Ladies, watching partner having sex with someone else?

I'm curious what others... especially females... opinions are about watching their partner, and/or, being watched by their partner while having sex with others? Including, cuckold, sharing, swinging, etc. I have enjoyed sharing my wife in MFF, MFM, swapping with another couple, as well as at a sex club. As a big time voyeur, I was always present, and eventually joined in too. The "idea" of her having sex on her own, then sharing the details with me after, was always intriguing to me, but she preferred me being there. We both got super excited as she shared all her sexual experiences prior to us ever meeting. I have chatted with lots of men that fantasize watching their wife with another man, but most claim the wife refuses. And it's a rare man that wouldn't be interested in watching (and/or, being with) two females, but that could be a topic on it's own. I'm interested in hearing thoughts, opinions, and/or, if you have actually done or plan to do this.

Nothing would give me more pleasure sharing myself while wife watches or participates or sharing her with others while I watch. As you mentioned, when discussing this a few times in the past, she refused every time. So, I guess this will stay as an exciting fantasy.

Unfortunately, from what I understand, that is too common. One reason why I posted this was hoping females would give their views, pro and con.

What I find really interesting, is even years ago before the internet, swinger magazines had hundreds of couples looking for males, females, and other couples to have sex with. Here in SE MI, there were several local swinger groups that met regularly. We never joined because we preferred to keep our "outside" sexual activities more private. While we were not "official" swingers, during a weekend trip to NYC, we spent several hours in a sex club, feeling secure we won't see anyone that knew us. This place was huge!! I've never seen so many partially, and/or, fully naked people in one location in my life. And also seeing so many people engaged in all types of sex kept both my wife and I stimulated the entire time, and even back in our hotel room after we left the club.

What confuses me is, the vast majority of all those women were wives... and their husbands were right there with them... so how is it that it's almost 100% of men I have chatted with say their wife won't even consider it, and many getting really pissed off at the husband for even suggesting it?

I've posted this in a similar thread. I've done it. Hubby and I have been together for about 17 years or so. We started experimenting with polyamory about 7-8 years into the relationship. I have a romantic and sexual relationship with another woman. I also have a, call it FWB relationship with another man. I like him, he's a close friend, but I don't love him. 90% of my playing with him has involved my husband too. Maybe 25% of the playing with my girlfriend has involved my husband.

We've also 'swung' (swinged?) with other couples a few times which have involved both same-room and separate room sex.

I don't like seeing my husband have sex with other women.

He loves watching me, I get jealous watching him. I live with the jealousy as I believe in fairness and if I'm going to have the latitude to play with others, he needs the same latitude. I TRY to do the whole compersion thing but in the back of my head a bug called insecurity lives. I'm always afraid he's going to like her better than me.

During the MOMENT I can enjoy the hotness. After the arousal fades, I feel squirrelly. We deal with it by talking it out. He likes to know all the dirty details of my sex with others. It doesn't upset him, it gets him aroused. I don't want to hear anything about what he gets up to when I'm not present.

@Nurse_Phillips What you say about polyamory, jealousy and insecurity echoes what I heard from friends of mine (open couple, woman having sex on the side, but becoming really jealous when he did likewise, and she was not even watching it!).

Many years ago, when I was in my 30's, my wife and I were swingers . We fucked others in king beds, separate rooms, parties, and orgies exceeding 60 heaving bodies. We watched each other, fondled each other, kissed each other, all while fucking someone else. Our sexual activities were unceasing. Normally, two new couples a week, plus the Saturday night orgies. I have seen my wife sucked, pinched ,fucked, and taken two men simultaneously, while watching her, and she watched me doing similar activities.

One particular night that I remember vividly was her being fucked by a man whose cock she really loved. She was on her back, as he was moving inside her, when suddenly she thrust her pelvis straight up, straining to get more of him inside her. I have never seen such a needy act again, and of course, I immediately ejaculated into my partner.

Yes,I loved watching my wife, and her me!

Cant beat watching your partnet have sex with another person, i find it incredibly horny,and my orgasms are so much more intense

@GrayCS I've edited the title to be more specific to the audience you were looking for. Maybe then the ladies might answer.

During our porn years with our two closest friends Walt and Ellie, we would do the picture sessions and when the pictures we were taking involved my performing fellatio on either my husband or Walt or penis in vagina or anal sex shots, I was the focal point of all of the pictures. I made sure to ask Ben if he was good with my having Walt during the pictures and he said that he was. When I asked Ellie if she was good with watching her Walt performing various sex acts with me she said that she understood but had mixed feelings about it, which told me that she had mixed feelings about the sex acts even if it was for the sake of the camera.

Later when we felt that it was not fair to Walt to be left with his pent up feelings, we decided to have him finish the sex act with me which meant my taking his ejaculate as the final part of that particular session. Again Ellie had mixed feelings about watching me have sex with Walt to its natural conclusion but understood it was part of what we all were involved in at the time.

