Prostate Exam proposition

So basically my wife wants to make a deal with me in which I agree to allow a nurse friend of hers who is doing a prostate study to examine my prostate and carry out an external and internal ultrasound scan of my prostate and a manual exam of it also.

In return my wife has agreed to do a couple of things. Firstly she’s agreed to take part in a cervical smear study with the same friend and has said that as I’ve always been curious about her exams but never allowed to go in with her she will let me come in and observe while she’s having this one done. She’s also agreed to do a nude glamour photo shoot for me which is also something I’ve always wished she’d do but she was never very keen on doing it.

So I’m kind of here to see what you folks think I should do and for any insight into what to expect if I do agree to do it. How painful or uncomfortable is it likely to be and how is it likely to “feel” for me while it’s being done ?

Hoo boy! How can I volunteer for a nurse to do that for me? A digital (finger is a 'tdigit) exam is not uncomfortable. Your anus dilates everyday to expel the feces and a finger is smaller. Same for an ultrasound probe which isn't much bigger than a finger. It does feel weird, but can feel good. Often my anus feels good a while after a big poo. Perhaps persons into rectal dilations and insertions could enlighten us more?

A positively enchanting opportunity for a very fulfilling and erotic experience. Now if the ladies would agree to performing the examination naked and perform the obligatory prostate massage that should accompany such an examination (all perfectly normal to excise the prostate) I believe you would have the ideal scenario. Just one guy's imagination.

Go for it! Sounds like a fantasy come true. 😀😀😀

If your wife’s friend is a nurse who will be performing this procedure on you; I would think, she is or should be under the direction of a medical entity involved in such a medical study regardless of what it is. You should have appropriate documentation for this in which you are covered medically if anything goes wrong and be monetarily compensated for your voluntary participation in addition to the offers your wife made if you let this prostate exam be done on you.

The same should apply for the exam your wife will receive.

These exams for you and your wife will be conducted at home or in a medical setting?

I have experience from a few studies I was involved in, ergo my comments.

I think I should be so lucky to be given this choice. Which I wouldn't hesitate taking.

I understand, especially from some of your comments that for many of you, this would be a dream come true but to be honest I’m quite apprehensive about it all as I have no experience of anything as invasive as this in such an intimate area and that makes me quite nervous about how I might actually feel during the experience especially if it will be being done while my wife is still there.

It’s all above board overrainbow and both my wife’s exam and mine will be conducted in a proper medical facility. There will be a token payment but it’s more that my wife is keen for me to do it as her friend is struggling to get enough volunteers.

There is also an optional part at the end of the scan which would involve electrodes on the probe being used to stimulate my prostate to obtain a sample. I’m not really sure how “optional” this would end up actually being on the day knowing how my wife can be, especially if she’s still there in the room with me when my scan is complete !

@JamesUK The electrodes on the probe used to obtain a sample is most certainly not optional. That would be the grand finale. Your wife should insist on this.

@Hookajoe My wife certainly told me that the nurse had said that this “sample” being taken using these electrodes was an optional part after the the rest of the scan was completed. Why do you think my wife should insist on me having this done ?

@Hookajoe My wife certainly told me that the nurse had said that this “sample” being taken using these electrodes was an optional part after the the rest of the scan was completed. Why do you think my wife should insist on me having this done ?

Because it feels GREAT!

I think the idea of this “optional” electro stimulation is the part I’m the most nervous and reluctant about in truth so I’d say I’m probably not keen on having that part done as it’s optional. I’m nervous enough about having the probe inserted up there at all without also having to endure being given electric shocks while it’s up there too, which must hurt or a least be pretty uncomfortable, but my wife is extremely keen for me to agree to at least have the scan done and I’m sure will also be very keen for me to have that done also and try very hard to persuade me to have it done especially once her and her friend have me kind of captive up in the chair. The idea of being basically given electric shocks on a sensitive area up inside my ass kind of terrifies me if I’m honest !

