First time pain?

Hello. Reading some posts on here about first times made me wonder how many women felt pain when losing their virginity? The two virgins I have been with were very different. The first definitely felt pain no matter how slowly we went and how much lube we used, whereas the second said she felt no pain at all.

It depends on so many physiological and emotional factors...

Anyway, to answer your question. I didn't feel any pain.

That's a big question. I both did and didn't.

What I mean by that is the first few times I tried to lose my virginity, it hurt so bad I made the boy stop before he achieved any kind of real penetration. Maybe he got the tip in. I tried on a few occasions with 2 different boys between the ages of 14 and 16 without success. Real pain. We tried using lube (even though I made quite a bit on my own) and different positions but no. I THINK I was willing, but was I really? I was young, they were quite a bit older, they were pressuring me. While I wasn't diagnosed (because I didn't tell my doctor), I believe it was vaginismus brought on by my subconsciously NOT wanting to have sex.

I say that as when I finally lost it, at 16 after Junior Prom on my own terms and at the end of rather detailed planning, it went off without a hitch. Slid right in, no pain, just good. Now it could be that my earlier attempts had already battered my hymen into submission, but I never bled after any of them nor did I bleed when I actually lost it. I did ride horses as an adolescent so maybe my horse took it. Who knows?