Who has not told their wife or girl / boy friend they are on this site ?

Nope, GF does not know about zity, about my fetish dreams and I think if I would tell her she will be disgusted and never understand me in this case. Same situation for all my friends - nobody knows it. I am so glad for great people from zity community, you can always find a lot of friends who will understand 😃

I agree 100% with SuppoGuy. My wife does not know. She too would be appalled/ disgusted. Which is why Zity is such a wonderful and liberating site. Long may it flourish!!

I would really love to tell my wife about my medical fetish fantasies, but I'm almost certain it's really not her thing. I wouldn't want to freak her out! I really think she'd think it was weird and I wouldn't want it to change things between us. I have got her to discuss her fantasies with me, in the hope she would have similar desires, but no such luck! I'll just have to stick with the Internet and chatting to like minded people on here for now! Maybe one day I'll feel the time is right to tell her, but I can't see that happening any time soon! I would so love to give her a full examination! Anyone got any advice on how they approached it with their wife/girlfriend? All advice welcome!

@GynDoc25

I was in the same boat as you. Stayed silent for 16 years and finally just went for it and told her if my love of enemas. She’s an RN. Let me tell you. I now have the most incredible enema sessions you can imagine.

My wife knows I enjoy listening to her chest with my stethoscope, but she has no idea to the extent I love stethoscopes, heartbeats and breath sounds. I think I'd die of embarrassment if she found out. For me this fetish is seperate to my 'real' life. But good on those who have come clean.

@GynDoc25 I am in the same exact boat too. I have been able to expand my wife’s sexual repertoire a bit over the years as she’s pretty vanilla. However I think that exposing my deeper fetish might put her off. I pine to be able play with her someday though.

My wife knows about my thermometer fetish - and we play with the thermometer. I feel very lucky that she is she accepts me - and she is willing to let me take her temperature.

Mine caught me once on a different site and was not very happy about it. She was also not into any of the same things. I am here and she does not know and i do not intend to tell her.

2 years ago I posted here that probably I'd never tell my bf about my medical anal fetish. I was really sure about it, it seemed me such a shame. Well, now I have already a new bf, a man I really love and trust and I've told him about my secret. His reation was absolutely normal 😃 now we play doctor games together and I'm happy about it. That was a really great problem for me, I suffered for years realizing ,,I'm not a normal person,,

My wife has no idea I’m on zity. It would probably freak her out. She has no interest in any of my fetishes.

I am lucky that I have no one to answer to! 😁

I would be in big trouble if it was discovered that I had an account here.

I haven't told my husband I am on this site, but at the same time I'm not hiding it from him either. I may let him know that I am a member and if he is curious, I will let him see for himself. It might be just one more step in our sexploration. 😉

No, I see no reason to tell my BF that I visit this site. He is very insecure and worries that I am looking for someone else because he is ashamed of his very tiny penis. So I don’t tell him.

I joined Zity just after my divorce. I really enjoyed the me time to really explore my ever growing fetish list. My marriage prior to it becoming sexless had a bit of kink to it. We had done some fun stuff together. Like general porn surfing she new I did but she didn't really go for it except for bit of girl on girl. If I had found Zity before all that I might have used it to possible make our lives a bit more interesting.

I just started seeing a nice lady who probably does not have as many kinks. I mentioned I had discovered an interesting sight while indulging in sucking her toes, which she does enjoy. But that is a tip of an iceberg. As of now I think I'll keep my little other kinky secrets for the time being but I do hope she accepts more over time and that may include Zity.

My husband knows and occasionally reads things over my shoulder etc. He used to post here but is more a reader than a sharer.

My wife knows all about my fetishes for gyn exam playing and BDSM interests. She knows I'm on several sites concerning my kink interests. She just doesn't know what sites specifically I am on and doesn't really care.

My wife knows all about my fetishes for gyn exam playing and BDSM interests. She knows I'm on several sites concerning my kink interests. She just doesn't know what sites specifically I am on and doesn't really care.

That sounds like a very healthy attitude.

I've always wondered about people who sometimes go all bananas when they find out a partner surfs porn or visits fetish sites or has a stash or whatever. Usually they know them for a long period of time and seem to be OK with (most) everything of the personality traits. And yet the sudden revelation of getting found out about sexual matters is then supposed to Change Everything? Come on, the partner has been like that all along and it is not like it actually hurts anyone or affects them.

I shared this site with my wife hoping it would spark her interest, even pointed her to some of the women her age so she could relate. So far it has not worked, but hope at some time she'll come around. Afterall, in time we end up like our parents with their habits, atleast some of the time. I even went so far to buy her a nice silicone bag for her very own. It was such a great deal, couldn't pass it up.

No i keep it very private ,i dont tell anyone anything ,i just so glad i can have fun and talk with non prudish people ,i love discussion ,i mean i dont want to meet anyone ,i just love talking ,be it dirty or fantasy ,its exciting and gives me something to do ...i hope you get me ..we all need something we can enjoy

I have not told my wife that I am on this particular site (Zity) , however she definitely knows of my interest in enemas; and she steadfastly hates them. She does know that I chat on the internet and obviously with others who have similar interests. So I am sure that the name of the site is unimportant or would be to here.. She knows I am here. She just doesn't know where. 😄 😄 😈

Cos

My wife does not know of this site (showing as new but was on for years with a diff. name) or my interests in general

My ex-wife was very submissive. I told her I wanted to play with her bottom. She didn't really enjoy it, but I took her rectal temp many times, used toys in her bottom, and gave her enemas. I don't share any of these activities with my current female partner, nor do I tell her about hanging out on Zity.

I haven’t told my wife. But I suspect she knows I am on some porn/kink sites

I haven’t told my wife. But I suspect she knows I am on some porn/kink sites

Back when she was still around, I never told my wife either. And she certainly suspected though.

In fact, I am certain that her imaginings about the sites she thought I visited were very far off the mark. It seemed as if she took over ideas and lurid imaginings as could be found in the most unimaginative and uncharitable type of mass media, really silly things but still thought of as true. Maybe not in the same league as what some easily-duped people believe about pizza delivery company basements, but still often very naive.

There was no use talking about it, because, well as everyone knows, men always lie when it comes to sex, right?

My gal can easily look over my shoulder any time and see what I'm up to..

It is a mission impossible for me, even though my background is medical instruments. My wife is a nurse, she takes her job seriously. Her response was terrible when I trying to show her a special picture.

I have not , I am in a civil with my lady , old lady now , we have been together for a long time . She has caught me a few times , when I have strayed , but she still keeps me around , too many women keep their men around ,after they caught their men straying . As for this site and medical fantasies , the answer is no . She thinks that all this is very weird , that is why I seek out ladies of the evening or ladies of the morning and afternoon, to act out my fantasy . Now with Corona I do not stray , I stay home. As for my girl's sex drive she has had a total hysterectomy , due to cancer ,so her sex drive is next to nothing . Anyway I have my medical bag , very well hidden , when Corona is finally over , I hope to do house calls again .