Where do I sign up!! No questions asked!!

@JamesUK what are you waiting for?!?! You are a lucky guy. Go for it!

@Needlemd @Rigel @Agracier @Stump @FunGuy

I appreciate all your comments. Trust me, at this point I would be more than happy for any of you to take my place in that chair to have this done ! I’ve never had anything remotely like this done to me before and certainly never in front of my wife, so I’m sure you can understand why I’m so nervous about having it done, and how it’s likely to actually feel while I’m lay there in the chair having all that done to me.

Would gladly take your place. Just tell me where and when. Also have experience with the electro prostate stimulation you refer to. It is a wonderful experience with no pain or real discomfort.

@needleMD So what does it actually feel like while your having it done ? Can you describe how it feels ?

so I’m sure you can understand why I’m so nervous about having it done, and how it’s likely to actually feel while I’m lay there in the chair having all that done to me.

Of course you are nervous and most of us would be as well. But also consider that all of the proposed procedures are not unusual medical procedures. They are all more or less routine and can be carried out without much discomfort, if any.

I know from experience (in a play exam) that electrical stimulation was nothing special, nothing to fear in the way of pain, for me at least. The idea of electrical stimulation might be more intimidating that the actual thing.

And don't forget you are getting double in exchange. Not only viewing your wife being examined, but also doing a photo-shoot for you. A pretty good deal.

And also consider this would be done for fun, not for payment. That puts a different perspective on the experience.

@JamesUK It is so interesting, all the things you are nervous about are the same things that pique others interest. The sexual anatomy being worked on. The exposure of the position you will be required to assume. Having another woman penetrate your private butthole. Being the submissive subject and having to take whatever she dishes out. Having your wife watch, and knowing that your wife is enjoying you going through the procedure. The sub side of me really likes all of this.

A couple things to remember:

1) Your wife is very interested in you going through this. She wants to watch it happen, and wants to watch you endure it. Either now planning it, or on the day of, experiencing it, one way or another this is turning her on.

2) She wants to make this trade with you. You endure something that makes her happy, then she will endure something that makes you happy. You are both putting in work to make each other happy in erotic and sensual ways. That is a wonderful thing.

3) Being the vulnerable and submissive person in the room does bring some power. Once you are in the exam room you don’t have to make any descisions. They will do all the work. You are donating your time. They are very grateful for your contribution. Your willingness is admired and valued. They want you there, and they want to do those things.

Ask your wife what she thinks you should wear to the appointment. Let her choose your outfit, head to toe. Ask her if she thinks you should do any special grooming before the event. Ask her to help you with the grooming. Practice getting into the positions you will have to assume with your wife helping. Have her play the roll of the technician and get used to the arrangement.

Ask her what you should do if you are nervous. Close your eyes? Cover your face with your hands? Look at the ceiling? Look at your wife?

Ask her if she would hold you hand during the procedure. Being able to squeeze each other’s hand during it all will strengthen your connection to your wife. She wants to feel your responses to what you are experiencing.

Tell her you are worried about getting an erection during the process. Ask her if it’s OK if that happens. Ask her how she thinks the technician will feel if you get hard.

Sometimes the nervousness and anxiety of doing something new is not so much about the actual activity, but the learning and admitting that some of your own curiosity is being fulfilled. Admitting to yourself that you may end up enjoying some aspect of it all that you never thought was your cup of tea.

While electrodes can be used turned up high to effect pain, this is not a pain test. They want to stimulate the prostate in a way that produces contractions and emits sample fluids. This is not a pain study.

It would be great to hear from any wives who would enjoy watching their husbands go though such an appointment. What are other feelings that partners would have that are positive about this type of situation? You get this opportunity to fulfill her curiosity, her desires, and act a roll in a scenario being imagined by her. This is rare special chance to be cast in her imaginative story.

I hope you will go though with it, both your side and her side. We all look forward to detailed reports afterwards.

