Women , Enemas and Anal Sex

Growing up in the 50's an enema in our household was common practice. In fact I know my mother gave herself frequent enemas and thinking about that I bet my mom used anal sex as a form of contraceptive . She was very religious but she did have 5 children.

This leaves me to believe she was very sexually active so she had to enjoy having sex different ways like oral sex and anal sex or just mutual masturbation or she would have had many more children . So this leads me to believe many women at that time in the 50's used enemas and anal sex as a form of birth control. Can I have your opinions on this subject ? So am I right or wrong ?

I think you're making a huge leap in logic based on your own interests.

A woman who has had five pregnancies isn't necessarily a woman who's often eager for sex. She could be, sure, but it's not a given.

A woman who took enemas in the 1950s was not necessarily a woman preparing for anal play or penetration. It's just as likely she was treating her own constipation or may have enjoyed the enemas themselves, either sexually or for the feeling of well-being after self-care.

So the conclusion that she enjoyed alternate forms of sexual release like anal and oral doesn't follow based on lots of kids and taking enemas.

And I guarantee you that a woman raising five kids and running the household while the man of the house earns the money is too exhausted to desire a whole lot of sex. For real, one's libido takes a hit when you're always tired, which many mothers of young children are. (It improves once they're older.) When our kids were young, as soon as we got into bed most nights, I was out like a light.

I grew up in the 50s also. Women in the 50s could be quite sexually active, however during that time it was kept more hidden and quiet. Enemas were very common and they were given for a variety of reasons, it was sorta the in thing to do then. Many women and men enjoyed enemas then just like they do today. My mother also enjoyed enemas however I don’t think she was ever into anal sex. There probably were some women then that liked anal sex then and used enemas before a sex session as a form of birth control.

If you believe that your mother used enemas and anal sex and was very sexually active and used it as a form of birth control then she probably did. My own experience with very religious women is they use religion to try to control their own desires and when they let their genie out of the bottle they can become absolute sexual wildcats.

Growing up in the 50s also as a young child I believe that your opinion is right.

I also don’t see a correlation between the number of kids a woman has and her sexual activity/appetite. It may be true for some women but not as a generalization for most women. Larger families were more common back in the mid 1900’s and planned for. Birth control was available in the 50’s (condoms) and the pill became available in 1960. Some religions dont approve of contraception and that may have contributed to having more kids and/or experimentation.

There probably is a correlation between the common use of enemas back then and anal eroticism - which could lead to a anal sex.

I was born in the 50’s, and the women that I knew from my earliest memories, taught boys and girls respect, consideration, social responsibility, and gratitude. Apparently, medical science was very advanced, because doctors and teachers knew the difference between the two sexes. I don’t doubt that some women had anal sex, but based on the social norms of the times, church teachings, and the fact that sodomy was considered to be perverted, and was commonly outlawed in most states, I believe that it was less common than straight vaginal sex. During the late 60’s, early 70’s, sexual permissiveness and experimentation was the norm.

@PinotNoir said,

It's just as likely she was treating her own constipation or may have enjoyed the enemas themselves, either sexually or for the feeling of well-being after self-care.

During the late fifties and early sixties, as preteens then teenagers, my siblings and I used enemas to relieve sexual tensions on a regular basis. Giving each other enemas at least twice a week. The routine lasting until we finished High School.

I just have to comment in this thread since I'm a long time fan of anal sex. For me personally I had my first enema when I was 14 at the time it was for difficult periods accompanied by constipation. My grandmother said an enema would make me feel much better. I knew that she took them often and enjoyed the effects. I started having sex when I was 16, the third time I had sex it was anal and I enjoyed it right off it was more comfortable than vaginal at the time. I had a lover (my tennis instructor of 25) who knew what he was doing - lots of lube and a through anal massage first. I knew then that this was going to be a good thing. When I met my late husband he was delighted that I enjoyed anal sex. Fast forward to present day - anal sex is more popular than ever with younger women, it's no secret that an anal orgasm is achievable whereas a vaginal one is not for some ladies. There is even a growing group of younger women that practice AO - Anal only as a form of natural birth control. In the past year or so I met a young RN whom has a number of friends that are part of that little club. So yes women, enemas, Anal sex, and natural birth control are a REAL thing. Nothing new really.

BJ

This is a fascinating thread and I’ll throw in my two cents based on my experience.

