Having a female chaperone in the room for a physical exam on a guy

When I was in practice and going to do a pelvic exam on a woman, I would always ask my nurse to step in. First it was handy to have someone to hand me instruments, but it's obviously also just smart to have a witness that you didn't do anything inappropriate. I never had a chaperone for exams on men. As for myself, my dermatologist also always had an assistant, female, with him during my exam to whom he dictated his notes. Pretty convenient, I thought.

For my dermatologist exams there’s a female nurse chaperoning for the entire exam. It definitely adds a weird but exciting feeling when the dr pulls the front of my underwear down to check with the nurse right there

One time had a fill in female doctor for my followed up exam . Because this was a a regular follow up for me testicular cancer you know where this is going. The regular doctor was a male and never had any one in the room during exam . But this one time is fill in was a female and brought an other female nurse in the room for the genital area exam. Just had me stand up and lower my pants and underwear to my knees. Everything out in plain sight for both to see.

Yes, the doctor was assisted by 6 other medical students in addition to the nurse for the urological exam, who watched me as the urological probe was inserted. I was not feeling very well. It was over the edge.

What's funny/ ironic/ odd, is that the male providers are the only ones to have used a chaperone to examine me. Neither of the female providers have used one.

I totally get it. The male providers are protecting themselves from being accused of sexual anything by having a witness. A female provider is a lot less likely to need be concerned.

I totally get it. The male providers are protecting themselves from being accused of sexual anything by having a witness. A female provider is a lot less likely to need be concerned.

Those were exactly my thoughts also.

I have never had like a full rectal and peniile exam but for a penile and testicular exam I had a female doctor once call in a chaperone and that was also a woman. It was so hard for me not to get hard having two women in the room with me having my pants down by my ankles as one of the was manipulating my penis and balls. I loved it so much but was kinda embarrassed hehe.

On this subject I've probably said before I'd enjoy having 'chaperones' at any MedFet examination. I've tried suggesting this to contacts online but never achieved it except for once when the female examiner brought along a male assistant (possibly protector) to observe and assist. I have however had a female doctors receptionist and former neighbour of my parents in the room during a real exam. As described in an earlier reply.

I've had this before, a female nurse in the room when I was getting a rectal exam/anoscopy from my male doctor. I don't know if she was chaperoning or really there more to assist but it was fine. I get why they want to do that. Can't blame them with the accusations nowadays.

Oh yes. Several times, with man -parts handled or looked over does nothing erotic at all for me. What matters to me is tending to my health. Being nude for an exam, having my rectum probed or my entire body surface examined is part of sensible, normal healthcare. Later on I may think about it and then get an erection, but not very often. MRay

I can only recall two times (different Drs) bringing in a female chaperone for male exam portion. I still wonder why those two did that ? I could see if it was company policy ..,..but I've had annual exams (female Drs) from the same institution with no chaperone.

I have experienced two or three times the presence of a female nurse or assistant chaperone for a prostate exam by a male urologist ( for instance with a biopsy) , I presume that it was his decision to have her present, he did not ask my agreement but I did not say anything, it did not matter for me, I presume that it was necessary even if all doctors had not the same rule, she could help him for lubrication or preparing the device or swiping the anus hole after or anything else, I was on all fours and did not see who was behind me and what they saw.

,Of course she might have seen my asshole since she was behind but she was professional when I could see her from face, she was not smiling.

I don't know if a female urologist would want also the presence of a female chaperone, but I have several times noticed that women doctors prefer to be accompanied by a female nurse, for instance the female dermatologists, and I am almost sure that it is not necessary in some cases but it is for them a way to have some people to talk between two patients

I have an impression that it is increasingly common for exams that include disrobing to require a chaperone. In my own experience, the dermatologist's office always has a chaperone, and this has always been a female. Also, the colon and rectal surgeon I went to several times a few years ago always had a chaperone, and that person was a female.

Yes at a Urologist on several occasions I had a female in both the exam room and procedure room to witness what was happening while naked under a gown.

