Uncomfortable feelings about being seen wearing your bra (perhaps for the 1st time)

Recently I read a post for the topic "First time you had to take off your bra for the doctor" that someone said she "didn't want him to see my bra because I was mortified, so my other option was not to wear it at all"

I was wondering if anyone else has had similar feelings, whether feeling awkward, embarrassed, too shy, etc., to the point where you would rather have been seen nude than wearing your bra. I can relate to this because had been that way about being seen wearing a jockstrap, where I would rather have been caught nude. And I let that go on for 35 years.

I believe that if there are 2 of us that felt similarly about being seen wearing an undergarment, that there have to be more folks who were the same way.

Geeze. This is a head scratching 'What the fuck?" to me. It is just something that never came to my mind. Buy nicer undergarments? Maybe go more plain? I just don't know what to make of this. I for sure would ask why do you feel this way? I would like to know. It is just interesting.

If I wore a set of split bra and panties to an exam yes I would feel embarrassed; It would be unprofessional so I would not.

If I did it would be something to discus with my shrink.

Whatever floats your boat.

Okay, just to add a little bit of context, the one who posted about not wanting to wear her bra in front of the doctor, she believed he was a creepy perv. What that had to do with her bra, I would have to imagine the bra sexualized her body in some way.

Just as the jockstrap did for me. It looked and felt like sexy male lingerie from the time I put it on, And at the time I was only beginning to have sexual feelings. So maybe she felt the bra sexualized her body, as she wrote, "but to me it was worse if he saw my bra vs my tiny just-starting to develop breasts". Where being nude is nothing but a plain body with nothing special to look at.

So a bra might trigger some early sexual feelings, which comes along with hang ups, being uptight about things, and just a lot of awkwardness with coming of age, that I'm sure those who tended to be more shy became more self conscious, feeling a bra strapped onto them. The feeling that their bodies were developing to the point of needing this undergarment, and now someone who's practically a stranger, a doctor, will see them in their undergarment, which they are generally not exposed to the public while wearing it. And the lack of experience of someone seeing you in something you may not even be used to wearing.

I realize many folks can't see what the big deal is. For the guys who thought it was nothing to walk around in gym locker rooms in their jockstraps, and for their finer counterparts to be among each other in their bras. But then there are some of us who may have been more shy and perhaps sheltered, where there was a point where it may have been more dramatic.

When I broke both of my arms (left by the wrist, right at the ball of the shoulder) at my first surgeons visit and surgery check in I hadn't been concerned with wearing and getting a bra on. The poor nurses getting my EKG had to move my left boob around to get the machine to register my heart. I apologized for not having a bra, but being just 3 days after my accident. They took it in stride as part of the needed to do job. I didn't care as it was just what was needed. Wearing a bra was not one of the many things sub and I were working out to get through this.

The only time I remember anything like this was at school. In the changing rooms there would be a few girls who would tease others. They would tease the girls who hadn't started wearing a bra. They would tease the girls who had just started to wear one. They would sometimes tease over the style, colour, size....you really couldn't win..lol

I was a late bloomer boob wise so by the time I was able to fill a bra I was thrilled to wear it.

The only time I remember anything like this was at school. In the changing rooms there would be a few girls who would tease others. They would tease the girls who hadn't started wearing a bra. They would tease the girls who had just started to wear one. They would sometimes tease over the style, colour, size....you really couldn't win..lol

I do not remember any trouble like this among the girls when I was at school but some times there were comments about somebody's bra being nice or they were asked where it was bought from. It was not like a competition but I think the girls who took longer to need a bra were glad when they could join in. It was good that I was not shy about being seen in my underwear because I was one of the first 2 to wear a bra in my year, and for about 2 years while my boobs were growing fast I needed new ones often so some times I did get comments about them.

I do not remember any trouble like this among the girls when I was at school but some times there were comments about somebody's bra being nice or they were asked where it was bought from. It was not like a competition but I think the girls who took longer to need a bra were glad when they could join in. It was good that I was not shy about being seen in my underwear because I was one of the first 2 to wear a bra in my year, and for about 2 years while my boobs were growing fast I needed new ones often so some times I did get comments about them.

I must have gone to school with all the mean girls. Your school sounds like it was much nicer...lol.

Seriously though it wasn't all that bad,but there were times when girls were made a bit self conscious about it for sure

I must have gone to school with all the mean girls. Your school sounds like it was much nicer...lol.

Seriously though it wasn't all that bad,but there were times when girls were made a bit self conscious about it for sure

I think I went to your school 🤣

I must have gone to school with all the mean girls. Your school sounds like it was much nicer...lol.

I think all the mean girls were saved up so they were all in the year below us, and I think they were types who would tease other girls about their underwear. They were definitely much sluttier as well. lol

@Laura_L and @Nurse_Phillips I had your school experience. Being the "fat" girl, the "poor" girl, and unpopular girl might have played into it as well. But hey, some of them got old and fat now. The boys just didn't know what they missed out on. Oh well, their loss and subs gain.

The only time I remember anything like this was at school. In the changing rooms there would be a few girls who would tease others. They would tease the girls who hadn't started wearing a bra. They would tease the girls who had just started to wear one. They would sometimes tease over the style, colour, size....you really couldn't win..lol

And the same thing with going to an all boys catholic high school during homophobic times. Guys constantly teasing each other on seemingly any subject matter they could get their hands on. That type of environment makes you very self-conscious. You can get so worried about starting to wear and be seen in a bra that ironically you'd almost prefer to be seen bare chested. In which case, as Laura pointed out, "you really couldn't win"

The interesting thing is how some of us shy people who may have gone through something like this may have evolved into exhibitionists, recognizing the sexual power that bra or other undergarment may have had at the time.