Cheers.

Neither the manual internal or ultrasound exams are uncomfortable. It may feel a bit wierd having something up your butt if this is the first time you’ve experience anal penetration. The ultrasound transducer is about the size of your finger. Typically, they will lube your anus {pleasurable) before inserting a well lubed finger or transducer. You can feel some internal pressure on your prostate similar to a mild massage. It’s not painful. There’s no sound, heat, thumping with the ultrasound, just mild pressure which to most is rather pleasing.

If you want, lube up your finger, or better yet your wife’s finger, and massage and lube your anus then insert the finger to the knuckle and keep it there for a minute. Wiggle it a bit to get the sensation. Don’t be a wuss, seems the embarrassment is what you fear the most, either get over it or simply cop out.

@Hookajoe In truth I’d never even considered that my wife might have asked me to do this because she actually wanted to watch me having it done. I’d assumed from what she said that it was just to help her friend the nurse out as she was struggling to find enough male volunteers for her study. Your comment has really made me wonder now what Jane’s actual motives are and if maybe her being suddenly willing to “trade” is maybe driven by more than just wanting to help her friend out by having me volunteer.

@JamesUK I suspect your wife’s intentions are more than “just wanting to help her friend out!” This may be an opening for her to explore a medical fetish and introduce you to it, given she wants to watch and be watched. Ask her why she wants to be there for your exam as well as hers.

@Rigel Yes this would be the first time I’ve actually had anything inserted up there and I’ll gladly admit I’m nervous about having it done but also nervous about feeling really embarrassed while I’m laid there having it done but I also have to admit I’m incredibly curious about it as well, especially after having read what everyone has said on here. I’ve always been curious about exactly what goes on during Jane’s exams and always wanted to get the chance to see. It just kind of feels different knowing I’m going to also be the one in the chair this time. I’m extremely tempted to just take the plunge and tell Jane I’ll do it and at least give it a try and see what it’s actually like, especially if as many have said it could actually be quite pleasurable!

One more thought: Not everyone enjoys anal stimulation or penetration. If you don’t, that’s ok. You joined a kink site so something(s) here piqued your interest. You risk nothing to find out if this is a new kink you could share with your wife.

@Rigel I’ve always as I say been really curious about women’s exams and a bit turned on by the thought of my wife having her pussy probed by a stranger. It just kind of feels like a different proposition when it’s also me that will be up in the chair being probed ! lol

@JamesUK I too would enjoy seeing my wife probed by a stranger. I believe this feeling is more common that most people think, and it likely goes both ways. It is partly wanting to see the procedure carried out and observe those details. But also wanting to see her and her body in the hands of someone else, under their control. Her consenting and giving up access to her body, and both of us watch the stranger do things to her. Very hot.

After two major genital surgeries and being 75 years old, I have no concern for modesty what so ever. That's all water under the bridge. Just get over it, the medical people have seen it all, thers nothing new. As far as your wife, what's the difference, wait to you have surgery and she has to change dressings and other procedures three times a day. Life goes on, you play the hand your delt. In your case, you have 4 aces and a queen!

@Stump 4 Aces and a queen ?

Reco do it and having your wife friend do you P spot may be more exciting than you can guess, watching the wife is ok but say sharing is caring

@isitfull I think having something like this done in front of my wife would certainly be a very different experience to anything I’ve experienced before! I’ve always been very curious to actually see what happens when the wife goes for her gyn exam so I’d be really excited to finally witness that.

Sounds like fantasy to me. Do nurses really engage in "studies" in the UK health system? I would think that would be initiated by a doctor or panel of doctors.

And what are the odds that the same nurse has the time and resources to engage in both a prostate study and a cervical smear study? She must be quite busy and good at her job to be running two different medical research studies at the same time!

That being said, if you do have an opportunity for some prostate stimulation in the stirrups, you should take advantage of the offer. 😉