Queer Women Who Enjoy Enemas: Have you managed to find any luck with finding an enemate?

I have already posted about this topic in other discussion threads but I wanted to make an official thread to give those who wish to participate an opportunity to respond.

I feel as though it's been difficult to find other women who enjoy enemas, especially other lesbian, bi or pan women. I can kind of understand because enemas have become more of a 'niche' kink but it doesn't make the journey any less disheartening. Perhaps I'm doing something wrong. So I'm posing a question: Queer women who enjoy enemas, how have you found luck in the kink world? Have you felt safe confiding in your partners about your enema kink? Have they been accommodating or have they shamed you for it?

I had a girlfriend who was into them but due to circumstances she only ended up giving me a few. I wish I'd been less shy about it but 🤷‍♀️

It was very unknown to me before joining Zity. A lot of people here seem to be regular enema users, whether solo or with a partner, some for medical benefits, some for sexual enjoyment. So, it's not something I've brought up with any of my partners IRL. But I've engaged a little bit in virtual play. I think I need someone I trust who can step me through it over time. Still not sure I want to actually do it.

Not IRL, just in online play 😢 I've self-administered plenty, but have not had the pleasure or luck of finding a woman to engage in this with IRL

I've talked with my partner about it, but although we share other kinks it wasn't one they were interested in exploring, either giving or receiving. They didn't shame me about it though - our relationship is pretty kink-positive so it was very much an "oh, cool, but that's not something I'm interested in trying"

I only had one when I was nine. But years later I met a girl online and we talked for two years. She told me that she likes butt sex. I was like whatever floats your boat but I don't. Then she drove two states over to meet me. She was so pretty and looked exactly like her photos. We had exchanged photos during the two years. She called me and I thought at first she was messing with me. Then I asked where she was calling from and she told me even mispronouncing the name of the street and told me what was around her so I knew she was not messing with me. So I told her I would be there in 45 minutes. That is how long it takes. I live in the foothills. When I pulled up I was instantly wet. I sear and then with the hugs and kisses. It was magic. Our school was still in session so I eft her home when I went to work. Then we started having sex. Lots of sex. Sorry guys but women can keep going for ages. Lol Then after sex one night we were talking and she asked me why I always pushed her hand and fingers away from my ass during sex. I said because it is dirty. I said I would hate for you to take your finger out and it be messy. Then she looked into my eyes and asked if I ever felt anything in her. I said no. She told me that was because she does enemas. I cringed at the thought. The only one I had was bad. I didn't mind the lubed finger or the finger going in me. I didn't mind the nozzle or even the first gust of water. But when the cramps hit I was gone. That is what ran across my mind. She told me that while I was at work she would do enemas. Then she taled me into giving enemas to her. I have to admit it was hot and I got soaked. I would be filling her and she would be licking me and fingering me. A lot of orgasms. Finally, after weeks I got brave enough to try. The first time I only got like 1/4 bag in. I did that for a few weeks. Then I graduated to 1/2 a bag and the 3/4 of a bag. All this time she would be licking me and fingering me. I would always watch the bag. There were no major orgasms like I had seen her have. I was disappointed to say the least. Finally one day she was giving me an enema and it was 3/4 empty. I closed my eyes and did not tell her to stop. I was determined to take the whole bag. All of a sudden I heard that sucking sound when the bag is empty and I had a major orgasm. I was even loud. I was shocked that I took the whole bag and only lost a little. I was scared it was going to gush out into her mouth while she was giving me the enema and licking me. I think that was one of the reasons for not taking a whole bag. But it didn't only a tiny squirt. We stayed together two more years until she had to go back to the state she was from. Her ex-husband got a lawyer and went to court. The order stated she and her kids must return or surrender the kids. I would have gone with her except I had just bought this home. But yes she was the best. Now she has a new girlfriend and I believe they are married. It was craz when I think of all the things we did. Yes some would be gross to others like changing each other's tampons etc. I was there for the birth of hse second child shortly after she got here. If she did not have kids we would probably be married. At the time I didn't think it was possible for two women to get married. But she loved her enemas.

I basically gave my first girlfriend an enema fetish, she needed one for medical reasons and I gave her a few until we had the desired effect, which apparently also had her orgasm.

We continued to do enemas as part of our play until the relationship ended for unrelated reasons.