Men exposed to female staff while hospitalized

Being hospitalized as a man, especially as a gay man with no attraction to women, was a deeply humiliating experience due to the lack of privacy and the predominantly female medical staff performing intimate procedures. From being catheterized and given sponge baths to undergoing genital exams and rectal treatments, I was repeatedly exposed to different female nurses without being offered the option of a male caregiver. The experience not only made me feel vulnerable and powerless but also infantilized, as if I were a helpless boy under the control of others. In some instances, it even seemed like certain staff members enjoyed the power dynamic, exerting unnecessary control over my body. While female patients are often granted same-gender care for intimate procedures, men are rarely given the same consideration, highlighting an unfair double standard in medical settings.

I'd be curious to hear from other men in hospital settings.

I'm sure there are a lot of men here who would have gladly loved to be in your position ......

Did you ever express your concerns and ask for a male nurse?

I am not sure I view this in the same manner as a hospital stay is potentially serious as there was sufficient concern to admit an individual for an elective or required procedure. I think that having a female staff attend to you whether its a nurse or doctor is not likely within one's control. They have a job to do and as professionals they do it without regard to sexual preference or gender identity, especially if this is an urgent matter. That said, the act of being examined likely causes many to feel uneasy and embarrassed. Hopefully in the future, you can express any discomfort so as to avoid further emotional distress. Good luck as your concerns are not without merit for you and others who may feel similarly uneasy.

I think anyone being examined or provided intimate care should ASK for same gender provider if that is what makes them comfortable. I usually just accept whomever is assigned to me, but occasionally I will ask for a different doctor, nurse, CNA, or tech, but usually not due to gender but for other reasons such as being rude or inappropriate. That being said male staff are not always available on a given shift inpatient or outpatient because of the low numbers of men in nursing or jobs below nursing that involve intimate care because the pay is too low or they feel that kind of work is a "woman's job".

Did you ever express your concerns and ask for a male nurse?

Always do this if you have a preference. Where I work, we do our best to abide by patient preferences for care teams. Sometimes the patients I work with are there for very not nice reasons, and a same-gender care team can be what stops them reliving the trauma they’re there for treatment of.

I have also noticed many elective-clinics are asking whether there’s a preference when registering with the clinic. For example my partner was asked if he would prefer one or another for his vasectomy recently.

I have no preference. I am just happy if I can get to see someone. Not so easy these days unfortunately

I have had both sexes present at different times for various issues when I have been hospitalized. To me they are trained medical personnel doing a job. That is all that is important. Their gender is irrelevant. I hope that when they see me they think of me as a patient first and foremost. My gender should be irrelevant to them.

When I was a teenager, I volunteered in a hospital as a candy striper and I noticed mostly much older men, exposing themselves, whether accidentally or on purpose, I didn't know at the time. Now, I think they did it on purpose, figuring they could just blame the hospital gowns for being so loose-fitting and open in the back.

When I was a teenager, I volunteered in a hospital as a candy striper...

@JillyBot can you explain what a candy striper is please? I’m not familiar with that terminology

@pich

@JillyBot can you explain what a candy striper is please? I’m not familiar with that terminology

@JillyBot hasn’t logged in for three months. Candy Strippers were young girls who volunteered at hospitals back in the 1900’s. The moniker was derived from the red and white uniforms they wore.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hospital_volunteer#:~:text=Hospital%20volunteers%2C%20also%20known%20as,the%20direct%20supervision%20of%20nurses.

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My one long stay in a hospital was way back in 1981. I was there for 6 weeks.

While back then there was little talk or much concern about gender preferences regarding care-givers, I noticed that whenever there was any procedure that had an intimate aspect to it, more often than not, male nurses were assigned. This was for things like pre-op shaving, washing while still bed-ridden, inserting a catheter and such.

Actually, once I was on the mend, it sort of annoyed me. There weren't that many male nurses then (my wife worked at that hospital and she had a better view of the numbers) but it seemed supervisors or whoever assigned duties, went out of their way to assign them to me. They probably thought they were being accommodating. But I would have rather not as I found the male nurses to be more on the rough side, more impersonal and in a hurry to get things done.

I would rather have had female staff given a choice, all things considered.

After a four week stay in hospital when I was 16 I came out with a preference for female care givers after being shaved by a male nurse who boasted about shaving female patients, even the ones who said they didn't need shaving having attended to it themselves. He also later brought a young female student nurse to my bedside and showed me off to her when I was totally exposed. I found him very unprofessional. I was tended by lots of female nurses and washed by female assistants and was never made to feel uncomfortable by any of them.

Never ending story. As long as medicine (and not only medicine) exists there's always an ethical dilemma of privacy vs practicality. In theory, you can demand docs/nurses of the gender of your preference but it apply to private clinics only. And it will cost... Even though your privacy is not 100% guaranteed in a case of some emergency. In a case of general medical establishments as sooner you forget about shyness, dignity, modesty, privacy etc.. is better for you.

Well said! Today they are so short staffed that many times there are only a couple nurses and a couple assistants on a floor. Both times I had major genitalia surgery the young nurses were very competent and very kind. The older you get the less you care about privacy. And any way, they have seen it all!

If you insist on male staff (or female if you are a woman) the hospital may try to accommodate you, but as short-staffed as they perpetually are - be prepared to wait for what will seem like forever. And as anyone who has been in distress in a hospital will tell you, you are ecstatic the moment anyone walks in your room to help. Male or female, you could care less.

You should visit german hospitals and especially surgical practice for proctology, here the male helpers, assistants are very frequent/common. and its allowed, that 2 of them examine me as a woman. i dont like it, I prefer CFNF 😉