When I last saw a primary doctor in my 40s, the doctor always had a chaperone/note taker with her (she was introduced as both). The doctor was quite open that her insurance company pushed it, and so it was office practice that any time the MD and the patient were of different sexes, there had to be a chaperone. It was not for the patient's benefit, but the doctors. Gave the doctor a witness against any claims of inappropriate touching.

Of course, my fiancee/later wife always insisted on attending my appointments too (not that I was ever allowed to attend any of hers!) so I was very outnumbered in those rooms.

Colin66 : seems most unfair that your wife insists on attending your medical appointments but you're not allowed at hers. I've also had a receptionist who was also a neighbor of my then parents in the room when being examined in my early twenties. I also allowed my sister-in-law to examine me when I had a rash more recently as I didn't want to see a doctor about it.

This concept has me thinking of a scenario: A female doctor and chaperone. They know they outnumber me, so they have all the confidence they need. I play the shy and submissive card. My humbleness captivates them. And then there's comes time for the genital exam. I'm getting excited, it's obvious to them, and I can't hide it. Perhaps they know it.

It causes them to want to have a little sexual fun with me. They've never crossed boundaries before to risk their professional practicing. But this opportunity just cannot be passed up for them. It has to happen. The dynamic is so strong.

What a boost that would be for my self esteem.

It happened to me once for an ultrasound. Never has happened for a normal dr appointment, tho. I was not asked about it or given the option for a male. It was a situation where they just entered and take their places and that was that.

I have a female PCP and she always asks that. Of course I always say no that it is not necessary as she is a doctor.

At my current primary care doctor, they have recently put up posters in every exam room and the waiting area that announces that it is your right to request a chaperone. The poster has about a dozen smiling healthcare professionals in scrubs looking at the camera, and comes off to me as quite creepy.

Anyway, I've been seeing my new PCP (female, mid-50s) for about 2 years and although she did a very thorough genital exam my first visit (gown, no underwear) she skipped it on the second visit (gown with underwear). The posters weren't present for the first visit, and no mention has ever been made of a chaperone.

Quite frankly, I'd feel weird asking for one. If a doctor ever asks if it's okay to have an observer (chaperone, med student, nurse) I always say "sure"

I think there might be a difference about how men and women process that.

Every human is different so you may never say, all men are like this, all women are like that. There is endless difference from person to person. Variety.

Still there are trends to spot. It seems >possible< for nervous women to find a chaperone to be comforting, if the chaperone is another women. Some women do find it comforting or calming.

I do not think many men do. I'm sure some, but not many. They might think it is embarrassing, erotic, creepy, or lots of things like that, but not very often is it an emotional comfort. I mean when the chaperone is a stranger from the office. I don't mean like it's their wife or something, that's a different situation completely as far as the emotions go.

In my country every doctor, even if it is family medicine doctor in public health service has a female nurse during examination and consultation, so every time I had intimate exams nurse was present. I had mixed feelings about nurse beeing in the room and witnessing rectal or prostate examination.

I know that private clinics not always use nurses if doctor can perform examination without any help frome another medical staff member, I guess it's cost cutting.

But I am not that rich to go to private health

In the last 30 plus years,it's happened just a handful of times.

The first was at a major teaching hospital residency program, a d I was being seen by a f resident near my age stripped to just my regular tight whites, she told me to finish stripping, and cover, passing ne a sheet.

I was in my early 30s, and didn't think anything about having more than a frontal, but within five minutes, a knock, and she and the attractive nurse both enter, both close to my age.

She too, held the drape, butt I imagine she definitely saw it all!

I also have had one male chaperone, when I was probably late 40s, early 50s.

I don't remember ever having a chaperone present during any medical procedure or exam.

Of course, sometimes there may be an assistant or observing doctor if the procedure is interesting or somewhat rare (like with my lung removal). And sometimes as a teaching opportunity for med students of course.

But having someone present to expressly and only observe to potentially be a witness to any alleged wrongdoing or hanky-panky, nope. That has never happened. Nor would I think it a smart move to do on the part of a patient.

In my country, doing so would indicate distrust towards the doctor and would be considered something of an insult. And if there one thing a patient should never do, it is insult or denigrate a doctor who is treating you. Not a smart move.

