How often do Simultaneous Orgasms occur?

Popular in romance novels, porn books, and probably in young men & women's minds and fantasies, but are they real? And if so, how often do they occur and with how much of the population?

It was pretty common during college for a girl and I to try and time our orgasms to happen together. It didn’t happen naturally. We would be going at it for a while and one of us would say they were close, and then try to hold their orgasm at bay. The other would do whatever they could to catch up without tipping the other one over the edge too soon. Then when it looked like we both were ready to go it was back to full speed. No special rules or talking about ahead of time, I think it was just fun way to work together during the throws of passion. An unwritten game to play.

Now with my wife, we will play together for awhile, but then focus on one person to give them what they need to cum. Then focus on the other person. While the cum together game was fun, I think the taking turns with both focused on one person at a time is more intense, and makes for a more drawn out experience.

For some it happens all the time - but one or the other is faking it!! BA and I never made an issue out of it .... if it happened it happpened. Sometimes she will have multiples!

It never does inspite of what some men might say

I’ve had it happen a few times but it’s the exception rather than the rule. It’s more likely to happen if I’ve already cum a few times

Back a few years sub and I could get the occasional simultaneous orgasms. We had gotten things in a really good place in how each of our bodies responded to each other. I responded enough times to his approaching orgasm which made me get closer. I loved it when it happened. So did sub, though he loves giving me any orgasm he can.

Why worry about simultaneous? It's better when you can enjoy hers first, followed by your own!

It’s often happened in my lovemaking. It really depends on the partners, though. I had a girlfriend who was nonorgasmic except via special kisses - which I loved to give her: I loved nothing more than to make her come - so we were obviously not simultaneous. But my wife and I often have been. Go figure - it’s all in the physiology, I think.

My wife and i simultaneously orgasm near 100% of the time. We are both extremely aroused by the other’s orgasm, and one of us reaching climax usually sets the other off immediately. Usually she likes to finish riding me, and I’ll tell her when I’m getting close. Then she can feel me swell and pulsate inside of her which causes her to clamp down and orgasm. It’s a double edged sword though as it’s a rare occasion that I’m able to outlast her cumming on my cock!

We used to make it happen more often when we were younger 🔥🔥🔥. The trick is patience, communication and knowing each other‘s rhythms. I’d usually be slower to get up to speed; he had to be patient with me. Looking back on 42 years, we got pretty good at climbing the mountain and reaching the summit together. Those summits together are fewer today, but we try – and our love for each other in no way has diminished. ❤️

I’d usually be slower to get up to speed; he had to be patient with me.

@Vicki_V I usually compare us to a crock pot and a microwave.

I am very surprised to see such comments from female members !

It is certainly not the norm in my experience but what an amazing experience it is when it does happen.

Don't think that I've ever had an orgasm without sexual stimulation, a vibrator or magic fingers on my clit will give me e an orgasm and make me cum. Truthfully, I am unsure that sex alone has ever done that for me, although I love sex and think it feels amazing. I think that I need the clitoral stimulation to get those uncontrollable spasms in my clit.

I usually compare us to a crock pot and a microwave

I like that comparison a lot.

I would definitely categorize myself as a crockpot. On low. And the power is flickering, LOL.

@Kristin92 - your imagination has failed you, my dudette. They most definitely happen, if not for you. There are some things you really cannot fake, like an intense orgasm.

@MDausmic

This deserves another posting of...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8grqBsRnYc

The actress ordering "I'll have what she's having," at the end is the director Rob Reiner's mother. Carl Reiner's wife.

@user264 - a nifty piece of acting - brava! Meg Ryan - but obviously not an actual orgasm, of course! It certainly wouldn’t be convincing in bed.

I think that’s one of those social myths that psychologists and others have created. People’s brains are not always wired the same. When it comes to sex, everyone wants to satisfy their desires, and hopefully their partner’s too. Doing things slowly and gently, has usually worked for me. My goal is to have a happy moment, not to hit a goal.

@Kristin92 - ah, I see the problem. 100% of the time? Who’s claiming *that*? The most I’ll claim is that it isn’t uncommon. And it’s lovely either way. ☺️

@Kristin92 - I guess I’m sorry that’s not been your experience? Every person is different, and excellent sex doesn’t require simultaneous completion in any way, but it’s the norm for us. Experience with your partner and a powerful hitachi magic wand go a long ways.

Very rarely for me. I aim for coming after she does, meaning I try not to get too excited/sensitive before that.

@Kristin92 I deflate soon after coming, but she doesn't mind getting fucked for a while after her orgasm. Kinda logical to do it this way! Your partners don't do that?

It helps that I'm in general naturally slow to come.

My lovely and I are able to time our climax on a regular basis! It is an amazing feeling and experience!

My experience was not mentioned, and you questioning it in an inaccurate and condescending way did not make you look attractive. Congratulations on your norm. Instead of only patting yourself on the back, may I suggest using the old fashioned way below too? My best sexual experiences haven’t required batteries.

@Kristin92

Pot calling the kettle black? The only condescending comments here are yours. This is the first time I have not felt welcome here so thanks for being the one to do that.

The arguing should stop now. Thank you.