Ladies - Strict spanking is best?

Females,

Have you ever been disappointed in a spanking?

I've chatted to many females who having gone through all the effort of finding a new spanker have been rather disappointed in then when they don't spank properly.

For me a spanking isn't a spanking unless it's strict and real. Nothing silly and always respectful but when I spank I do just that.

Many females have said that they felt quite let down when he didn't spank them hard enough. It goes without saying that if they have to ask him to spank harder or 'do it properly' then it doesn't work.

A very real spanking has to be given in a special manner !! - strict, only bare bottom !! - so that the mission will be delivered !! - other spankings will never reach the effect, for what they are !!

A spanking is as "real" and as satisfying as all parties involved want it to be. if everyone genuiely wants to participate in a spanking then good communication is necessary and theres no reason why all parties shouldnt be content with the outcome

In my somewhat limited experience, a lot of male spankers fear hurting their spankee more than she (or he) wants. That can definitely end the evening and perhaps the relationship, so it's reasonable to go easier than he might.

The person being spanked asking for more or harder is just fine. The spanker is not a mind reader. (And if he is, that's a keeper!)

Seems safe words should come into play to allow the intensity to increase to a level the spankee wants. Like @HarshPediatrician and @PinotNoir said, good communication on both ends is essential: set expectations and limits with feedback as appropriate. Also trust, that your partner will respect your limits or push you to them if that’s what you want - but stop when it’s too much - use the safe word!

I would think, in a " special partnership ", safewords aren't needed - when wellknown partner's started a " game " - and they trusted togehter !!

Be respectful in every minute - and think about, that you - as a giver -, maybe can be in the same position next time !!

So, don't overdraw - and let it be a special event for both of you !! - play safe and enjoy !!

I would think, in a " special partnership ", safewords aren't needed - when wellknown partner's started a " game " - and they trusted togehter !!

Be respectful in every minute - and think about, that you - as a giver -, maybe can be in the same position next time !!

So, don't overdraw - and let it be a special event for both of you !! - play safe and enjoy !!

I disagree with the first sentence (sort of). In a well established partnership, even the word “stop” or “hold off” is an implicit safe word your partner will respect. Don’t expect your partner to always read you correctly, even if well established. There always needs to be something to end or ease up a spanking, enema, eStim or what ever even with a special partner.

I disagree with the first sentence (sort of). In a well established partnership, even the word “stop” or “hold off” is an implicit safe word. There always needs to be something to end or ease up a spanking, enema, eStim or what ever even with a special partner.

Maybe the right opinion !! - but in a personal relashionship, where both of the partner's are a " dreamteam ", there must be " readable " many - or all sign's, that would be given for the dominant partner, to continue of stop all of it !!

But ok, i will agree, a special safeword can be necessary !!

I think that many female spankers have fewer inhibitions about how hard they spank and how long. I think very make up for the difference in strength between them and a male spanker by being more strict and far more severe.

For some reason, they all seem to have an innate talent for wielding, a hairbrush, or a wooden spoon or some other implement in a way that impart a sting out of proportion to their strength.

Spank-that-ass, you are 100% correct! My husband needs more than just a few love taps to keep him in line!

Spank-that-ass, you are 100% correct! My husband needs more than just a few love taps to keep him in line!

I am sure that you give him what he needs. He is a very lucky guy for that.

For serious offences, he gets 60 with the hairbrush at our winter home in SW Florida. back in NJ, he gets 21 with the razor strop, or 30 for repeat offences.

For serious offences, he gets 60 with the hairbrush at our winter home in SW Florida. back in NJ, he gets 21 with the razor strop, or 30 for repeat offences.

As i can see, you are a strict disciplinarien lady !! - very right, let your message come through !!