Now my husband Ben and I are involved with two other couples where we are all friends and lovers and I have been able see Ben having sex with my two women friends. I think it is probably swinging or husband or spouse swapping and I love to see how Ben is enjoyed by my two women friends. Both of the women are very skilled and very physically attractive women and their bodies are flawless with no sign of stretch marks, perfectly symmetrical breasts, and bottoms and legs that are very attractive.

I find myself peering into my husband's face to see if he maybe enjoys his penis penetrating these beautiful friends more than him being with me. I look for his facial expressions as he views their naked bodies and I find myself asking if he looks the same way he does at me as he looks at them. And I compare the women's facial expressions when they are having sex with Ben against their facial expressions when having sexual intercourse with their own husbands.

I would have to say that I do feel some jealousy and I do compare my body and sexual performance against the wives that my husband has sex with. I see all my flaws and I am a little older than the two other women that my husband has sex with and that does not help. But I do love watching Ben enjoying and being enjoyed by them and how I feel that it is not just sex between them but a very intimate friendship.

As this has been taking place only within the past year or year and a half with multiple sex partners male and female I have a lot more sorting my thoughts and emotions out. I am lucky with my husband because he understands my exhibitionist tendencies that led us into porn years and years ago. To be honest when I think about it maybe I did not put the suggestion out there to both Ben and Ellie that maybe they could have a hall pass with each other since I was having sex with Walt.

I like what I have now but I really need to keep after Ben to keep our communication at the top of our priorities as we adjust to this new facet of our lives.

@Asteria ❤️. That’s true unselfish love!

Thanks to all for commenting, especially the females as I truly want to hear their view points. I found watching my wife with other men extremely stimulating, as well as educational. Paying attention to her reactions, and discussing with her, later when we were alone what she liked and didn't like, helped make me a better lover.

She was bisexual... interesting how many females enjoy sex with other females, but despite that, she was turned off by men with men. We enjoyed a year long affair with a married female neighbor. I loved watching them together, as well as joining in too. It was a real ego trip for me to be having sex with two super hot MILF's in FFM.

Watching my partner with someone else doesn’t interest me in the least. But him watching me be please by another man while he’s forced to sit on the side lines and not partake, sounds enjoyable and dominating 😜

Lisaa... What you're describing, to me, is a cuckold. Lots of couples seem to enjoy that a lot. I have experienced that a couple of times, ending with me cleaning his cum from my wife's well used pussy after he was done fucking her. I guess for me, I enjoy both just watching as well as other times being involved too.

Asteria... I truly do understand your mixed feelings, and some jealousy. I loved watching my wife having sex with other men, while also with some pangs of jealousy if they were really good lovers, and/or, had cocks larger than mine. Many in-depth open and honest conversations afterward assured me she was enjoying the sex with others the same way I was... as strictly a sexual "adventure", just for the sake of sex without emotional "strings" attached. Simply meaning our deep love for each other never changed, and there was no fear of that changing. If anything, it made us more aware of how lucky we were to have each other as life partners, instead of too many couples we have seen that started taking each other for granted. Each of us shared our likes, and dislikes, we experienced with the different partners to use, or not use, between ourselves that enhanced our lovemaking. We came to the conclusion that yes, pure sex with another person can be infatuating, for lack of other words, simply because it's "different", or "new"... similar to the excitement of a new car, or new clothing, etc. But, over time, the newness wears off even though it's still very enjoyable.

I am curious, and would like clarification if you would... you mentioned Walt & Ellie, and then elsewhere said you and Ben being evolved with two other couples... all three plus you together, or you and your husband separately with each couple?

Nurse Phillips... You sound like you've figured out how to enjoy it with communication and understand like my wife and I did. :-) I'm curious which turns your husband on the most... watching you, or hearing all the details if you have sex when he's not present? That could make another interesting discussion... which partner is ok with the other having sex on their own, the male or the female? And would they want to hear all the details afterwards?

Funforus... For what period of time were you swingers? And why did you stop?

I have seen my wife on 2 occasions give a couple of our male friends oral sex to completion. Unplanned sexual encounters that turned out to be the hottest scenes I ever had the opportunity to observe. Porn holds little, to no attraction to me, but watching my wife "performing", was the greatest. She performed her oral attention with great enthusiasm, much to their satisfaction.

My wife's sexual encounters with a number of other men, are usually held in private. Private in those situations, mean without me anywhere near. She claims she couldn't enjoy an encounter with another man with an audience present, including me. While very frustrating it is something that I have had to learn to live with. She upon returning home and often later while we are enjoying intercourse, recounts to me every detail, which is a huge satisfaction for me. Freely answers all of my probing questions. In response to GrayCS question above, in my case, hearing all of the details.

I understand Asteria's feelings about body/age/technique comparisons, as my wife, while freely enjoying the attention of her lovers over the years, has forbidden me to ever get intimately involved with another woman. We did when younger swap partners twice, but she knew the wives and felt they were no threat to her self image. For the past many years, doesn't want me to be in a position to compare her (body) to another woman. We have been together since teenagers and my experience with other girls/women is quite limited. My wife is not the jealous type, but she is still a woman and they often compare themselves to others ladies, weather it's, clothes, hair style, jewelry, body condition, age, etc.