Did your mother retract your foreskin and enjoy it if it hurt?

For those here whose mothers retracted their foreskins when young and it hurt but just kept doing it anyway (with mine it was most bath times) .

Do you ever wonder if they got some sort of enjoyment hurting a boy in his most sensitive place? I am sure my mother did.

@FHT I don't think mom enjoyed it hurting, this is why she stopped doing it.

I can’t really ever recall my parents forcing retraction when I was young, but I’m not sure that they didn’t. I think that either they retracted my foreskin, or I was able to retract my foreskin and did myself from a young age.

I know a lot of people my age who’s parents thought they had to retract their sons foreskin at bath time, I’m not sure if that was upon medical advice from paediatricians or whether it was from a parental book, or from speaking with other parents as word-of-mouth learning.

Some of my friends have said they remember having their foreskin retracted during a bath.

From conversations with friends, I feel like parents who were a circumcised father and/or mother who was the partner of a circumcised father retracted their son’s foreskin at bath time more often than not.

Very different from today when parents are advised to leave it alone, there is no reason to force retraction.

As for whether some parents enjoy causing some pain- yes I definitely think some do. I have one friend who has always had a fairly tight foreskin, still to this day. He has told me that his mother would force his foreskin back in the bath if he refused to do it himself, after making him cry while she was telling him to retract his foreskin.

I remember one time I was at his house for a sleepover and when it came to bath time, she came in and forced him to retract his foreskin in front of me and our other friend who were all bathing together. She did not make any comment or assertion, or touch or attempt to touch anyone other than her son.

I am also fairly sure she enjoyed embarrassing her children in general, as I saw on multiple occasions my friend and his sister being talked down to in public, and being degraded by her.

I was circumcised so don't recall mom washing my penis any particular way. I do recall my dad telling me I had to be sure and always wash really good around the head.. I heard years later from mom that dad had his circumcision later in life, perhaps as a teen (Boy Scouts age?) or even after he was in the Army National Guard shortly after High School - IDK, but she didn't elaborate why. He never said anything to me about it.

She did when I was in the bathtub. Seeing that it hurt, I was allowed to do it myself more slowly, but she still used to come and check that I did it.

My mom was the one who taught me how to clean. She stressed the importance of pulling back and washing. I distinctly remember her squeezing the glans to make the opening wider for some reason. I don't think she got any joy out of the whole process... it's parenting.

Every bath time she did also insert her finger up my bum was every time she bathed me

I'm sure she probably did try when I was very young, but I always had a tight foreskin.

I do remember as I got older she would regularly remind me to pull the skin back and wash underneath, which I found embarrassing.

@Intrigue hi fellow Aussie! We are similar in age and I agree that the advice seemed to be to retract at bath time for cleaning, and I think that it may have been professionally endorsed up until the 80s in our country. It still happened throughout the 90s when we were kids. Smegma was thought to be dirty and a problem, not a natural part of the body cleaning itself. When I started my career approximately 15 years ago, it was more common to clear up that misconception with new patents, but now most of the time it is known to leave it alone.

My mother used to retract my brothers foreskin during bath time when we were young as that was the advice she was given. He never acted as if it was painful.

I dont think so, cant remember

@NurseSammy Were you there to watch it?

@NurseSammy Here in the UK it would be considered unhygenic to not clean smegma from under the foreskin at each bath/shower. My understanding it can lead to infections if allowed to build up, and as most of us know, it stinks and will be unpleasant for sexual partners to encounter.

@Lickingatallsorts The question is not about washing if it can be done easily by the child but about an adult pulling the foreskin back at an age when it may be painful for the boy

Yes, Mommy rather enjoyed that and anything else she could do to make it erect, especially during big warm sudsy enemas

My mother didn’t like pulling back my foreskin when I was young, so if she had bathed me she would call my Dad to carry out the intimate procedure of retracting my skin and cleaning underneath it. I think they had read in a childcare book that doing so was essential for uncircumcised boys.

Fortunately my foreskin retracted fairly easily at that time, and I used to enjoy having it manipulated.

I didn’t have my foreskin retracted by my mother, I discovered that it would draw back on my own.

My dad was circumcised and my mum was of the opinion that it shouldn’t be necessary if regular personal hygiene is followed, i.e. retraction of the foreskin and washing at bath time. To her it was a sign of neglectful parenting and she didn’t want to be judged. Mum also thought it was a shame that some boys needed to have it done and while I was too young to know about the pleasures to come in adulthood, I think she felt there was a sort of ‘deprivation’ in being circumcised. Secretly I do remember wishing I could be circumcised to be like my dad but too scared to say such.

I was therefore subjected to retraction by her at a very early age. I don’t know how old I was, probably about two or three, some of my earliest memories. She once related a story about how I was discovered picking the white bits (probably smegma) from around my glans at kindergarten.

