Women, first time pain?

Hello. Reading some posts on here about first times made me wonder how many women felt pain when losing their virginity? The two virgins I have been with were very different. The first definitely felt pain no matter how slowly we went and how much lube we used, whereas the second said she felt no pain at all.

It depends on so many physiological and emotional factors...

Anyway, to answer your question. I didn't feel any pain.

That's a big question. I both did and didn't.

What I mean by that is the first few times I tried to lose my virginity, it hurt so bad I made the boy stop before he achieved any kind of real penetration. Maybe he got the tip in. I tried on a few occasions with 2 different boys between the ages of 14 and 16 without success. Real pain. We tried using lube (even though I made quite a bit on my own) and different positions but no. I THINK I was willing, but was I really? I was young, they were quite a bit older, they were pressuring me. While I wasn't diagnosed (because I didn't tell my doctor), I believe it was vaginismus brought on by my subconsciously NOT wanting to have sex.

I say that as when I finally lost it, at 16 after Junior Prom on my own terms and at the end of rather detailed planning, it went off without a hitch. Slid right in, no pain, just good. Now it could be that my earlier attempts had already battered my hymen into submission, but I never bled after any of them nor did I bleed when I actually lost it. I did ride horses as an adolescent so maybe my horse took it. Who knows?

I remember it feeling uncomfortable the first time I was penetrated by a penis, but I wouldn’t say it “hurt”. I think I may have got lucky in that the person I lost my virginity with, PIV, was kind and caring and knew what foreplay was, what lubrication was, and he had penetrative sex with someone else before me.

It wasn’t “painless” but it didn’t hurt… I did feel tender for a day or two afterwards, but it didn’t hurt.

The first time I had PIA sex, I thought that he had torn my rectum as the pain I felt when his penis pushed inside me was so intense, and the way my insides felt… I thought I was being torn apart.

It didn’t last very long though. I remember wincing and after some more lube, some more preparation with fingers and stuff, it didn’t hurt anywhere near as much on our next attempt.

Still to this day I prefer vaginal sex.

It hurt the first time I had PIV sex. But I loved the pain of being penetrant.

Yes ,first time was painful, probably didn't help that he was quite big, and just the general anxiety of it all

@Nurse_Phillips The psychological aspect is important. I had a girlfriend who who a virgin, but had a permissive hymen, and enjoyed fingering (one then two fingers). She however felt some kind of intimidation with penile penetration, perhaps feat of getting pregnant, and we could never have intercourse (she tensed, and even if she told me to go on I would feel bad and could not do it).

It depends greatly on the partner and how stimulated you are...and maybe how big it is. My BFF taught me how to rub it at a sleepover. she introduced me to a dildo. she used it on me while I rubbed it; it was my first real orgasm. It didn't hurt at all. (9&10 at the time). I would hang out with my neighbor , he was in high school and i was still in elementary, we would make out in his room, touch each other, i'd give him a hand job or a blow job. I was nervous when he wanted to have sex, but it didn't hurt. It wasn't until the next year when I had sex with a man; i definitely wasn't stimulated enough and he was big. he just put a little lube on it and pushed it in...it hurt like hell. told him it hurt but he kept going until he was done.

I'm pretty sure I officially lost my virginity (as in breaking my hymen) to the arm of a Danish Modern chair. I misjudged distance and came down on it between my legs, hard, experienced a flash of fairly intense pain, and bled a little bit.

Later when I was with a partner--hiya, Craig, you POS who told everybody--it was no more than mildly uncomfortable, because the very handsome Craig did zero foreplay. Luckily I was already good and wet.