How to find a MedFet partner?

What's the best way to find a MedFet partner?

Look at their interests on their wall and if you have some in common, then just start a conversation and see where it goes.

Your first logical (and arguably easiest) step would be to start interacting in the forum by writing and replying to posts @FeistyFox. You'll meet people, see if you mesh well with some of them, filter those with whom you don't have common interests, etc. Looking into your local BDSM scene might be a good idea too. Also, fill out your profile with your own list of interests, a short introduction, etc.

Thank you, that's all super helpful! 💋

You definitely came to the right place to look

It is not easy finding someone who will do medfet with you. I have been on here for a long time and still having trouble finding a female to chat, adventure, roleplay, etc.

Id say you have to find a partner 1st then slowly introduce them to your interests.

Its usually easier for women to find a partner rather than the other way round.

One of the challenges I see is that there’s a few statistical realities that combine to work against us!

First, because it’s a bit of an edge-fetish, people aren’t as open about it as they might with, say, spanking or other more mainstream BDSM activities. Second, there just aren’t as many of us out there. And then third, those of us that *ARE* out there are still often a bit shy - and when we do decide to be more proactive, it’s less common. For example, I’ve posted 1-2 ads here, but they post and then hey age, and then I don’t really have anything “posted” anymore. And re-posting every 2-8 weeks just to keep it current feels a bit … desperate? Obsessive? Somewhere in between?

I’ve had more success finding virtual partners as a result of my medfet writings in a couple communities, but then the ones I “click with” most tend to be on different continents. 😭

Of course, @FeistyFox , Minnesota isn’t all *that* far from Chicago, so another approach is to look for curious posters on Zity and then make an indirect reference on threads they’ve started to see if you get their attention…no idea how well that works though. Ask me in a month or so…

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—TYD

@FeistyFox Do you mean just online or real world?

I lurked around Zity for a while before I started engaging with people. Eventually I found some people who I shared interests with. A few, VERY strong connections. It's been very fun chatting with them, and role-playing too, beyond what I've ever done IRL. But I have yet to physically meet up with anyone. I think about it though.

Go to fet based events and get to know others.

Sometimes the biggest problem is where your located / live. Here in the UK as its considered a niche kink where there arent that many people into medfet. Or they arent willing to travel to meet others.

Has anyone had luck meeting IRL people from Fetlife ?

Not sure if we met on FL or zity (she’s on both), but we did meet up with a lovely young lady a few years back and through some odd turn of events, she ended up living with us for many years as a member of our leather family.

She has since gone on to get married and move away, but she still teaches kink and lists us as mentors/teachers. Most likely a life-long friend and someone that’s been there for me many times when she could assist, and solicited my help when she needed that daddy advice. Just chatted with her recently and offered support.

Life is short- seek out similar minded people and enjoy their company as you never know if there are kindred souls out there looking for a symbiotic partnership until you reach out and meet up IRL. Be safe, discrete, and thorough before meeting up, but don’t miss out either because of fear or shame.

I was lucky enough to find a medfet, but it didn't last long, after two years living here in Brazil he ended up leaving for his home country Portugal.