 4 kids. Never have I ever put a leash on them. Sorry. But I know I am going to get a lot shit for my next statement. Parents need to be parents and not their friends. when a child does something stupid like run ahead in a parking lot, you need as a parent, and give them a good crack on their ass. you only need to do this once or twice before it sets in. So the next time, we as a family, say go into the parking lot we all hold hands. That is what a parent is...... a teacher. Teach your children. leash's are for animals.

I feel your point is well taken. A leash is not for every parent, and if you can get along without, fine. But in many cases it’s almost necessary. It should not reflect badly on a parent or caregiver, for using one. Even if they are a “lazy” parent. At least, they care enough to do something to keep their kids safe.

A leash is only a tool, and how it’s used, or possibly misused could be matter for discussion. You wouldn’t call someone out for using a crib, or a playpen as putting their child in a cage. Or, strapping a child in a car seat, as tiring them down for convenience.

If a leash is not needed in your own case, it’s not a license to case aspirations on others who do.

Whatever works!

A leash is only a tool, and how it’s used, or possibly misused could be matter for discussion. You wouldn’t call someone out for using a crib, or a playpen as putting their child in a cage. Or, strapping a child in a car seat, as tiring them down for convenience.

If a leash is not needed in your own case, it’s not a license to case aspirations on others who do.

Good point @Luvs_It . "Tools" can be used for good or bad.

It is opinions like theses that parents have to weigh if they wish to use a harness on their children. Which makes it hard to find them...not used often or critiqued for using them, they get thrown away.

When I was married to my first wife we lived close to a very busy town and whenever we took our daughter, who was 2or 3 back then, we always had her in a harness. The main reason being the sidewalks were very crowded and the streets busy with traffic. It would have been too easy for her to slip out of our hands and out into the traffic. Almost happened once when we weren't using the harness. Frightened the shit out of me. Made sure it never happened again.

They certainly have their place.

I’m not a parent, so far be it from me to impart any potential wisdom here. But any time I ever saw the harness/leash thing for kids it gave me a terribly icky feeling. I understand there may be some cases where maybe the child has special needs or there may be some other factor at play, but it just looks dehumanizing.