Legit Question here for actual enemates

I'm asking a genuine question here, I'm only looking for REAL responses. Not fantasy, not 'you would love...' not stories about colon tubes or 7 quart wash-outs.

Enema as prelude/part of anal sex: I see stories here about people taking multiple quarts in a series prior to having anal. How long does that take? The (admittedly very) few times I've tried it, it takes a decent amount of time for the water to go in, and then I'm on the pot for a LOOONG time. Often multiple poops over the course of the next hour or so. I'm also pretty damned tired after AND my ass hurts.

So how do you have anal sex after without being too sensitive and/or tired? And how do you maintain interest over the sheer time it takes for you to be filled and them empty out? I get for some the fetishistic aspects of the enema itself are more than sufficient to maintain sexual excitement, but it just seems like such a process - almost an either/or vs a foreplay both/and.

@Nurse_Phillips enemas do take a lot of time to make you confident in having anal sex and if you are not a fan or devotee of the enema, as you have indicated on previous posts, it may not be something for having spontaneous anal sex. Even as an enema user for fetish and health, I have to consider what kind of 'date' I am looking at.

If it is a sex date that may involve anal sex I will take my enema(s) ahead of the actual time so that they can work through my system. As you have correctly said there is a long time to have the enema take effect and that depends on the volume. For short notice anal sex dates I will take my enema at least one to two hours prior to the sex act or date. I will many times have my enema either standing or kneeling so that it does not travel high up into my colon and probably no more than a quart of water. I will then walk around and move to help whatever I retained after trying to expel my enema to get the rest to come out.

It is a different procedure entirely if my enemas are part of the sex play and scene which would include anal sex. But for just anal sex a small cleansing enema will work and it does not have to be all that much to clean out the lower part of your colon or rectum. If it is part of your foreplay for the anal sex then you will pace yourself with your partner.

I hope this helps.

Exactly, it depend on your objectives. If it is just for cleaning, a quick one will do, especially if you do not have time. As part of foreplay, it can be very stimulating, anticipating what will follow. Again I suggest keeping it small to avoid recurrent runs and enjoy different infusions, where you can play with herbs and other. BDSM sessions have different requirements and large enemas will fall mostly in this category.

For my last pegging session I scheduled 2 colonic sessions trying to be as clean as I can and on the morning of the session I had to go to the bathroom and pretty much had the opposite effect

In another session the lady gave me an enema as part of the session and after expelling while she is with me in the bathroom she processed to pegg me in a 90 minutes session enema was 2 qouart

@Nurse_Phillips I had a friend from Pennsylvania who was seriously into enemas both giving & receiving who regarded them as an essential requirement before any kind of anal fun. She believed this from a hygiene aspect but also found the enema exciting in itself as a form of foreplay. I didn't really feel the same & whilst I enjoyed giving & receiving enemas I preferred the 'anal fuckery' as she put it whether that was me fucking her anally or on the receiving end of one of her more modestly proportioned strapons. I never had any really bad messy experiences on the occasions fucking took place without a preparatory enema, at least nothing that a quick trip to the bathroom wouldn't fix & getting straight down to business for me allowed a spontaneity which didn't happen otherwise. Another woman always insisted on a condom for receiving anal sex which she said 'made things go more smoothly' & could simply be dropped in the bin afterwards with no mess. She was not into enemas at all. Not quite sure if I'm drawing any conclusions here, just having my confused twopenny worth!

When I want to peg my sub I give at least an hour and a half to two hours. I want no fluid mess or other substance coming out during play. Sometimes it is enough, sometimes it is not. We've not come up with a fool proof, or in this instance mess proof plan, for clean out for anal play.

@Nurse_Phillips If I were you, I wouldn't take more than 1qt, if you take 2qts or more, it'll go deeper into the colon and take longer to get it all out. Since you're kinda new to this, do 1qt 4 hours before you plan playtime, this should give you plenty of time to get it all out and rest and recover from the enema. Then you should be good to go, but everybody's system is different. After you do this a few times, you'll know how long your system takes.

@Nurse_Phillips it may surprise you that I am a 'butt slut' 😮 and I have found that I really like enemas and it is what I have learned to love. But as mentioned you are not a big fan of enemas and so I would suggest maybe a small one quart enema either standing or leaning on the back of a chair or the side of a bed or the edge of a bathtub and not having the bag too high. All you will need is the lower part of your colon or a little past your rectum to be clean but if you take in too much water it would go higher and bring some more sludge down.

If it is just me getting ready or being prepared for some quick anal sex, the crowd I hang with likes using the bulb enema on me. I like it if I am bent over the bed or counter or chair or even standing and leaning forward. We use an 8 ounce bulb on me and I get about 3 bulbs full and I can feel if it is working when I stand up and walk around a little. Then I sit on the toilet and release it and see how much came out and how much more needs to be done. YMV but 3 bulbs does a pretty good job on me and I usually get or take 2 more just to clear the way. That usually works and it doesn't take long to get it worked out if you walk around a little in between. And like I said that is just for some butt sex in between errands and things like that.

Don't go in for a lay down enema with two quarts because it will go too far up and I know you don't care for that for your own good reasons. My crowd @TedStarr ❤️ @Dahiana ❤️ and @Meat_Monster ❤️ like using the bulb enema on me and it turns them on and gets them hot. I don't know if that would fit in with your very real and valid,

but it just seems like such a process - almost an either/or vs a foreplay both/and.

It's all about what you can tolerate and how much you want to give in your play. ❤️

@Asteria said,

But for just anal sex a small cleansing enema will work and it does not have to be all that much to clean out the lower part of your colon or rectum.