A patient should always do their best to have a doctor optimally disposed towards them. Questioning their morality and personal character by implying you do not trust them is not the way to go about getting optimal care and attention.

I’ve had it once, of all of my exams that included a genital exam most by female providers I’ve only had one bring in an observer. I’ve only had exams done twice by a male. I typically only see female doctors. At my last exam when she informed me she would be doing a genital exam she also told me their policy is to have another person in the room. The MA stood off to the side and saw the whole thing and my erection. I had one time where another person was offered to which I said I didn’t need it. That was when I was seeing an NP that used to work with my wife so we knew her and her husband fairly well. She offered to grab a nurse if I wanted or have a different provider do that portion of the exam. I told her if she was comfortable so was I, she said great- drop your pants and underwear to your knees for me.

Except for any military physicals, I always have a chaperone when I'm seeing a male doctor, because of a history of having been sexually abused by my male pediatrician. However, when I can control it, I always opt for a female provider.

My current primary care provider is a woman in her late 50s who knows my history and always "offers" a chance to decline having a nurse in the room ("Jessica will be assisting me during your exam today, is that okay?").

Recently, the female dermatologist I've seen for 10 years retired and I was transferred to a male doctor at the practice (it is his name on the practice). When I asked to see someone else, they said that it would take about 9 months for an appointment. But there had always been a note taker/assistant in the room, so I stayed with him. My previous dermatologist always did a genital and anal exam. This time, while he was sitting behind me (with me standing) he said "with your permission" and lowered the back of my briefs to just below my butt cheeks and did maybe a 20-30 second check without spreading my cheeks. He then asked me to turn around and again said "with your permission" and without waiting for a response lowered my briefs to the base of my penis, did 20-30 second exam and then raised them, never exposing my genitals. The assistant remained stationed about 3 feet behind him the whole time.

But back to the topic - due to my history, I still get anxiety with a male doctor, whether there will be an intimate exam or not. So I always ask for a female provider. If the receptionist ever asks why, or if there are only male providers available, I ask to discuss it with the provider or their nurse days or weeks before the appointment. I've never had an issue having a chaperone present once I've had that conversation. I'd just as soon not have that discussion in the exam room.

Unless it is their strict policy that all "intimate" exams require a chaperone, if offered one I refuse. The only exception I remember was when I started at the dermatologist, then she has the nurse stay in the room. Both are female. I have never had a male chaperone.

When I was 16 , I had a bad case of Jock Itch. My Primary Physician was a male , there were 3 other Physicians in the practice . It was bad, during July , it was hot . The itch was unbearable. I told my Mom who was working , she couldn't come with me. I walked to the office just a few blocks away from our apartment. I walked in. I was embarrassed to tell the receptionist what was wrong. I just said I had a very bad itch. She asked where, I blushed, she saw my embarrassment. She smiled, told me just relax, and just point to where the itch is. I blushed even brighter red and pointed to my crouch. She told me to have a seat. I sat down and waited about 20 minutes. She called my name I walked to the desk. The nurse was waiting for me there and walked me to the exam room.

She did the hight , weight, Blood Pressure, Pulse thing . Then she asked me what the problem was, I blushed again, but I was able to get out jock itch. Oh she said, this is the time of the year for that. I felt more comfortable then and said yes, but it's very bad. I told her a bought a spry, but it didn't give me much relief. She said ok Dr Seede isn't here he had to go see a patient in the Hospital. She said you will be seeing Dr. Krist today. I blushed deeply knowing she was a young, pretty Doctor . But since you are under 18 without a parent here, there will have to be a Chaperone in the room. Is that ok with you. I blushed ( I was very shy then ) It will be ok Tony sensing how uncomfortable I was. It could be me if you want or the other Nurse Nancy . I said maybe I will come back when Dr. Seede is here. The Nurse Peggy said, why go out of here in discomfort when we can give you a prescription that will stop the itch. Dr.Krist is a Doctor, she knows what a boy looks like , and you know I have 2 sons, one of them is your age, on your class , so I know what you look like. So why don't you let us take care of you. Ok , I said. Peggy gave me a gown. Opening to the back remove your clothes and underwear, she will have to see your whole body to make sure it hasn't spread anywhere. I give you privacy to put the gown on, and she left the room closing the door.