Like many of you I was born in the 50’s. There were 4 kids in the family, the first 2 were born during WW 2 and the second 2 (me being #3) were born in the mid 50’s. My parents were married just before America entered the war. My father was already in the air corps when war was declared and because of these circumstances they didn’t really live as a married couple until the end of the war. My oldest sibling was conceived before Pearl Harbor and my second sibling as a result of military leave in 1943.

My parents never talked about this and I never dared to ask, but it appears that when they actually lived together on a regular basis after the war they found out that they were seriously incompatible, a situation that grew into full scale hatred over the years. How I and my younger sister came about is a mystery. Anyway, by the time I was old enough to remember, my parents did not speak to each other except in case of emergency and would never go into the same room at the same time. They certainly did not share a bed. Believe me, it was no fun. The house was filled with tension 24/7.

My father was Catholic (my mother not). And back then this meant no divorce. They finally did divorce when I was 15 much to my father’s displeasure.

Oh yeah, this is supposed to be about enemas…. My mother had a combination fountain enema/douche which she kept in a closet. I found it and you can guess what I did with it. I know that my mother used it because of the condition it was in when I used it. I know that she did not have either vaginal or anal sex, her only sexual activity must have been with her douche. For several reasons I’m sure she could not have had a lover (primarily because she practically was a prisoner in the house and was not allowed use of the car).

I don’t remember my mother ever giving me an enema though I’m sure she must have. I kind of picked up the habit on my own.

I think the point I really want to make here is that there must have been many disastrous marriages back then and divorce was far, far, far less common than it is today, especially for Catholics. So the 50’s and 60’s may be the golden age of enemas partly because of this. Why did every drugstore have such a good selection of rubber goods?

I hope this contributes to the discussion.

Funny story to wrap this up…..

My sister and I lived with my mother after her divorce, my older brothers had long since moved away. When I was maybe 17 or 18, my sister, mother, and I were sitting around the dinner table and the discussion turned to her marriage. Smart ass that I am, I tried to ask my mother whether she ever had oral sex with my father without asking point blank. I talked around it using scientific expressions and so forth.

“What in the hell are you talking about?” Asked my mother.

My little sister blurted out, “did you ever suck his cock?”

My mother exploded in rage. My sister and I still talk about this.

@Red_bag_user said,

Smart ass that I am, I tried to ask my mother whether she ever had oral sex with my father without asking point blank. I talked around it using scientific expressions and so forth.

“What in the hell are you talking about?” Asked my mother.

My little sister blurted out, “did you ever suck his cock?”

My mother exploded in rage.

LMAO…

What @Rick6981 said ......

only expanded to ROTFLMAO2X!!!!!!!

highwater

@Red_bag_user I know I'm wandering off the point a little but the dinner table conversation made me laugh out loud. The nearest I can get is when my son was home on leave from the RAF aged in his early 20s, s few years back. A family Sunday dinner took place during which my son explained how his best mates girl ha dumped him having 'decided to become a lesbian' Clearly disappointed by the lack of response he just had to keep going.... 'bet you'd have had something to say about that wouldn't you dad. Go on what would you say?' 'Can I watch?' wasn't appreciated by all & sundry around the table!

So this leads me to believe many women at that time in the 50's used enemas and anal sex as a form of birth control.

That is a big assumption to make. If one did not ask or talk about it...you do not definitely know the person's reason for doing enemas. Because in the 50's they were a "cure all" for many things. Used for many different "issues" one had in their health.

Well. Before anal sex, one just wants to clean up the lower rectum, and for this a small enema is sufficient.

I would not use a big enema, because the big enema is likely to "come back later". Thus I doubt a person using big bag enemas would use them as preparation for sex.

My husband and I have touched on the subject, but we’ve agreed that’s the opening where a lubed figure, rectal tube or nozzle goes — and we are happy with that!

Women, enemas, and anal sex?

I love all three!

When I was in high school, I knew a girl who told me that she made it a point to have sex or an enema at least once a month. She felt that an enema was a alternative to sex and that several of her friends felt the same way. I went to high school in the 70s.

@BobFromNJ said,

When I was in high school, I knew a girl who told me that she made it a point to have sex or an enema at least once a month. She felt that an enema was a alternative to sex and that several of her friends felt the same way.

My siblings and I used enemas and masturbation as an alternative to sex during the late fifties and early sixties, and some of our friends did likewise. When my girlfriend and I were fourteen, we started using enemas and masturbation as an alternative to sexual intercourse, relieving the sexual tension between us.

I don't practise anal intercourse but if I did, I would think an enema would be a prerequisite.