Many years ago, the few times my wife and I tried anal sex, that is exactly what we did. And we never had an issue with her rectum not being clean. That part of it was fine, we just preferred vaginal intercourse over anal intercourse.

My wife is NOT a fan of enemas and loved anal sex/play. If she felt she wasn’t “ready” for anal she’d telegraph it to me and we didn’t do it….which was very seldom. It was her body and her comfort level. Taking an enema to prep would be a turn off for her. Everybody’s different and has turnoffs that would or could destroy the desire for both

Like others have said, you don’t need a series or large volume enema to clean the entire colon for anal sex. If it’s worrisome, a small bulb or even a couple of fleets (dump the contents and use plain water) should be adequate. I’ve done that myself a few times for anal play. We never had any major issues. It’s different if you’re going for deep anal play with a silicon snake or something. We were only doing anal intercourse, dildos or fingers - minor league to many.

Great topic...

My partner [Barb] and I are both anal erotics, we love enemas and anal sex. I personally like a large volume enema after a series. Many weekends we do an enemas til-clear session on Sat morning - after an hour or so after the 3rd, I like a large fill of 4qts. When expelling that I'm running clear. Sometimes that evening (like at least 5 hrs later) we have anal sex with some 'sex' buddies.

It's always fantastic, they can go deep, I can squeeze and attempt to push it out without fear of any messes - they claim it gives them an incredible feeling.

Some years ago my late husband also loved anal sex as did I. We often planned our 'anal evening' with me taking a couple of enemas earlier that day.

Present day... it seems that a lot of young ladies are discovering the joys and stronger orgasms that anal sex offers. Some of the ones I've chatted with use a couple of 'anal douches' from a 10 oz bulb syringe before anal sex.

BJ

I've had several large volume enemas that have been at least a few quarts each prior to anal sex. It can take up a whole afternoon when you do several enemas along with other fun activities. Don't think there has ever been a problem with interest being maintained because there are also lots of other fun activities going on as well like rectal temperatures, oral sex, regular sex, toys, and discipline etc that all fit in nicely with multiple enemas. Even thought some of the nozzles were big, my ass has never been sore after the enemas or anal sex. I also try to eat pretty clean for several days before enema play just so I am not in need of a massive clean out during playtime, which I think helps with not spending a lot of time sitting on the toilet. I am always looking forward to anal sex after I have been thoroughly cleaned out. Another poster said something about enemas as foreplay and I have to agree with that as well, can't think of anything more arousing actually.

Well ive had anal sex with several women, always pushed a lubed finger up their bums first, and if no shit could be felt, then go ahead . Always used a condom, and to be honest there was never any mess. So unless they were badly constipated , an enema wasnt needed, but....i like giving and recieving enemas, and consider it good fun.

I like to put at least a few hours between the enemas and play time, but they do make me feel confident.

And eating clean per @Allie80 , I like to take psyllium (Metamucil) several times a day leading up to a planned play time. It just makes things clean and easy.

How to cheat in this area:

a) Three glycerine suppositories to begin with. You will expel pretty quickly.

b) First enema should be a 3L mild soap suds with a little salt. You can take this fast or slow. I recommend either conventional long nozzle or metal nozzle with attached minivibrator (relaxation and general wetness/precum inevitable.)

c) Second enema should be glycerin/epsom salts 3L enema (not too strong) given with either a DBL nozzle or Sandan nozzle if you have one to retain. You will expel this pretty quickly.

You should be very clean by now but tired. The next CRUCIAL step is to drink either a whole powerdrink (eg Lucozade sport) or have a peppermint tea. You will then be calm, reenergised and good to go.

ALTERNATIVELY: If you have a colonic irrigation system either professional or home sourced run that for an hour (60L or so) and you will be clear. Personally I like this method as it is bombproof and you are not usually tired afterwards. You can still have the restorative drink.

In my experience either modus operandi works a treat: I have never experienced problems for myself or willing supplicants. By this time the posterior is usually very greedy and ready. Need I say more!!

@Nurse_Phillips I am probably too late in answering your question about the enema and it seems like this has been answered for you since you haven't had a follow up to here. Everything I have read about you and your introduction you said that you were not at all into enemas and they weren't your cup of tea. It was mentioned that maybe you should try an enema standing up with less than a quart or a few bulb enemas or more like two or three while leaning over the bathroom sink or something. Something where you don't take a lot of water way up there and then have to wait for it to work down and clean you out. In fact a larger enema laying down or even standing up might bring down some more stuff and trigger some more to get further down.

Just use a couple of bulbs of water like I said and wait to see what comes out. If you're fairly clean after those two or if there is a little chunkage still, then maybe another bulb or two to get rid of that. But just one or two at a time and seeing what the results are and you should be good to go. I don't know about your husband but a lot of the attraction for me giving @Dahiana or @TrinaStarr enemas with or without anal sex is just being able to slip something up inside of them. I like doing it and there is just something about a woman's butt that makes it fun to stick something in them. From what I saw of your pictures you have a butt that any man would enjoy playing with and putting things inside just to enjoy doing it.

But the main thing is from what I have read in your intro and a couple of other places is that if you don't like enemas don't do them. Anal sex isn't always dirty and even if it is a little dirty and condom takes care of that. It's all about how you feel about it that matters and if your husband is lucky enough to put something in your butt for fun and you don't mind, then he should be good with that. I'm sorry that your pictures are gone but I understand and it was good while it lasted.

@Meat_Monster "something about a woman's butt that makes it fun to stick something in them" Amen. Big Al.