I put the gown on, took off everything as I was told. There was a light knock on the door, may I come in , I said yes and Dr Krist walked in. She could have been a cheerleader. Pretty dark hair, small tight body . I started to get excited , but I was embarrassed, the more I didn't want to get excited, the more excited I got. I was semi errect and trying my best to will it to go down. She looked at my chart, asked me when it started, what spray I used, if it gave me any relief. I told her about 4 days ago, the spray didn't give me much relief. Dr. Krist said, ok Peggy said you are shy, embarrassed and uncomfortable but I have to see it. Now Peggy told you I can't examine you alone because of your age, So I'm going to have her come in. With that Dr. Krist opened the door and Peggy walked in. Dr. Krist said sit on the table , and lay back. Peggy raised the back of the table so I was comfortably leaning back . She pushed the table in so that just the bottom of my tush on it then she pulled out the strips and told me to place my feet on them and raised them up a little and then back toward me causing my legs to spread and bend back a little . She pulled a poll mounted lamp from the side turned it on and shined the light on my crouch. OK honey Dr. Krist said , lay back close your eyes if you like, I'm going to bare you. I knew what was coming, I was losing my breath, sweating , flushing . The more I didn't want to get hard , the harder I tryed to make it go down, didn't work. I was fully errect. I felt my penis sticking up into the paper gown I closed my eyes, I didn't want to see their faces. I felt Dr. Krist grab the bottom of the gown that was hanging down and pull it up exposing me. She bunched up the paper gown covering my penis and looked at the left side of my balls, I felt her rubber gloved finger touch me. Tony is this itchy, yes I said. Peggy was rubbing my arm telling me it's ok, to relax. Then Dr. Krist moved the paper gown to the other side keeping my errection coverd, and poked next to my right ball. Then the gown was lifted completely exposing me completely. Peggy said, relax almost finished it's ok Tony, it is natural at your age fir this to happen, it's not your fault, you can't help it, we understand. Dr. Krist look at my genitals, looked in the crack between my cheeks, she touched the area around my anus, is this itchy she asked.I said yes, very almost crying. OK baby , she said it spread here around your snus. She looked at my cheast legs . Then she dropped the paper gown over me. Covering me.Pggy stopped rubbing my arm and took my feet off the strips. My legs dangled and touched the floor. Dr. Krist then said to step on the floor and turn around, she wanted to check my back. Peggy helped me step down and turn. The gown was opened again exposing my back from the shoulders down. She looked at my back , my bottom, my legs. Ok Tony we are going to step out. Get dressed , and when your dressed come out and step into the office.

I got dressed came out of the exam room. Peggy was waiting, she smiled, said ok it's all over. Peggy pointed me into Dr. Krists office. I walked in blushing red , Dr. Krist said don't worry it is over? What happened is a natural reaction, you did nothing wrong. Ok, you ate to shower 3 times a day, and apply this ointment to your genital area, and your anus area. She handed me the prescription. I walked out of her office. Peggy grabbed me and hugged me. I left

Just recently I went in for a physical with my female doctor. She is a nice looking lady in her 30s. I have been having some tesicular pain for quite some time after having a vasectomy. She did all of the regular exam and then said "I need to get a chaperone while I examine your testicles." Then she stepped out and called for her nurse. I could hear her ask someone if she knew where her nurse was. I could not hear the reply, but then she said would you mind chaperoning. Then she came back in followed by a young girl from reception that checked me in. The doctor had me lower my boxers and began examing my testicles. I looked at the receptionist who was watching the entire thing. It wasnt that big of a deal but I thought it was odd that she brought in office staff rather then wait for a medical professional. It is a little bit exciting when I think about it.

@Moondoc I had a similar case of a front desk employee getting to see me naked. It was at my vasectomy appointment, and I detailed the story here…

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