It was my mother who was a big believer in spanking and could easily find fault in what I did.My dad never disciplined or even reprimanded me once. When I was little I think that made me prefer him to her, but as I got older it seemed to come over more as a disinterest (he didn’t praise either, whereas my mum did). As a teen I got it into my head that it really should be my dad who was my disciplinarian even if it was just a stern man to man talk. On one occasion, after I had hid the phone bill due to calling a sex line, I owned up to my dad about it. He was like “oh well, it’s a natural thing”. And then later told my mum, who was mad. It was confusing lol.
My main disciplinarian was my father who spanked me until I was 17. The only other person to spank me was my aunt who gave me a helluva spanking when I was 16.
Always Mom. Dad never had the heart to physically punish us. He didn't even reprimand us often. The odd thing is that if Mom said something along the lines of "Wait till your father gets home" we would all shrink in terror. Years later, after we were grown, we figured out it wasn't physical punishment we feared from him, but the idea of disappointing him.
My mum would give me quick on the spot wallopings for minor infractions but if there was anything serious - like the time I stole a bottle of wine and took it into the woods with friends, or the time I set a fire extinguisher off in the English department, my parents would "double up" and hammer the lesson home a bit harder. Usually it was mum but she was more than capable of making me reassess whether my actions were a good choice or not.
It was both parents, but I definately got spanked more by my mom. I think she was just around more to dish out the spankings.
For me by volume it was mostly mom, but that’s because her and dad spanked for different reasons. She generally took on the less serious issues like chores and attitude while my father generally only spanked when I had done something drastic.
My aunt moved in with us and handled all the children and household stuff after my mom passed away when I was young. That included discipline.
My mother was a single parent but she didn’t do much parenting…. Now my dom takes care of my discipline.
My father was a retired WWII Battle of the Bulge Army Officer and he literally ran our house like it was the military. I had 4 siblings (3 brothers and a sister). My sister “got a pass” (daddy’s little girl!) and so did my TWO athletic brothers both of whom excelled in many sports. My younger brother and I WERE NOT athletically inclined which absolutely infuriated my father. I still remember being repeatedly criticized for throwing a baseball “like a girl”. My punishments often took the form of physical and mental abuse like kneeling on a hard floor while holding a book in each outstretched arm. If you dropped an arm, he’d slug you about the head. Another favorite was being made to STAND — FOR HOURS !!! — in the center of the room, with nothing to hold for support. But the worst physical abuse I received was when he just picked me up and throw me into a bedroom wall —Repeatedly — until my mother intervened. As a teen, there were many times I felt like running away but where would I go? Somehow, I survived — Graduating 4 years of college; Had a successful career: Stay out of trouble, etc.Decades ago, on his deathbed, he did apologize to me for the way he treated me. I think it was merely a case of me “not conforming” to HIS will at the time. Yes, I could be stubborn! Still am!! But when he saw that I actually did “grow up” and WAS a productive citizen AND very successful in my field, he realized I wasn’t a total failure.
For me it's my father with the weekly, very soapy enemas, but only once out of the two times he spanked me, the other time it wasn't him