Non-stereotypical keyholding/ Chasity arrangements

Two part question here depending on what side of the fence you sit on.

Chaste People: Who is your keyholder?

People who have keys: Why are you interested?

I am specifically curious about those who hold the keys or are locked by someone you are not in any relationship/ situationship with.

For example, for the past couple of years I have been an on-again-off-again key holder for a friend who uses chastity as a control measure for masturbation addiction. I am sexually submissive, he is sexually submissive, however I quite enjoy being the one with the keys, and seeing him update me on his situation/ his desire to change that situation.

He has said it is an added bonus to him that I have zero interest in his desire to play with himself, and that my disinterest is far more ‘brutal’ than any partner he’s been locked by in the past. To use his words “sooner or later they unlock because they want it out to play with it.”

As I have no sexual interest in him, I find it funny, and that is the main reason for my enjoyment - I guess.

I don’t fit into either category, but figured I’d throw in my two cents.

As I’ve mentioned in a couple of other threads, I’m a submissive and I’m only interested in women but I do have a thing for males in chastity. It definitely turns me on, but I’m still not interested in having any sort of sex with the man at that point. It’s one of those rare moments for me where I get more enjoyment out of being dominant and tormenting the other person than being submissive myself. Some sissies can be really cute too, and maybe that’s also part of I’m what attracted to because they can appear very feminine in some cases. I love seeing them bent over and seeing that cage pop out between their legs, but I don’t think I could form any sort of relationship that would be beyond a semi-sexual platonic level.

I’ve thought about doing the online key holder thing in the past but I’m not sure I would enjoy it as much, and now that I’m in a monogamous relationship it wouldn’t be appropriate either. I’ve always really enjoyed the idea of myself being put in chastity but the options for us ladies just aren’t practical, and some sort of self-enforced arrangement wouldn’t really strike the same chord for me. So, that leaves me with mostly fantasizing about either tormenting some poor sissy or being femdommed as sub alongside a guy-sub in chastity which sounds really fun too.