Clenching during a rectal exam

Have you ever clenched during a rectal exam and had to be told to relax? Have you maybe moved your bottom away or closed your legs? What did the doctor do? Has a doctor ever Had to talk you into the exam? How do they calm (or not) your anxiety?

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I do not remember clenching. I have jumped a few times when my hemorrhoids have been acting up. She stops and asks if it is hurting me I say "yes" and she says" Your hemorrhoids are inflamed, relax it will be over soon" and keeps going. Not exactly comforting, but at least she asked and allowed me to participate in my exam. I might clench when I jump.

I'm always more or less tense during a rectal examination. I'm not the type of woman who can relax during such an examination. But I'm better at it now than when I was a young girl. I was examined rectally several times in Germany as a virgin, and I can remember trying to avoid the finger with my bottom more than once. I was warned several times to relax because my tenseness made the examination more difficult and caused myself pain. Unfortunately, the warnings didn't help much.

I suspect at my first pelvic exam having a digital exam of my rectum was instructed to bare down and relax but I don't recall ever having to be told to relax physically during the exam and now when I sense the digital approaching I'm already to receive.

I don’t recall ever being told to bare down during a Digital Rectal Exam. It was something my siblings and I always liked because it felt good, even at a young age. As we got older, it got even better, especially when mom or grandma moved their finger around for a few seconds. And that was a direct cause of me getting a hard-on when mom or grandma did that during a Digital Rectal Exam for lubrication before an enema. And it really did a number on us as kids, especially our sister, making her giggle.

The first time my doctor had to do that check I was not the most cooperative patient.

I was in my side. My knees were pulled up. I still hadn’t quite grasped what was happening.

“You are going to feel my finger in your bottom”

Oh so that’s what’s going on here? WTF?

“It may be uncomfy but it shouldn’t hurt. It’s just going to feel like you are using the restroom”

I felt her finger. I was mad. I tried to squirm away. I contemplated making a run for it even though I was pretty much naked. I may have tried to kick her. I dunno. It was shocking.

“Mandy you are going to have to relax. I know this isn’t comfortable. But I need to check”

The nurse chimed in “no one likes this part”

With her free hand she held my thigh and went back in again. This time I held my position and just sobbed.

“Can you bare down for me?”

“What?”

“Like you are using the bathroom”

I remember clinching hard before doing it. I sobbed. It was fucking terrible.

The whole thing may have taken ten seconds. And it still stands out as my favorite memory. It was so tramatic. I was mad at the world. Strange how the mind works.

@Amanda_O how old were you for this exam? Seems like they treated you like a little kid.

@Amanda_O how old were you for this exam? Seems like they treated you like a little kid.

I was in high school. I don’t really remember how old.

Yes, I clench. When I had my first rectal and rectovaginal the doctor slid his finger inn slowley during the rectovaginal, but I felt my anus reacted with small clenching I could not help it. At the rectal he plunged in somehow hardt and fast, and I clenched hardt a few times. Slightly casping. I notised he said god pfinkter tonus. I think I clenched a bit when he rotated the finger to.

I had a similar exam just a few weeks ago, same doctor, and I still clenched.

Clench? OMG. I was in my mid 20s and never been so anxious. Scared to death actually. I was lying on a table in a hospital radiology lab. They were going to give me a barium enema when a very kind nurse said she needed to do “a quick rectal exam” before they could start the enema.

The nurse helped me turn onto my side and I could feel myself down there clenching my cheeks together. She started me on deep breathing, which seemed to relax me a little until I suddenly felt a very slippery finger sliding into my behind, like being given a suppository. I must have moaned when she did it, because she kept repeating, “You’re going to be OK, all done.”

That experience took all of a few seconds, but it seem longer, and I still remember it after nearly 40 years.

I remember that during my first gynecological exam I was very nervous. The speculum and the rectal exam bothered me, so much so that the doctor told me several times to relax, even though I couldn't.

from the second exam everything went better.

My first time i clenched up so bad the doctor told me to relax, take a few breaths and she tried again...