@BigJane , I first got into anal with my high school girlfriend. It was much preferable to her than pregnancy, and since kids in the '60's had no access of any kind to birth control, it was one choice that was sort of forced on us. Pedophilia was not a thing in those days, and even if it had been, I was 15 and she 16. So I suppose that I was the jailbait...anyway, we became intimate over a few months and did quite a bit of "play" without actually having sex, touching, looking, etc. She was almost as interested as me in being intimate, and she was actually the one who suggested anal, if I remember correctly. In any event, we were soon doing anal, and I asked her if she had ever had an enema (hoping she liked them). She said her Mom gave them to her quite often up until she was about 12, but she hated them and always cried a lot getting them. She told me she remembered begging her Mom to stop, crying, "Mommy, it hurts!" Mom never stopped. Those who know me on the site are well aware that whimpering, begging and reactions such as that are very erotic to me (I also likentonsee real pleasure as Ingive the enema). Imagine my surprise when she asked ME to give her an enema. I've thought a lot about this, reading everyone's posts here, and I now believe that it was her secret desire to submit that way to me. Enema memories are often very conflicted, embodying fear, hate, need, desire and many other emotions, and I suspect it was so with her. Anyway, I ended up giving her MANY enemas, and she loved anal and orgasmed almost violently from anal sex. I think that if we had stayed together, our stories would have been very different. I found out later from her daughter after she died, that she never got over me (pretty sad over that),. I never got over her either. Anyway, yes, teenagers DID use anal to avoid pregnancies back in the 1960's...

Another comment on anal sex with a woman: it's very different from vaginal sex to the man. The vagina feels like a warm sheath to the man, holding him all around, caressing him. The girls' bottom (properly prepared) feels very different-- more like a ring around the penis, with the anal vault expanding and feeling very different from the vagina. Which do I like best? If the woman has had a good enema and some recovery time, anal is very special, indeed. Vaginal sex is also special, and lends itself much more to relaxed lovemaking. If I had to choose, it would probably be anal, because of two things: the necessary submission and the fact she'd need a good cleansing first. One thing anal did for me was to make me a real fan of "front to back" (spooning) sex. Feeling my girl's soft buttocks against me is a sensation all its own, much enhanced by penetration in either anus or vagina.. If I were to ever have a new girlfriend, she would have to be OK with enemas and anal, botn giving and receiving enemas and anal. I never told that first girlfriend that I really enjoyed large, thorough enemas, but I did. Another point: women's vaginas do atrophy after menopause, but the butthole stays the same. I wonder if well prepared and lubricated anal might not help a couple where the woman experiences a lot of pain when she has vaginal intercourse. Any thoughts?

My sister learned about anal sex in high school from a girlfriend with a single mother...and the going was that if you wanted to have fun and still be a virgin, that were cocks went in. That was the girlfriend where my own cock god browned and soured me with asses until I learned that enemas were the key to it. When she got married, virgin, my sister learned from grandma that if she did not want to spend her life pregnant, she could use a little trick, making her husband slide in the other side, well prepared previously, when she felt it was "time"...took a while to learn it well, but it worked. Of course she only used it in the not so safe days...the others he was fairly good in taking it out. With my wife the issue never presented itself as she loved anal e appreciated enemas right from the start. Being a very smart lady she had the idea that I might have enjoyed that too....next time I came home I brought her a strap from Copenhagen. Enjoyed it for 35 years.

@BigJane I love your comments on this posting! You are some good writer Jane!

I have no experience with either and admit that I'm surprised (fascinated?) at how common enemas were for people growing up. It didn't happen in my house and I have no friends it happened to, or at least none admitted it. One Zity friend, a woman, tried to convince me to do an enema while she stepped me through it on a Zity chat. I declined because I'm scared I'll do it wrong, though she get me quite aroused by the time she proposed it 😳Personally, I take homeopathic laxatives if needed. That's fine.

@Doctorh3e My wife grew a taste for vaginal spooning sex during her pregnancies and indeed there is something very pleasurable in the rubbing of the buttocks.

Things don't always have to match up. For example, I don't dislike anal sex, but I wouldn't mind a good enema.

Never had the pleasure of giving an enema to a woman before anal but wish they existed today

I read a thesis on sexuality and contraception in France from the 1960s to now. Prior to 1967, the only contraceptives whose sale was authorized were condoms, and it seems that they were not much used (other contraceptives were tolerated if distributed through family planning organizations). Men were supposed to know to withdraw before ejaculation. There were also periodic methods. The thesis did not mention anal sex as a mainstream contraceptive method.

I however read a woman mentioning she would take it in the backdoor when she was ovulating.