Money, Masters and Salves

It seems to me that to be a good Master you should be rich. Also, if you are doing okay (or better) financially you would not want to be a slave.

Is my reasoning valid?

I don’t think it’s a matter of status, financially or otherwise. Some very well off people desire to be submissive outside of their work or satus. For some, it may be a psychological release from the stress of always being in control. Like wise people with limited means can be very dominant.

I don’t think it’s a matter of status, financially or otherwise. Some very well off people desire to be submissive outside of their work or satus. For some, it may be a psychological release from the stress of always being in control. Like wise people with limited means can be very dominant.

I agree @Rigel. I think that there are some notable examples of rich doms and less wealthy subs, especially in non-fiction media such as erotica and movies. But there are plenty of well-off submissives who crave to let their guard down and be controlled.

There’s currently a joke circulating on TikTok of the leader of the opposition in Australian politics being referred to as “Peggy Sue” because people think that a sex worker talking about a client she calls Peggy Sue (who just wants to be pegged by something bigger and bigger every time) is him.

A psychologists response video said “well, maybe” and pointed out the same as yourself that a proportion of powerful/ important people “let their hair down” as a treat.

Mason Verger was a classic example of a fictional extremely wealthy man into submissive role play. Although fictional, I bet the character was based on real life wealthy persons with submissive kinks.

I’ve known a few people on here who are very well off and enjoy the submissive role, or are switches in real life.

My two cents worth : We are not wealthy nor rich. My husband has a nice pension, money market and stock investments, and draws his social security. The monies along with my incomes go into our joint accounts. I handle ALL financial transactions - bill paying, on-line orders and purchasing, vacation arrangements, gifts for children and grand children, even auto purchases. But neither of us see our relationship as a "Master/Slave" lifestyle. It is definitely a heavy handed female-led relationship. He makes sure the money gets in the bank, I distribute it as I see fit. I have, over 50 years, molded him and his behavior, delegated, rewarded and admonished his adherence to my desires and specifications. I enjoy being in charge, and he enjoys being submissive and reserved. I reiterate : We live in a "very heavy handed female led marriage".

We re not wealthy, my husband does get a feeling of relief following my lead, taking care of me and our children. Call it control, call it power, call it what you will, it works for us. It is not a fantasy, not a play thing, not not a pay for play business arrangement; it is our lifestyle. We are very happy and hood at our end of the marriage/relationship. Good luck to those of you who are looking for a resolution to your money - master/slave dilemma. DommeOB

I strongly disagree with the premise. Why does a Master need wealth? The real world of Dom and sub is not billionaires and naive beautiful young women but adults in finished basements or urban bedrooms playing agreed-upon roles with like-minded individuals.

What the Dom needs is free time, a few toys and implements, and the education needed to do it right, without causing lasting harm.