Playing Doctor With Myself…

Hello,

Honest question here. I feel like I may be all alone on this one. I’m a 63 y/o married male with very limited sexual activity with my wife. She is generally not interested. This could be a whole other discussion but I’ll save that for another time.

While my sexual needs have diminished over the last few years, they still are present. Maybe a couple of times a week, they are strong enough that I wish to explore and take action on my need further. As one might imagine, my primary (and nearly sole) means of sexual expression is masturbation. We are both home all day so I am usually sneaking this in whenever and wherever possible.

I have had a fetish for medical examinations and related activities (RTs) for as far back as I can remember. I’ve written before about how my physical exams as an adolescent were sexualized , as I was required to bare my penis during the genital exam while a female nurse suppressed my arms above my head on the exam table, to prevent me from interfering with my pediatrician.

This is all background and long winded, but brings me to my question. I love to be on the receiving end of a fetish medical exam but due to my recent relocation, haven’t been able to find a willing partner. Even when I could, I would still roleplay in my mind and act out a play doctor exam on myself when I masturbate. I’ll spare the details of what the ‘doctor’ makes me do for now, but does anyone else enjoy this activity of playing doctor on themselves?

I have also played doctor on myself when I masturbate. I enjoy doing a testicular exam on myself and imagine that it's my doctor doing it.

I do it occasionally too. I enjoy playing both roles anyway. When playing alone, it's obviously not the same, since there isn't any sort of power dynamic or authority figure of the doctor present. I see it more like this: I perform a testicular self-exam every few weeks anyway (like every man below 40 should), so I take that as a starting point and do it as if I were a doctor, who is examining himself. I grab gloves and stethoscope and perform a more complete self-exam, eventually getting to the testicles and genitals too.

@rodjerkerr ,

I find myself in a situation somewhat similar to yours .

At 73, I have being living alone since my girlfriend dumped me 4 years ago. Thoughout my life, I have been having a strong rectal temperature fetish. With Deborah, we used to take our respective rectal temperature every day, on our knees, first thing in the morning. Since she left me, I take my rectal temperature about once a week, allowing my old glass thermometer a generous 10 minutes to register. Then, I close my eyes and try to remember the good rectal temperature sessions I had in my life.

I am rather afraid of doctors and medical exams. I see a female cardiologist every six months and I see her more as a friend. I feel ashamed if I have an erection when she is stething me.

I sometimes make an audio recording of a doctor giving an examination. I follow his instructions.

Honest question here. I feel like I may be all alone on this one.

Honest answer: I doubt you are really alone. It's just something that people will hardly ever talk about face-to-face and even in articles in magazines it's a touchy subject. Besides, popular articles on sexual matters are so superficial or uninformed anyway. Even sexual specialists have a hard time wrapping their (often academically formed) head around what medfet/enema play really is. Most have no bloody clue.

That said, I would say I'm also somewhat like this. I don't usually do/perform anything or playact medfet activities on myself as such. Physically most can't really be done solo anyway.

For me it is mainly a mental activity, playing out situations in my mind, often enough talking/whispering out loud to myself (never a good sign of mental health they say ... ha ha) and holding a two way conversation, playing both doctor/nurse/strict chaperone etc and a submissive patient.

If anyone ever surreptitiously observed me carrying on like that, I'm certain they would think I was a psychopath ready for the looney bin.

It’s the only thing I masturbate to. Married but parter is not sexually adventurous and has made it clear they are not interested in anything medical or fetish at all which leaves me unsatisfied. I am constantly seeking audio pornography that has a female doc giving a detailed exam but most of the ASMR stuff I’ve found is just so corny. So no, certainly not alone.

Disabled man, who has had a lifetime of poking and prodding. Experiences most people dont get

I’m married, 70 years old, and my only sex life involves masturbating with a rectal thermometer in my ass. It could be worse, to be honest.

There should be no judgment here as you are not hurting anyone. Quite to the contrary, if the sexual relationship with your partner has diminished for any number of reasons, I don't see how self pleasure is a crime. That said, I do think discussing how to enrich things would be important. Perhaps seeing a couple's therapist. Self pleasure is far more kind than cheating!

There should be no judgment here as you are not hurting anyone. Quite to the contrary, if the sexual relationship with your partner has diminished for any number of reasons, I don't see how self pleasure is a crime. That said, I do think discussing how to enrich things would be important. Perhaps seeing a couple's therapist. Self pleasure is far more kind than cheating!

I wonder what a typical therapist would make of this kind of solo sexual activity? Somehow I have the feeling they would not truly approve and try to steer things back into more traditional/societally approved means of finding sexual satisfaction, namely by one-on-one sexual activity. I would think that a sexual therapist would almost by definition see solo sex as seriously lacking something, as a sort of failure when couples are in a marriage/relationship.

Im curious. Sometimes ordinary things are exciting. A friend of a friend, suddenly began brushing her husband's teeth. That let too, bliss.

Its extremely important to understand. medical exams are a form.of cathartic

I'm somewhat like you - still need to be sexually active and have a wife who has zero interest. She will feel my cock if I ask her to and I'm allowed to play with her tits.

But the fantasy I use is not play-doctoring myself but a real doc examining my wife when she was younger - in her 20s and 30s when her body was incredible. It's hard for me to masturbate without this - him asking her to put her feet in the stirrups, him asking her to open her legs, him viewing her vulva, parting the lips and viewing everything. Then he would insert fingers up inside her, probing around. He used to use two fingers but when I was allowed inside, I used three to ensure a full cunt.

This is almost my sole source of masturbation mental visualization.

Yes, that’s what I do when I masturbate. I imagine a med exam and play it in front of the mirror.

Hey, whatever works for you, go for it.

My masturbation fantasies are often a kaleidoscope of events both real and imaged, some sexual, some medical, some gentle and some not.

Remember that scene in "Midnight Cowboy" where Joe Buck is caught having sex in the car and it triggers a fast sequence of clips of him being forced out of the car, then flashback to being spanked by his grandmother and followed by an enema, Joe forced across the hood of the car, the girl running naked into a house, followed by her being taken away in an ambulance. I was impressed how the director captured how the brain plays back memories from the past.