Ladies - Strict spanking is best?

Females,

Have you ever been disappointed in a spanking?

I've chatted to many females who having gone through all the effort of finding a new spanker have been rather disappointed in then when they don't spank properly.

For me a spanking isn't a spanking unless it's strict and real. Nothing silly and always respectful but when I spank I do just that.

Many females have said that they felt quite let down when he didn't spank them hard enough. It goes without saying that if they have to ask him to spank harder or 'do it properly' then it doesn't work.

In my somewhat limited experience, a lot of male spankers fear hurting their spankee more than she (or he) wants. That can definitely end the evening and perhaps the relationship, so it's reasonable to go easier than he might.

The person being spanked asking for more or harder is just fine. The spanker is not a mind reader. (And if he is, that's a keeper!)

Spank-that-ass, you are 100% correct! My husband needs more than just a few love taps to keep him in line!

For serious offences, he gets 60 with the hairbrush at our winter home in SW Florida. back in NJ, he gets 21 with the razor strop, or 30 for repeat offences.

Yes I have been disappointed in a spanking given by a man last year. Didn’t give me any hope for any future spankings

Well yes early on in marriage and yes in courtship prior to marriage, my husband was tenatitive about giving me a good hard spanking that really lights up my bottom. But he has learned the "ropes" so tp speak in how to properly spank a naughty wife for "misdeeds" and for whatever so called "excuse" he can come up with. The lecture before going over his knee, the ritual of baring my bottom, further lecture and then starting the spanking out softly but steadily ramping it up to where it really stings...a LOT!! But afterwards, the most pleasureable private moments together with a woman that has a hot and very red bottom!! oh la la. Denise

It has been very difficult for me to find a male who can give a good spanking. Why is that. Do we have any real men out here that can do it

For serious offences, he gets 60 with the hairbrush at our winter home in SW Florida. back in NJ, he gets 21 with the razor strop, or 30 for repeat offences.

Don't they all? LOL! Or should that be we all?

I've almost always been disappointed with the spankings I've received. Sometimes not hard enough. Sometimes not warmed up enough. Sometimes not the right headspace. Sometimes not the right dialogue.

I'm starting to think it's just me because it's hard for me to find videos that match my preferences as well.