That moment at bath times used to fill me with fear because she’d retract and wipe with a flannel. I used to scream because of the sensitivity. Looking back she may not have realised how hypersensitive it was due to being used to my fathers circumcised and less sensitive penis.

Eventually mum trusted me to do it myself and naturally, at first, I wasn’t that scrupulous. I had an episode where my foreskin tightened and wouldn’t retract easily. When she discovered that she was cross and seemed a bit hysterical, forcing it back. It split and bled a bit and I recall seeing a bit of pus. Urinating stung for a while but I seemed to heal OK and it never happened again. I can’t remember the very first occasion but I know it had been tight once before that.

With hindsight and knowing what I know now I was lucky I didn’t get scarring that would have led to a more serious problem that would likely have needed the surgery mum was trying to avoid.

Another thought - they may have continued doing it not because they enjoyed causing pain, but because they thought that it would avoid their son having to suffer the even greater trauma of a trip to hospital for a circumcision.

Leaving the boy's foreskin alone until it became easier to retract would probably have been the best option, but in those days the message being spread by doctors and childcare books was that the foreskin needed to be pulled back fully and the area cleaned regularly. And if the foreskin didn't retract easily, it must be removed.

My mother retracted my foreskin in the bath fur a few years from the age of seven after applying cream. She had been recommended to do it by a doctor to help loosen my tight foreskin. It sometimes hurt, but she didn’t set out to make it hurt. It was more embarrassing than painful!

I think you’re right @zarniwoop

Apparently it was done to me at a very early age. I remember my mom telling me at some point that my foreskin got stretched with some ointment. Must have been a fairly successful procedure as I remember panicking after taking a bath during elementary school times and discovering that my foreskin was connected to the head of my penis. I had just discovered my frenulum. Mom assured me it was ok. But that also means I played with my cock already from age six or seven on… oh well, still do it today and I must say that my foreskin retracts completely.

@zarniwoop I confirm this was the reasoning for me and I heard of parents with doctors who advised likewise just a few years ago.

No, but she was aware I wasn't circumcised, and at one point was freaking out that I should be circumcised- which is complete bs. I didn't have anything done. As an adult I have gotten compliments from men and women on my penis size - which at least appearance-wise, can appear slightly larger if uncut.

As an adult I was dating a pregnant woman (more like a fling) and she was going to have a boy. I told her that sex would be more pleasurable for him and his future wife if uncut etc... but she kept with her highly obedient submissiveness to liberal ways and the matrix/msm. I even told her to have the circumcision done on the eight day, which has been proven by science to be the day when clotting is most present in a babies body. Weird how science backs up the bible. So much for the kid having a choice about their own body to not be mutilated, and let him choose as an adult. "my body, my choice".

@FHT

Definitely I was wondering and still I am not sure about it. I already posted somewhere in zity that in the bathroom my mum used to wash my penis (amongst other parts) twice a day with a soapy wash cloth. This happened twice a day until I was about 6 years old (then I was supposed to do it myself which I usually didn't).

My mum used to be the loving kind and I really was raised with all her love. However, I am quite sure that for her it was kind of an unconcious joy to let me feel her manipulating my sensitive foreskin and glans in a way that it was very uncomfortable for me.

My mum died quite early, way before I had found out that her daily hygiene treatment strongly influenced my sexual life. And I would give a lot to find out how my mum got the idea to wash a little child there twice a day.

My mum died quite early, way before I had found out that her daily hygiene treatment strongly influenced my sexual life. And I would give a lot to find out how my mum got the idea to wash a little child there twice a day.

Perhaps a doctor suggested she do so. Or someone at a child care facility.

Or more likely through recommendation/gossip from family or friends who already had had male children. The personal/intimate things I found out my wife gossiped about were a great surprise to me. Things I would never talk about to male or female friends.

For some strange reason, my older brother was circumcised but I was not. My father was not circumcised either, but he would always tell me from a young age (6 or 7???) to pull back the foreskin when I was showering because it would hurt when I got older if I didn't practice it. So I did it and never had any issues. I don't remember either of my parents ever retracting it for me. My mother never said or did anything about my foreskin. I used to be fascinated by how "strange" my brother's penis looked.

Did anyone's mom wear exam gloves and what did she do

@Doctor_conner No recollection of mom ever using exam gloves.

@Doctor_conner No, she didn’t. Neither did the doctors back then.

My mother retracted my foreskin at bathtimes and bedtimes before and during puberty. Whether this was on the advice of our family doctor I’m not sure but he examined my penis in the presence of my mother during home visits. This was in that late 50s and early 60s. Yes it didn’t so much hurt but more embarrassing for me. I’m sure I was often sent to bed early for this reason.